Family Forum / Marriage / Divorce / June 2007

I've been divorced now for over two years and have a great girlfriend that
will soon be my fiance.  We just bought a house together and things are
going great.  For the better part of our two year relationship, my son, who
is now five, has been with us as well.  His mother has no stability
whatsoever in her life.  She's spent more time in different provinces than
she's actually spent with her son.  She went to alberta to work for 6
months, came back with nothing, then met a guy from halifax and has spend
95% of the time since christmas over there with him because of her severe
anxiety disorder and depression. She is also on meds for this.  Now she is
back in town again for the time being, but she thinks she's going to get
accepted to the military.

The custody agreement when we got divorced was 60/40 for her, because she
still lived here in town, didn't have a job, and could be with him all the
time.  I agreed to the 40% because i had to work.  I did have him every
second i wasn't at work though.

My son starts school here in September.  We have a really stable enviroment
for him, and my girlfriend is more of a mother to him than his actual mother
is.  The ex said that she'd leave him in school here for kindergarden
(because she plans on being away for basic training and stuff like that),
but plans on taking him to wherever the military posts her for the school
year after that.

My question to you fine folks is, how likely is it that the courts would let
this happen?  She has provided him with no stability in the past, and now
she thinks she can join the military and just take him wherever she goes and
uproot him from the good life he has here.  If she gets in, i'll agree to
her having him during the summers or whatever...that's the way i'd like to
see it go if she has to move away.

Any advice would REALLY be appreciated..

Thank you