Family Forum / Marriage / Divorce / January 2009

I am in so much pain. I wish my ex husband would stop trying to hurt
us.
 Now, I have 2 children but my ex husband only sees our youngest
daughter now. he has outcasted our oldest daughter due to her
diaabilites and other factors. He states that she is too diffacult.
what child isn't? My youngest daughter is 9 yrs old and he wants her &
is trying to convince her to live with him. Everytime she visits him
she comes back with a puzzeled and confused look & talk to me like she
is the parent. I know  that he is manupliating her,  BUT HOW DO YOU
EXPLAIN THAT TO A CHILD?  I have tried to talk to my ex about what he
is doing but I feel that only encourages it. Before our divorce was
done he already had another baby with his now wife.. He was mentaly &
physicaly  abusive to me. I tried to tell someone buthe would just lie
and it would make things worse. I finally gave up & concentrated on
getting through our divorce and taking care of my 2 daughters. our
divorce was in o3. At first he hardly came around until abouit 2 yrs
ago. When I asked for more help financialy then thats when he hired a
private investigator and started picking the kids up more. After 6
months he decided that our oldest was to diffucuilt and didnt want to
have to deal with her. Since then things have been extremely
emotionaly distressing to our whole family. My oldest daughter has
come not to show that she cares and told me she didnt want to go with
him and i stopped trying to encourage it beleiveing it would hurt her
more to be treat differently. She is a blessing from god they are both
my blessings, and he is the one missing out. this whole thing has put
a strane on my daughters relationship as sisters. my oldest loves her
sister but my ex husband tells the youngest one stories and other
things about her sister and me. when she comes back from her dads she
treats  her sister differently , as if she isnt good enough
while my oldest just huggs and turns her cheek to the words that are
said. I am consistly praying and trying my hardest to strenghing us
together as FAMILY.