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Family Forum / Parenting / Parenting / November 2007How to be a good wife!
If people really want to hold onto a 1950's family model to base there child support laws on, we could always go back to those days: This was taken from a 50's home economics text book: How to be a good wife. HAVE DINNER READY. Plan ahead, even the night before to have a delicious meal on time. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed. PREPARE YOURSELF. Take 15 minutes to rest so that you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking. He has just been with a lot of work weary people. Be a little gay and little more interesting. His boring day may need a lift. CLEAR AWAY THE CLUTTER. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives, gathering up school books, toys, paper, etc. Then run a dust cloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order and it will give you a lift too. PREPARE THE CHILDREN. Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair, and if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part. MINIMIZE ALL NOISE. At the time of his arrival eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer, dishwasher, or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quite. Be happy to see him. Great him with a warm smile and be glad to see him. SOME DON'TS. Don't greet him with problems or complaints. Don't complain if he's late for dinner. Count this as minor compared with what he might have gone through that day. Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or suggest he lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soft soothing and pleasant voice. Allow him to relax and unwind. LISTEN TO HIM. You may have a dozen things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first. MAKE THE EVENING HIS. Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or to other places of entertainment. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his need to be home and relax. THE GOAL. Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit. No wonder Divorce was not the norm! LOLOLOL > If people really want to hold onto a 1950's family model to base there > child support laws on, we could always go back to those days: [quoted text clipped - 49 lines] > > No wonder Divorce was not the norm! LOLOLOL It was also probably much more doable when women stayed home and kept the house, and men were the breadwinners. I get home about 15 minutes before my husband on the days that the girls don't have after school appointments or activities. I'm sure I could get all that done in 15 minutes--sure I could. <chuckle> >> If people really want to hold onto a 1950's family model to base there >> child support laws on, we could always go back to those days: [quoted text clipped - 55 lines] > or activities. I'm sure I could get all that done in 15 minutes--sure I > could. <chuckle> Perhaps without realizing it you hit on the problem. In the 50's the average federal tax rate was 4-5%. The government recognized the feminist movement as a political opportunity to increase taxes and capitalize on women's desires to be viewed as equals. As taxes rose, women moved in large numbers into the workforce. The result was women needed to work just so their families could keep pace with enough disposable income to maintain the status quo after taxes. "Bob Whiteside" <robertg@teleport.com> wrote in > Perhaps without realizing it you hit on the problem. In the 50's the > average federal tax rate was 4-5%. The government recognized the feminist [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > just so their families could keep pace with enough disposable income to > maintain the status quo after taxes. More money, more government, more problems! The government is not the solution, they are the problem!!!!!!!!!!!!! They have us arguing about $230 a month from a deadbeat father while the government wastes $Trillions. What's wrong with this picture? I just have one question. This is 2007 right? ok just checking. First thing is there is dead beat moms out there too. But we never hear about them. I hate hearing about deadbeats fathers there is mothers out there too! I am a full time mom and a full time child care provider, husband drives truck for a living. Without my little extra income we would be living on the streets. These years you have to have both people working. I do clean the house when i can and he cooks dinner when he is home. Now a days it is 50/50 on work and housework. > "Bob Whiteside" <robertg@teleport.com> wrote in > [quoted text clipped - 14 lines] > > What's wrong with this picture? "Angel" <angelintheair04@sbcglobal.net> wrote in > I am a full time mom and a full time child care provider, husband drives > truck for a living. Without my little extra income we would be living on > the streets. These years you have to have both people working. And who do we have to thank for that? The government squanders more money than what we would know what to do with. If only they had taken all that money and invested in this country, you would all be far better off. Here we have regular people trying to scrape by, when the government is paying the BlackWater corporation $950 a day for each man on their security force. They had 600 men employed for Katrina for 6 months, You do the math! There are thousands more in Iraq! This is just one of thousands of examples! >> "Bob Whiteside" <robertg@teleport.com> wrote in >> [quoted text clipped - 14 lines] >> >> What's wrong with this picture? > If people really want to hold onto a 1950's family model to base there > child support laws on, we could always go back to those days: [quoted text clipped - 47 lines] > THE GOAL. Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your > husband can renew himself in body and spirit. == Obviously penned by the human male species. "Gini" <gini@verizon.com> wrote in >> THE GOAL. Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your >> husband can renew himself in body and spirit. > == > Obviously penned by the human male species. I remember too well growing up in the 60's that Dad always got home at 4 and we were to be ready for dinner at 4:30. Seems that strict environment worked a lot better than what we have today, no? > "Gini" <gini@verizon.com> wrote in > [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] > Seems that strict environment worked a lot better than what we have today, > no? These days, it is much more difficult to support a family on one income. (the only way the above is possible)  SignatureSarah Gray "Sarah Gray" <anisaerah@duhyahoo.com> wrote in >> Seems that strict environment worked a lot better than what we have >> today, no? > > These days, it is much more difficult to support a family on one income. > (the only way the above is possible) You can blame corporate greed and too much government self interest on that. Wages haven't increased the same rate of housing, yet nobody blinks an eye at this? Houses that used to be affordable at $45,000 to $80,000 are now selling for $450,000 to $800,000. $15/hr in a typical factory used to be a really great wage, are those same jobs paying $150/hr? Hell I remember the days when you got 12% in a savings account, what is it now, 2%! The banks take everything and give nothing back! > "Gini" <gini@verizon.com> wrote in > [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] > Seems that strict environment worked a lot better than what we have today, > no? Did your mom work outside the home? Mine didn't, and we had dinner ready at 4:30, so he could wash his hands and we would sit down to dinner. Of course, the television never went on until after dinner was eaten, the dishes were done, and homework was checked. >> "Gini" <gini@verizon.com> wrote in >> [quoted text clipped - 13 lines] > course, the television never went on until after dinner was eaten, the > dishes were done, and homework was checked. In my teens, Mom worked for 2 years in a paper mill, so they could buy a tent trailer. We never heard the end of that one! LOL SO what have all the government experts given us today after injecting themselves into the education system? The government has done a fine job at exporting manufacturing jobs and companies laying off workers to better their profit margins for investors. This is the same government that people think can solve their problems? The puppets may change, the system stays the same! Question is, who is running this puppet show? > If people really want to hold onto a 1950's family model to base there > child support laws on, we could always go back to those days: > > This was taken from a 50's home economics text book: No, it wasn't: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Good_wife's_guide >> If people really want to hold onto a 1950's family model to base there >> child support laws on, we could always go back to those days: [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > No, it wasn't: > http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Good_wife's_guide Maybe there should be one for all those stay at home moms that sit around and get fat all day. Yes, make the place a living hell to come home to! LOL > If people really want to hold onto a 1950's family model to base there child > support laws on, we could always go back to those days: [quoted text clipped - 47 lines] > > No wonder Divorce was not the norm! LOLOLOL Divorce wasn't the norm because we were once a socity with morals, and not because Betty Homemaker was a good wife, although I'm sure that had a little to do with it. Affairs were kept secret, and if found out about, were not put out in public. People went to church every Sunday, and parents had the authority to deal with thier children as they saw fit with out the government comming to thier home when Lilttle Johnny got a spanking. Most importantly, the family stayed together. They may have been unhappy, but they were together. Men were men, and took care of thier wife, the bills, and child(ren). Women were women and took care of house chores, cooking, children, and still looked picture perfect for hubby when he came home from work. Husbands spent time with the kids, and both parents raised the children, and the husband paid for *all* of his, the wife, and child(ren)'s expenses. If the child support amounts were based on a 1950's idea of family, the man would pay all expenses (housing, food, clothing, ect). Please don't give CSE any idea's! Next thing we know *child* support will be called Woman support, and men will be the one's to pay the price. <Leda.Ismeme@gmail.com> wrote in > If the child support amounts were based on a 1950's idea of family, > the man would pay all expenses (housing, food, clothing, ect). Please > don't give CSE any idea's! Next thing we know *child* support will be > called Woman support, and men will be the one's to pay the price. They pay mummy support now, what's the difference? |
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