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Family Forum / Parenting / Adoption / July 2007Maine - More on Sen. Benoit and obc
Here's a very good and long article from the Portland Press-Hearld on Sen. Paula Benoit, her reunion and obc access. Note the 3rd snarky comment. http://pressherald.mainetoday.com:80/story.php?id=122300&ac=PHnws Marley Excellent article. But where are the comments? They don't come up for me. > Excellent article. > But where are the comments? They don't come up for me. At the bottom of the first page there's small type at the bottom tht says Read x Comments" There are more snarky cmments now about brave bmothers broken promises, etc. from people lwho have no idea what they are talking about. Marley On Jul 22, 11:57 am, "Marley Greiner" <maddogmar...@worldnet.att.net> wrote: > <kippaherr...@hotmail.com> wrote in message > [quoted text clipped - 9 lines] > > Marley Couldn't see them there. But I found them here: http://pressherald.mainetoday.com/story.php?id=122300&ac=PHnws What a load of same-old bull. And this one takes the cake, " Paula your job is to work for your voters, not run for office on some personal agenda that once again, will cost the taxpayers in this state more money." Oh my. Consider her chastised. On Jul 22, 8:18?am, kippaherr...@hotmail.com wrote: > On Jul 22, 11:57 am, "Marley Greiner" <maddogmar...@worldnet.att.net> > wrote: [quoted text clipped - 18 lines] > personal agenda that once again, will cost the taxpayers in this state > more money." Oh my. Consider her chastised. I am going to go ahead and copy and paste all the comments. What a hoot! Reader comments Don Turner of Brunswick, ME Jul 22, 2007 11:05 AM I adopted a set of twins and was told by ther judge that my wife and I could choose to reveal to the boys anything about their biological father but no one else. One did chose at a later time to communicate with his biological father and it turned out miserable. This shows how a State can change things for the worst if someone special gets a chance to change promises made years before. It may have turned out good for this Senator but there has been shows on TV showing how it can be unhappy. Maine should leave things the way they were. At least, these adoptees were not aborted like another group of people believe in. Logic101 of Yarmouth, ME Jul 22, 2007 10:34 AM The privacy of the mother should be protected if she CHOOSES that option. While all of us feel a great deal of compassion for adoptees who seek to know their history, they should recognize and appreciate that this is a SMALL PRICE to pay for life. Understanding that their mother made the ultimate, selfless sacrifice should be recognized. Mother's should be given the CHOICE of whether they want to be contacted. If they change their minds down the road, there should be a system to notifify the child. I'm happy it turned out well for Webster but what's the impact for mother's making this decision today? The woman's choice shouldn't be ignored when she chooses life over death. Medical histories should be provided at the time of birth to allieviaate any problems in that area. judith corbin smith of portland, ME Jul 22, 2007 9:21 AM I am so glad of this new law re: open records birth certificate. I find my self in a sort of limbo. I cannot find a record of my child's birth ~ October 8th 1958 & have been told no such record exists. The doctor & my mother have both passed on and were the only witnesses to the birth. I'm afraid there may have been a 'black market baby deal' with no record of a legal birth cerificate. I was only 16 and very sad & obediently signed what ever papers they put before me. I would love to find my child. Maybe she would like to find me? Alas, I may never know. xmen of freeport, ME Jul 22, 2007 7:25 AM My thoughts exactly. Paula your job is to work for your voters, not run for office on some personal agenda that once again, will cost the taxpayers in this state more money. <snip> Kathy > I am going to go ahead and copy and paste all the comments. What a > hoot! Good idea :-) Why didn't I think of it? Duh. > xmen of freeport, ME > Jul 22, 2007 7:25 AM > My thoughts exactly. Paula your job is to work for your voters, not > run for office on some personal agenda that once again, will cost the > taxpayers in this state more money. f.ck off, you stupid ignorant bitch (Not you, Kathy!) > > I am going to go ahead and copy and paste all the comments. What a > > hoot! [quoted text clipped - 9 lines] > > f.ck off, you stupid ignorant bitch (Not you, Kathy!) I guess adoptees of Maine aren't voters according to xmen. Kathy 1 Kathy 1 On Jul 22, 10:30?am, kippaherr...