Family Forum / Marriage / Divorce / January 2007

Just one opinion here...

looks like another lame, quasi-commercial site.  Poorly thought out
and executed... No real useful information is offered...  bad
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other sites

Well, I what have seen is problems from both parties. One main problem
is people are not honest to themselves which leads to marriage failure.
Because one or both wants something they don't know how to get let
alone work for it.
People do not know themselves to a point. They are in such denial and
they cause others who know what they want to suffer their neurosis as
unwilling combatants.

I had to get my spouse to see three therapist and finally we took the
audio and visual test but to my spouse surprise the test results of her
was the low percentile. 10% to be exact!

I think all people before getting married should get tested so they can
determine reality versus not at home in their heads personality. It
would save a lot of time and not waste the time of others who know what
is going on.

It is matter of the "lights are on but nobody is home" syndrome.

In many cases, it is individuals with disorders so bad they don't know
they have a problem or they're in such denial they can't tell the
difference.

As they say if you have a problem and you try to fix it yourself you
will fail. You need a third party professional to mitigate or counsel
you to help you solve a marriage problem.

But I say it starts with the parents who for whatever reasons do not
attend to potential misfits in society in detail. It causes future
relationship failures not because of their own efforts but by the
person who has a problem.

In the dating circles it is called "baggage". But beware there are
genuinely nice people out there that have major problems.

If you think they will have a problem it is usually a much bigger
problem. Several studies show persons in a family depending on the
number, they are in the scheme of things, contribute to their
personalities. I have seen many evidence of that condition and if you
see minor things it is usually major later.

There are no easy true test. I think if you can get "P" profile do it.
iT WILL SAVE YOU A LOT OF HEADACHES LATER.

I find that most sites offer generalized advice, but the books advertised
I've allready perused through in the library. One big reality is: divorce
sucks!