Family Forum / Marriage / Divorce / July 2009

hi my name stev i was divorced now remarried . i found joining some
local clubs helped and some local community groups as these groups
your bound to find some new friends. Also broaden your recreational
activities try new things this bring your emotional and mental levels
higher and start feel good about your self . you will feel a lot
happier doing this

It is an interesting thing...

I know married couples that, while they stayed togehter, never had
children. As their friends started having children, they found
themselves outcasts - even being admonished for not having children by
people they had known for many years! Go figure. For them I heard
there was a social support group called "no kidding". :)

So do by all means search the net. There has got to be groups of
divorced people who get together and do stuff.

I never had that problem as I never had that many friends! lol!

It's not that I am a loner or anything, I was just comforatable being
with myself. I took the attitude very early in life that if you don't
like who I am, then don't let the door hit you on the way out! Thus,
while I had many aquaintences - who came and went through the years -
I have only ever had a couple of "life long" friends whom I have known
for some 36 and 29 years respectively.

This might be a good time to do some inward searching too. Ask those
hard questions...

Do you like yourself?

Would a member of the opposite sex like me / find me attractive? If
so, why? If not, why not?

If I could change one thing about myself, what would it be? What is
stopping me?

How did I pick the wrong partner to marry? What can I learn about that
to make sure I do not repeat the scenario?

You can have a lot of fun being single. But it comes from knowing and
loving exactly who you are.

And when you are ready to reconnect, you can find the right person.
But it comes from knowing not only who you are, but what you stand
for, and - more importantly - what you will *not* stand for. :)

Do the "hard work" now, and it will pay great dividends in the long
run. I am living proof. ;)

hth