Family Forum / Parenting / Parenting / July 2004

He needs to get the process started now, before she moves out of state.
Once she moves, it makes it a lot harder to track them down.  A lot of
attorneys I've spoken with about this same issue don't even want to take the
case, unless you can afford an expensive retainer, blahblahblah.

Get an attorney now.

short

Note that mom has full custody but has never been required to take a
misandrist "parenting" class.  Note 2 that father only gets "visitation"
and not full father recognition despite taking the class.  The bigot on
the bench ought to be shot at dawn -- right after the ex.

IOW: mom can do whatever the hell she pleases, and to hell with dad.
The only way dad can get his family back is to dump the bitch in the
river, and they have rivers in Portland, OR, where a carcass will never
be found.

A lieyer would do no good while a misandrist bigot is on the bench.  The
river is cheaper and more effective.

The sooner the bitch hits the water the sooner he gets his kids back.

Don't mention it.  MEN have to fight our our families.

Bob

He wants to know where his kids are so he can proceed on getting
visitation established.  Current on Child support and alimony.
So, does he need to get a lawyer to now to go to court for finding out
where
they are moving?  Wait until he is established in Medford?  before or
after
taking parenting class?  Wait until she moves?  He is moving back to his
parents home to re-establish himself and his business, but right now
doesn't
have a place to see the kids, ie he is living in the back of his shop in
a
trailer until he moves.
Thanks for your advice, he is really concerned and wants to be a part of
his
son's lives.  They are both under 10.
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I agree with Short. He should get a lawyer now...he can't have her served
for any court in the future if he has no idea where she lives. Just
because he doesn't have visitation "establihshed" in an order doesn't mean
he doesn't have parental rights. Am I safe in assuming he gave the court
reason to order parenting classes before he can have visitation? Not that
that should affect his parental rights, just curious.

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"Mom" is not the judge. The judge tells "mom" what she has to do.
In some places the NCP has the option of getting an emergency injunction if a
parent is attempting to leave the vicinity. The injunction has the purpose of
keeping the kids in the jurisdiction until a judge can here the case.
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I agree with the other responses.

He should go to court now.

He can try to stop her from moving, though that nearly always fails.
But at the least she should be obligated to tell him where his
children are and how he can reach them.

    Don