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Family Forum / Parenting / Adoption / February 2006What do you think of this scenario
Was talking with a young lady who takes care of one of my daughter's dance classmates on Saturdays while her parents work (both are doctors). Turns out this little girl is adopted - AND she spends the entire summer with her birthfamily - has done so since she was born. Apparently the bioparents are married (to each other) and this little girl has other siblings. Now, this kid is only 5 years old. Don't you think that's a little confusing? Her babysitter told me that this little girl refers to her bio mom as her "real" mom and has often said that she likes her to much more than her "other" mother. I don't know - This sounds like a rather strange situation. Ideas? Thoughts? Idle musings? ;)  SignatureRobyn Resident Witchypoo #1557 > Was talking with a young lady who takes care of one of my daughter's dance > classmates on Saturdays while her parents work (both are doctors). Turns [quoted text clipped - 12 lines] > Resident Witchypoo > #1557 I wan't going to respond, until I saw "Idle musings?" That being a specialty of mine: absent evidence that it's harming the child in some way, I see no reason why they shouldn't do as they see fit. Some children spend the summer at camp, at grandparents, or anywhere but with their parents. So, if everyone is comfortable with this situation, have at it. J. Ersatz dad. > Was talking with a young lady who takes care of one of my daughter's dance > classmates on Saturdays while her parents work (both are doctors). Turns [quoted text clipped - 12 lines] > Resident Witchypoo > #1557 I think it's weird. However, kids can acclimate to just about anything. I'd be really curious to find out how the adoptees relationship with her a-parents ends up. Really really curious. kj > Was talking with a young lady who takes care of one of my daughter's dance > classmates on Saturdays while her parents work (both are doctors). Turns [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] > I don't know - This sounds like a rather strange situation. Ideas? > Thoughts? Idle musings? ;) I am all for mutually beneficial relationships between birth and adoptive families. But I think it is bloody weird that the little girl refers to her birthmother as her "real" mother. I don't think that liking her birthmom "better" is weird: Children usually prefer their part-time parent to their full time parent. However, it does sound mighty peculiar to me. L. >> Was talking with a young lady who takes care of one of my daughter's >> dance [quoted text clipped - 20 lines] > part-time parent to their full time parent. However, it does sound > mighty peculiar to me. I agree. I personally get irritated when people say "Have you heard from your "real" mother lately"? Granted she is my biological mother, but she isn't the woman that raised me. SignatureRobyn Resident Witchypoo #1557 Does she get to take the Lexus home over the summer? Dad > Does she get to take the Lexus home over the summer? > > Dad Probably just the pony, poor dear. Tom >> Does she get to take the Lexus home over the summer? >> [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > > Tom Wait...I'm confused...who gave her the Lexus and who gave her the pony and when did they give them? > >> Does she get to take the Lexus home over the summer? > >> [quoted text clipped - 6 lines] > Wait...I'm confused...who gave her the Lexus and who gave her the pony and > when did they give them? I thought it was standard operating procedure--every adoptee receives a new Lexus and a pony on his or her fifth birthday from the adoptive parents as a formal "welcome" to the family. Granted, MY pony was flea-ridden and Lexus wasn't even a glint in some Toyota weasel's eye when I turned five, but . . . still . . . I don't begrudge newer adoptees their additional perqs. Tom > >> Does she get to take the Lexus home over the summer? > >> [quoted text clipped - 6 lines] > Wait...I'm confused...who gave her the Lexus and who gave her the pony and > when did they give them? Come now, Henry. A real adoptive parent would know both who provided them and that she'd never be allowed to take either. Her other family would eat the pony and strip the Lexus. J. > Does she get to take the Lexus home over the summer? LOL - Well, she is only 5 so I doubt it ;) SignatureRobyn Resident Witchypoo #1557 |
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