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Family Forum / Marriage / Divorce / March 2008Mommy/Daddy or Your Mommy/Your Daddy?
Quick poll if you will... Which is more appropriate post divorce? "Kids give daddy a hug goodbye" vs. "Kids give your daddy a hug goodbye" To me it seems the first implies a non-intended sense of possession and does not seperate. What works in your sitch? I re-visited the post title and it looks like spam sorry - its ligit I promise. What are your thoughts? > Quick poll if you will... > [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] > To me it seems the first implies a non-intended sense of possession and > does not seperate. What works in your sitch? >I re-visited the post title and it looks like spam sorry - > its ligit I promise. What are your thoughts? >> Which is more appropriate post divorce? >> "Kids give daddy a hug goodbye" vs. >> "Kids give your daddy a hug goodbye" I doubt that either has any intended or resulting consequence. IMHO, you think too much. Spare me the f'ing commentary. This group is so predictable. As predictable as the american courts. Here's what comes next..."It shouldn't matter..do it for the kids, blah blah blah...." Don't mean to single you out Rog but seriously I come back and bam. >>I re-visited the post title and it looks like spam sorry - >> its ligit I promise. What are your thoughts? [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > I doubt that either has any intended or resulting consequence. > IMHO, you think too much. > Spare me the f'ing commentary. This group is so predictable. > As > predictable as the american courts.... Don't mean to > single you out Rog but seriously I come back and bam. No one is coming down on you. Just didn't find the hair-splitting to be significant. You asked for our opinion; you got one. > > Spare me the f'ing commentary. This group is so predictable. > > As > predictable as the american courts.... Don't mean to > > single you out Rog but seriously I come back and bam. > > No one is coming down on you. Just didn't find the hair-splitting > to be significant. You asked for our opinion; you got one. It's these life and death questions that make it so interesting though. > Quick poll if you will... > [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] > To me it seems the first implies a non-intended sense of possession and > does not seperate. What works in your sitch? I guess I hadn't thought about it much, but thinking back it seems that I had always used both without realizing it. Rog is probably right though. You're overthinking it. > Quick poll if you will... > [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] > To me it seems the first implies a non-intended sense of possession and > does not seperate. What works in your sitch? My kids wouldn't ever have noticed any difference between the two, and neither would their dad. What I think *would* be harmful is to get into a mode where everybody has to tiptoe around thinking very carefully about every word they said, and all possible implications, and work really hard to say everything in exactly-the-correct-way. It would have created a really strained situation in which the family couldn't have talked casually, and would feel like there were land-mines everywhere. > What I think *would* be harmful is to get into a mode where > everybody has to tiptoe around thinking very carefully about [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > family couldn't have talked casually, and would feel like there > were land-mines everywhere. ... As apparently in Tank's case. >Quick poll if you will... > [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] >To me it seems the first implies a non-intended sense of possession and does >not seperate. What works in your sitch? I've always used both, before and after the divorce. Continued the same after the divorce, didn't seem like any reason to change that for us, anyway. Give what divorce does to kids, I don't think it matters all that much > Quick poll if you will... > [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] > To me it seems the first implies a non-intended sense of possession and does > not seperate. What works in your sitch? Cool - I appreciate all your thoughts. I think when people are new to divorce there is a nessessary setting of the boundries. Especially if one spouse was an effective manipulator - or you let them get away with it. Scenerio...suprise here's the divorce papers...Hey we've got three kids shouldn't we try to work on it? No, I'm cheating on you with a successful lawyer now. Oh? Drop the kids off at 3:00. I know its petty but sometimes it is the little things and setting boundries. And in a way it is for the kids. I want them to understand that me and them are now a seperate family. I've worked hard to give them that stabilty in a sea of insanity. I work hard to get them to school on time, set up play dates, take them to dentist and doctor appts., feed them well. Its hard to explain and it goes back to boundries with me and that's all. And maybe a healthy dose of resentment ; ) Give what divorce does to kids, I don't think it matters all that much On Mar 21, 12:02 pm, "Tank 'm o'Niel" <ta...@tanktank.com> wrote: > Quick poll if you will... > [quoted text clipped - 9 lines] > does > not seperate. What works in your sitch? > And maybe a healthy dose of resentment ; ) ...and that is *your* birdsnest to unravel. Separating that from how you deal with the kids is the ultimate key. > > And maybe a healthy dose of resentment ; ) > > ...and that is *your* birdsnest to unravel. > Separating that from how you deal with the kids is the ultimate key. My boys love to do hugs and shrugs, lol. www.mylesbian.blogspot.com Agreed : ) >> And maybe a healthy dose of resentment ; ) > > ...and that is *your* birdsnest to unravel. > Separating that from how you deal with the kids is the ultimate key. |
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