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Family Forum / Parenting / Parenting / August 2007Can I recoup any costs from a paternity test
I just got back a negative result on a paternity test that I requested, do I have any rights? I'm in Pennsylvania. Here's the time line .. I have text messages and emails which verify all of this from the mother oct 06 - got a call that my ex was pregnant and me and someone else could be the dads.. I am most likely given the dates (I know not reliable) Dec- May 07 - many emails and txt's exchanged trying to prepare. She constantly notes how she hopes I am the father. I'm just trying to step and do what's right. She can't take a test since she is a high risk pregnancy. Promises me we can take the test once the baby is born. All plans are contingent on that. May 07 - She cuts off all contact. I make a few attempts to reach her, but am afraid of getting an order of protection or something like it. I back off and leave messages asking her to let me be at hospital when child is born June 07 - She finally responds and tells me the baby was born 10 days ago. A test was already complete and I am not the father. I ask her to fax me the report for my records 24 hours later- she writes me a long email telling me she lied and never took a test. She schedules a test immediately and I go and give DNA One week later - she has cut contact again and never gave DNA. I hire a lawyer.. July to august - 2 lawyers and finally a mediator is involved. They are ready to get a court order for the test based on the emails I have. The day before she is to be served she finally gives DNA. I pay $400 for half the test. There were also some angry calls from her father (she is 29) to me telling me to go away etc... I inform him he should get a lawyer.. Today - I got the test and its negative. I'm over $4000 in the hole for this and did it because she told me I was the most likely father. I have no issue with that, but once they cut me off I was forced to get an attorney and pay court costs for a test that I am told I was legally entitled to. Do I have any recourse at all? My current lawyer doesn't handle these kind of cases and says its not worth it, but he got paid already so I guess its not for him.. On Aug 27, 11:12 pm, anon0...@gmail.com wrote: > I just got back a negative result on a paternity test that I > requested, do I have any rights? I'm in Pennsylvania. [quoted text clipped - 43 lines] > kind of cases and says its not worth it, but he got paid already so I > guess its not for him.. You could try small claims court, but it's a long shot. If she said you are "most likely" the father of the child, then she can claim that it was a simple mistake and there was no intent to defraud you. Consider yourself lucky -- you are out only $4000 and underwent some emotional stress that you shouldn't have had to endure. But you successfully used the system to avoid becoming a victim of paternity fraud, and of paying 18+ years of child support for somebody else's child. Step up one more time and urge this woman to notify the real father that he has a child now who needs him. It's not really your job, but obviously this woman can't be depended on to do the right thing. Tell your future sons and all the men you know about your experience so they can protect themselves by demanding the test just like you did. On Aug 28, 12:16 pm, auto467...@hushmail.com wrote: > On Aug 27, 11:12 pm, anon0...@gmail.com wrote: > [quoted text clipped - 60 lines] > experience so they can protect themselves by demanding the test just > like you did. It's clear he hasn't got a prayer of winning a paternity fraud case, but that doesn't mean he can't get some of his money back in small claims court. The thing here is not so much the paternity test, but the cutting off of communication that led to the legal fees. He may indeed be able to get some of those legal fees back, especially having evidence that she led him to believe he was the father and then obstructed his ability to find out for certain. Whatever he spent from June 7 onwards ought to be fair game for a civil suit. <auto467016@hushmail.com> wrote in > Consider yourself lucky -- you are out only $4000 and underwent some > emotional stress that you shouldn't have had to endure. So this tramp gets laid by multiple partners and everyone has to scramble when the honorable woman becomes a mother with child. Reality check, sue the Slut for damages! > <auto467016@hushmail.com> wrote in > [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] > > Reality check, sue the Slut for damages! I definately would to teach her and other Hos a lesson. > > <auto467...@hushmail.com> wrote in > [quoted text clipped - 11 lines] > > - Show quoted text - Sue her! I think he did do the right thing...believe me, 4K is much better than some crazy woman naming you as the father and you finding out 10 years later...that would've cost you much more... But once again, SUE HER! By the way, write Glenn Sacks about your lovely story... I'm sure he'll love to hear it... "whatamess" <mudanzapr@yahoo.com> wrote in > Sue her! I think he did do the right thing...believe me, 4K is much > better than some > crazy woman naming you as the father and you finding out 10 years > later...that > would've cost you much more... Yes, but their has to be consequences for such reckless actions that some women cause by naming innocent men as the father of their bastard child. This practice needs to stop! > "whatamess" <mudanz...@yahoo.com> wrote in > [quoted text clipped - 7 lines] > women cause by naming innocent men as the father of their bastard child. > This practice needs to stop! No, I agree with you 100%...that's why I first said "SUE HER!!!"... Just telling him that he's a bit luckier cause had he waited like someone else stated, it would've been worse...but he should still SUE HER! Nasty women that make decent women look bad...makes me sick. > So this tramp gets laid by multiple partners and everyone has to scramble > when the honorable woman becomes a mother with child. > Reality check, sue the Slut for damages! Damages are not good enough! Take the baby and give it up for adoption in Chile, Australia, or Russia. Throw the bitch in jail for 100 years. >I just got back a negative result on a paternity test that I > requested, do I have any rights? I'm in Pennsylvania. Send your former gf the bill for it. If she doesn't pay sue her in small claims court. > Here's the time line .. I have text messages and emails which verify > all of this from the mother > > oct 06 - got a call that my ex was pregnant and me and someone else > could be the dads.. She's a Ho. I am most likely given the dates (I know not > reliable) > > Dec- May 07 - many emails and txt's exchanged trying to prepare. She > constantly notes how she hopes I am the father. You probably have more money lol I'm just trying to > step and do what's right. The right thing is to kick the Ho to the kerb. She can't take a test since she is a high > risk pregnancy. So she tells you haha Besides it's only a pinprick for blood haha Promises me we can take the test once the baby is > born. All plans are contingent on that. > [quoted text clipped - 12 lines] > One week later - she has cut contact again and never gave DNA. I hire > a lawyer.. She knows she a Ho and got knocked up by some poor bad boy. > July to august - 2 lawyers and finally a mediator is involved. They > are ready to get a court order for the test based on the emails I [quoted text clipped - 9 lines] > cut me off I was forced to get an attorney and pay court costs for a > test that I am told I was legally entitled to. You should have just ignored her at first. You can take the test within a certain time if she accusses you of being the father. > Do I have any recourse at all? My current lawyer doesn't handle these > kind of cases and says its not worth it, but he got paid already so I > guess its not for him.. But you should have done nothing and spent no money until it was necessary. Are you crazy? and have her show up 5 years later with a kid I don't know, haven't bonded with and is messed up how many ways? I'm not trying to preach, but I took a risk, didn't use protection and that's not the kids fault. I totally agree the system is crap but I wouldn't have someone else raise my kid, and I really thought it was mine. I got played though... > <anon0...@gmail.com> wrote in message > [quoted text clipped - 79 lines] > But you should have done nothing and spent no money until it was necessary. > Are you crazy? |
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