Family Forum / Parenting / Adoption / December 2007

We were shocked at how many bright, wise, loving---indeed even
"savvy"---parents did not know the single most important fact that
must be true if one is to prevail in a custody dispute. And this must
be the best kept secret in the world, because even extremely
intelligent, sophisticated professionals fail to make use of it.
Indeed, even attorneys, who themselves as parents are caught up in
custody disputes, frequently do not know how to make his single most
important factor work for them.
We identified fourteen "key behaviors" that differentiate between
parents who do well in custody disputes from those who do not. We
consider these behaviors to be strategically critical.
We have identified what we see as the single biggest mistake a parent
in a custody dispute can make. And the irony here is that our own
legal system actually encourages parents to make this huge mistake.
If you are a parent in a child custody dispute, you must learn to
recognize (and deal with) blatantly wrong and immoral strategies that
will likely be used against you. To add insult to injury, these
strategies can be effective. And in our experience, many attorneys
fail to help their clients deal with these tragically effective
strategies, because they are more psychological than legal strategies,
and attorneys are not often trained either to recognize or deal with
them.
Another exceedingly important point is that too many parents do not
fully understand all the important things their attorneys should be
doing for them. Simply put, many parents do not know what they should
ask for.
While on the topic of attorneys, we also discovered two important
strategies that will literally "force" an attorney to do a better job
for a client.
http://custodyord.blogspot.com/#