@hotmail.com wrote: > > I am going to go ahead and copy and paste all the comments. What a > > hoot! [quoted text clipped - 9 lines] > > f.ck off, you stupid ignorant bitch (Not you, Kathy!) That's ok..lol, I've been called worse things F-uckin' LOL Kathy > On Jul 22, 8:18?am, kippaherr...@hotmail.com wrote: > > On Jul 22, 11:57 am, "Marley Greiner" <maddogmar...@worldnet.att.net> [quoted text clipped - 37 lines] > these adoptees were not aborted like another group of people believe > in. Oh gag! Why is it only adoptees are singled out for this oh so special sentiment? I guess every f.cking person on earth should just shut the f.ck up about every single injustice because every single one of us could have been aborted if our parents chose that route. > Logic101 What a misnomer that is! His/Her 'arguments' are devoid of 'logic' of Yarmouth, ME > Jul 22, 2007 10:34 AM > The privacy of the mother should be protected if she CHOOSES that > option. Now how do we know she CHOOSES that option or that option is thrust upon her by the sealed records law? While all of us feel a great deal of compassion for adoptees > who seek to know their history, they should recognize and appreciate > that this is a SMALL PRICE to pay for life. Yep shut up and be grateful. Understanding that their > mother made the ultimate, selfless sacrifice should be recognized. Que the violins > Mother's should be given the CHOICE of whether they want to be > contacted. If they change their minds down the road, there should be a > system to notifify the child. Right and we all know how well run and inexpensive government beauracratic systems are. Here's a thought let people conduct their own business without government interference. I'm happy it turned out well for Webster > but what's the impact for mother's making this decision today? The > woman's choice shouldn't be ignored when she chooses life over death. I'm really sick of pro-choice people who feel the need to intertwine these issues. > Medical histories should be provided at the time of birth to > allieviaate any problems in that area. 'Cuz medical histories are stagnant and never changing. Once is all it takes. > judith corbin smith of portland, ME > Jul 22, 2007 9:21 AM [quoted text clipped - 17 lines] > > Kathy Here's a few more - Peter Jensen of 04106, ME Jul 22, 2007 7:24 AM Thank You Portland Press Herald for finally getting it right. Unfortunately it took a story from a Maine Senator in a wonderful unique situation to get a story out to the public that finally says it like it is for adoptess. OBC For ME had tried to generate interest to the news media on OBC for Maine but few articles were ever published and the ones that were had misinformation. Adoptees had no voice until Senator Benoit joined and took a commanding lead. Now adoptees have a voice in the Maine Legislature and because of Senator Benoit's own story it now interests the media. Those of us involved in the adoption community have heard and read countless stories of amazing coincidences of adoptees unknowingly meeting their siblings. There must be a reason for this to keep happening. It's unfortunate that US states continue to not change archaic adoption secrecy laws that benefit only the adopted parents. The birth mother and the adopted child have no say. Thank you so much Senator Benoit for your help in taking this small step for all adoptees. Peter Jensen Director ASCME www.ascme.net Adoption Search Consultants of Maine co-founder ACCESS 2006 www.obcforme.org Jeff Mu of Portland, ME Jul 22, 2007 7:20 AM If biological parents were promised they would not be contacted, that should not be violated - whether "legally valid" 50 years later or not. Whoever thinks throwing a lawsuit in yer bio's faces is a good way to start a new, loving relationship is quite mistaken. There will be bitterness and resentment of trust and broken state promises. Exchanging their hurt for yours is not the answer. On the other hand, it's not a black-and-white policy issue, either. There is plenty of middle ground here to build on. A third-party can be asked to ask them, even years later, if they changed their minds and are now willing to be contacted. Or if they are willing to have their identity revealed after they die. And DNA technology now makes it possible to look at hereditary issues without revealing names at any time. And so on. |
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