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I think I am in serious problem . I dont know what to do at the moment . My wife had a baby this month . She was not sure , that baby is mine so she didnot include my name in the BIRTH certificate of the baby . We are in NY . Since I am not in the birth certificate , am I forced to provide child support in future when we go in seperate ways . I am also confused about filing tax return for 2006 . Since I am not sure about the baby is mine but i am legally married to my wife . Should I file the tax return with wife and child or should I file seperately . If I file seperately I might have to pay taxes alot . If I file together , will I be automatically father of the child ? Please help me at the moment of confusion . thank you > I think I am in serious problem . > I dont know what to do at the moment . [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > We are in NY . Since I am not in the birth certificate , am I forced > to provide child support in future when we go in seperate ways . Sounds like you aren't sure if it is yours or not. What if the child is yours? If it is, don't you want to be a father to it? Seems to me like you need to find out once and for all if you are the father - you really can't make any decisions until then. Get a paternity test, then you'll know - and the mother will know. When the child is older, he/she has the right to know, too. There is no advantage to keeping it vague. > I am also confused about filing tax return for 2006 . Since I am not > sure about the baby is mine but i am legally married to my wife . > Should I file the tax return with wife and child or > should I file seperately . If I file seperately I might have to pay > taxes alot . > If I file together , will I be automatically father of the child ? While I am not a lawyer, and this is not legal advice (which I recommend you get, promptly), I think that if you are married to the mother you are legally, presumed to be the father unless you take legal action to rebut this presumption. I don't know if there is a time limit on this or not, but if I were in your shoes I'd be finding this out immediately if not sooner. A lot of the law is found online - here's one link: http://www.divorcenet.com/states/new_york/nyart13 > Please help me at the moment of confusion . > thank you > I think I am in serious problem . > I dont know what to do at the moment . > My wife had a baby this month . She was not sure , that baby is mine so > she didnot include my name in the BIRTH certificate of the baby . > We are in NY . Since I am not in the birth certificate , am I forced > to provide child support in future when we go in seperate ways . Get a lawyer and then call the Maury Show for the DNA tests. > I am also confused about filing tax return for 2006 . Since I am not > sure about the baby is mine but i am legally married to my wife . > Should I file the tax return with wife and child or > should I file seperately . If I file seperately I might have to pay > taxes alot . Get an accountant with knowledge of tax law. You have 12 months before you need worry about 2006 filing. > If I file together , will I be automatically father of the child ? > Please help me at the moment of confusion . > thank you Sleeping together causes children, not filing tax papers. In the latter case it's the government that does the screwing.  Signature------- > Pull the _PLUG_ to email Count your blessings that your wife was honest enough to tell you that the child may not be yours. Go get a paternity test immediately. Start finding a lawyer, just in case. >I think I am in serious problem . >I dont know what to do at the moment . [quoted text clipped - 12 lines] >Please help me at the moment of confusion . >thank you ____________________ You do what you do and you pay for your sins and there's no such thing as what might have been... that's a waste of time...drive you out of your mind... You need a lawyer ASAP and you also need to have a paternity test done the child to determine whether or not it is yours. If it is, then you will have to pay child support no matter what. ----- Kim/Dreamspinner3 Visit My Homepage: http://members.tripod.com/dreamspinner3/ >I think I am in serious problem . >I dont know what to do at the moment . [quoted text clipped - 12 lines] >Please help me at the moment of confusion . >thank you Get a paternity test. Then get an accountant and a lawyer. If the kid isn't yours and you agree to taking care of it, legally it may become yours. >Get a paternity test. >Then get an accountant and a lawyer. > >If the kid isn't yours and you agree to taking care of it, legally it >may become yours. IT?!?!? This is a human being you're talking about, not an IT... >>Get a paternity test. >>Then get an accountant and a lawyer. [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > >IT?!?!? This is a human being you're talking about, not an IT... Sorry, I forget... in my native language children and minors, are referred to as "it". It has a different meaning then in English, it means a 'minor'. at the same time, cats and dogs and various other items are supposed to be referred to as he or a she. For example, a boat is a he, car is a he, shelf is a he, fork is a she, knife is a he, spoon is a she, fridge is a he, oven is a she etc... if you catch my drift. It's really easy for me to get in a hurry and say "it" without the same meaning it has to you... ...so chill out. I agree; I would always say it because it's easier than he/she... it's not offensive to call a squirrel "it" if you don't know the sex. A fetus is always an it, too, IMO. > On Sun, 29 Jan 2006 08:00:30 GMT, jstlucas at hotmail dot com > @delete.thisstuff (Joe St. Lucas) wrote: > >>In article <9fsot1d2s7uddma3nnpv9uj05j9gpt8ph8@4ax.com>, Kitty >>>Get a paternity test. >>>Then get an accountant and a lawyer. >>> >>>If the kid isn't yours and you agree to taking care of it, legally it >>>may become yours. >> >> >>IT?!?!? This is a human being you're talking about, not an IT... > > Sorry, I forget... in my native language children and minors, are > referred to as "it". It has a different meaning then in English, it > means a 'minor'. at the same time, cats and dogs and various other > items are supposed to be referred to as he or a she. > For example, a boat is a he, car is a he, shelf is a he, fork is a > she, knife is a he, spoon is a she, fridge is a he, oven is a she > etc... if you catch my drift. > It's really easy for me to get in a hurry and say "it" without the > same meaning it has to you... ...so chill out. > I agree; I would always say it because it's easier than he/she... > > it's not offensive to call a squirrel "it" if you don't know the sex. > > A fetus is always an it, too, IMO. when someone has a baby, don't they say "It's a baby!" ??????? I bet you can even get a hallmark card that says "It's a baby!" The OP keeps talking about a baby. Now I'm thinking even more what wild hair got up Joe's bum. Usually he's not that confrontational or argumentative. Conniekat@Kitty.kat says... >Now I'm thinking even more what wild hair got up Joe's bum. >Usually he's not that confrontational or argumentative. Everybody has their sensitive spots. I know I got mine. > I am also confused about filing tax return for 2006 . Since I am not > sure about the baby is mine but i am legally married to my wife . [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > Please help me at the moment of confusion . > thank you Check with an accountant and a divorce lawyer, but I doubt that filing the child as your dependent would automatically make you the legal father of the child. Biological relationship is not a requirement for dependency: I believe any child or person who lives with you more than half the year and for which you are responsible for their living expenses would qualify. With that said, it's always foolish to make any sort of decision based on tax consequences alone. jen |
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