Family Forum / Marriage / Divorce / January 2005

I am happy with who I am , Dave.. I have identified many of my faults, and
have made progress in repairing them.

I think it is in everyone's list of faults to procrastinate. I find that
usually is a result of a lack of motivation, particularly to doing things we
don't like. You are not alone...Of course, that can piss off a spouse big
time, putting off things you could do today, for another day.

This may sound off topic...But I find the easy fix to many of our ills, is a
good nights sleep. Get up early, have a nice breakfast, and you're
energetic. You'll find you have the most motivation after a good nights
sleep.

can't sleep? try melatonin... A dietiary supplement, Melatonin is a chemical
that originates from our brain normally provides (from the pineal gland). It
helps to regulate sleep cycles.

One of my issues has been depression.. for many of my adult years..).Seems I
was fine though until I got married and got bogged down with
responsibilities). I now realize that many of my problems stem from poor
sleep habits.

Diet and exercize is also essential......Excercize is the biggest... three
times a week, for at least 1 hour a day.

Being of sound mind and body, you can usually deal with many things that
come your way, and procrastination is less of an issue if you're of well
being, and thus motivated, and full of energy.

And lastly, find and do things you like. Do not deprive yourself of things
that light you up..I have done just that for so long...and put all my energy
into trying to save a marriage that now is doomed to failure. I have said it
before...."Take good care of yourself".

Yes.  Very much so.    If i were somebody else, i'd want me for a friend.  :-)

I'd prefer to have a healthier body, but hey, nobody's perfect.

Basically, yes. Are there still things I am working on?  Certainly.  But
in general, I am happy with who I am. Heck, I certainly know myself a
lot better than I did when I was married (and I am not talking about the
biblical snse of 'know.').

Rambler

I am like a fisherman without fish or a cowboy without cows.
Otherwise I am OK.
Happiness are to me are those little moments when I have this chemical
rush in my body.
During the kill and shortly afterwards.

Yes, I am happy with the person I have become. I don't know that I
could have always said that, but I have grown into being more accepting
of the person I am.

Denise

I have to say I am.  I spent two years on my own after a failed rebound
relationship (alot like yours Dave) and I came to like being alone.  Now
that I've been living with someone for two years, I have some nights
that I long for the solitude of being alone, but I wouldn't trade having
my SO in my life for anything.  He travels alot, so I do get that alone
time.  It's a nice balance.

Cheryl

Right now at this very moment I would like someone to shoot me and put me
out of my misery.  I haven't been this sick in years...think its the flu.
Spent most of the last two days in bed, looks like that's what is on today's
agenda also.

On a normal day, I really like me.

Lori Mc

I also procrastinate sometimes.

I want to improve, and I think I might do something about it tomorrow :-)

I have to say that no, I am not happy with myself.

I should be a better friend to my  friends, a better sister to my sisters, a
better daughter to my mother, and a better mother to my children.  I should
eat better and exercise more and floss every night.  I should vacuum and
dust more.  I've failed in 2 marriages and can't imagine myself starting a
new relationship so I end up alone year after year.  I should respond to
more posts here.  See how I beat myself up?

Elisa

I know everyone is going to be shocked hearing me say this, but yeah I
am happy with myself.  I'm a good man.  I deserve a good life and a good
woman to share it with.  Fate doesn't really agree with me, but I'm a
fighter!  I'm either going to win or die trying!  :-D

It's others who are not happy with me, like potential dates and many
members in this group.  ;-)

Thanks,

Mike

'Are you happy with yourself?  

Group: alt.support.divorce Date: Mon, Jan 24, 2005, 3:20am (CST+6) From:
no@no.com (The Dave©)
Feeling a little introspective at the moment, so I'll ask a question.

Are you happy with who you are? '

Yes..i finally am !   Until i firmly understood and believed on the fact
that 'Im a child of the most high God' and created in his image....i
would not always feel happy with who i was ;  now., instead of getting
my self esteem thru what the culture dictates and from other peoples
ideologies ....i get it because of WHOM i belong to . The key to life is
to satisfy the ultimate reason for living -- and for everyone that is to
have a personal dynamic relationship with the Creator of the Universe
for whom you were made.  Without this, one tries many avenues at finding
happiness....and it almost always involves poor choices (philosophies of
our culture). Thanks OP for asking that thought provoking question.

This quote I ran across the other day seems appropriate -- well, it's a
good description of the way I see things, anyway:

Spring has its hundred flowers,
Autumn has its many moons.
Summer has cool winds,
Winter its snow.
If useless thoughts do not
Cloud your mind,
Each day is the best of your life.

-Wu-Men-Hui-Kai (1183-1260)

Barb

Nope. If I were, what would I try to improve on. I guess for me, overcoming
myself is a never ending process. The only problem is that I started too late.

But the of course, that depends on your definition of 'happy.'