> If Greg scares people away from this group it's for their own good.
> Look what he gets for it.
> > It's pretty pathetic. What is supposed to be a support group becomes
> > an obsession in winning the pissing contest.
>
> Sounds like you're talking about Dan. I guess you'd have to "listen"
> to realize that, huh.
> Disgusts me.
>
> That's because you're playing for the wrong team Betty.
> > > > On Sun, 13 Jul 2008 18:25:31 -0700 (PDT), Firemonkey
>
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>
> So "most" out of several wanted to scare you away.
Yes Dan.
> Why do you say the people who wanted to scare you away were from
> Betty's side?
because they were system sucks like you.
> Was Betty one of them?
Did I say Betty was one of them?
> And "a couple" tried to steer you to me to help you with your case.
Yes Dan.
> THAT sounds like Betty.
I didn't say it was Betty.
> What were the "most" out of several afraid of?
There was only one who expressed fear Dan. The rest were warnings.
> > Oh I
> > was going to get attacked and on and on. And the one thing that I can
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>
> What difference would that make?
I was just stating an observation.
> BTW look at all the websites like your's, LK.
Show me one. Mine is actually fairly original.
> And how long they've been in existence.
How long?
> I don't see any of them with a decent success rate for getting
> children back to their parents.
We know Dan. You're the only one with all the answers.
> Why after all these years haven't they figured it out?
Lots of people have figured you out, I'm sure.
> Because they're dominated by people like grag.
There is only one Greg Dan.
> > If Greg scares people away from this group it's for their own good.
>
> Scares them away with his ridiculous comments?
I just think that your blaiming him for that which he's not entirely
responsible for.
> Or scares them away from other people's advice?
What advice? I've yet to see you offer anything good to anybody
who'se posted here.
> > I've seen it happen to people in other groups looking for support
> > online and having everything they posted turn up on the desk of a
> > judge.
>
> You've "seen it happen?"
Yes I have.
> Is that like grag's "I've heard????"
No it isn't.
> Which web site's postings ended up on the desk of a judge?
In other groups I've belonged too. Are you saying this doesn't
happen?
> > Besides, don't you think it's time that somebody speaks the
> > truth, tells it like it is and doesn't sugar coat it with all of the
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> He advises people to do things that would cause them to never get
> their children back.
Like what?
> He told one mother (who had custody) to do something in Court that
> would have gotten her arrested!
What was that?
> And she wasn't even in trouble with CPS!
Then what's her problem with the system?
> You haven't been around long enough to have read grag's years of
> advice that plays right into the hands of CPS.
Like the kiss a.s approach that you suggest?
> > So his method is not politically
> > correct or it's impolite. Neither is reality.
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> So when grag advises a parent to do something that would get them
> arrested
for example?
> or cause them to never get their children back
for example?
> or lose their
> children,
for example?
> everyone else is supposed to remain silent?
Where did I say that?
> > > Few of us have stayed on...myself, FM, wishing to help people just as
> > > we were helped.
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> Your advice is for everyone to remain silent when bad advice is
> posted?
No Dan what I said was that Greg isn't the only one scaring people
away from this group as Betty claimed. I also said that Greg tells it
like it is.
> Sounds like bad advice to me.
Point out where I said that.
> Or shouldn't I have said that?
>
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>
> Then why haven't you posted the solutions on your website, LK?
How do you know I haven't? Have you looked through all 2000 + posts?
> Why haven't you asked grag to post his advice on your web site?
Greg hasn't claimed to have all the answers. That's your claim.
> Call it "grag's corner!"
Do you know what Dan? I've been looking into this issue for a while
now. Since then I've read many posts from several news groups. Some
are frequented by experienced lawyers. Some are frequented by foster
parents and a couple even included social workers. And do you know
what? You are the first person who makes the bullshit claim to "Know
the system better then the people in the system." You are the first
person who I have ever heard of that claims to have single handedly
rescued over 40 children from the system. Yet you can't prove a
single one. Your claims are wild and unrealistic. sh.t, you can't
even get your own puppet bear story straight, what with the recent
development, for example, the detectives from the DA's office being
from the sex crimes unit and all.
> > And you can't do so until you're willing to listen to
> > and discuss the truth for what it is instead of arguing against it
> > simply because it was stated by Greg.
>
> Specifically what truths from grag are you referring to?
Google it.
> > > You can't know the solution if you don't know the problem, and you
> > > can't know the problem if you aren't willing to listen.
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> Your complaint about what I do is that I only help "one family at a
> time?"
No Dan. What I am saying here is that if you do actually help
families, that it just isn't enough. Great, you rescue one kid from
the system what about the other half a million stuck in there? What
about all the people who never hear of you and your brilliant advice?
As soon as one family is helped another 100 fall victim. It happens
on a massive scale. There just aren't enough of you to go around.
While you're helping one family at a time Congress is getting ready to
pass a new version of the adoption and safe families act (ASFA ends
this September BTW) which will make it harder for you to do that
because it makes it even easier to adopt kids out from foster care and
provides more money for the adoptive parents, bigger adoption bonuses,
etc. I have been encouraging people to contact their congressmen and
senators about this. Is that the wrong thing to do? Hell your own
Senator (Hillary) is one of the biggest advocates for it. Have you
contacted her office?
> You can be sure the family's that I help don't complain.
About what? Your help or the injustice dished out by the system? I
hardly doubt that their experience with false accusations strengthens
their support for CPS and the injustice they dish out on a regular
basis. What's your success rate? 100%? What about the families you
couldn't help? Or wouldn't help? How do you pick and choose?
> Each and every defeat of CPS demonstrates to them and the Family Court
> Judge that returns the children that someone knows how to expose the
> people in CPS for what they really are.
And what are they really Dan?
And who are you exposing them too?
> And if I knew how to "solve the problems for the thousands going
> through it at any given time," do you really think I wouldn't?
You'd be out of a job.
> Why don't you tell me how, and I'll start right now.
I can get you in front of thousands. I can make you famous either way
Dan, as a system suck or as the hero you claim to be. You're just
haven't proved that you're worth the blog space and I'm not going to
risk the quality of Legally Kidnapped in order to expose you for the
bullshit artist that you are. You haven't written anything specific,
that I've seen anyway that would be useful.
I'd make that offer to anybody. You got the answers? Send them to me
and I'll post it for the whole world to see.
> What should I tell the people who get referred to me from FightCPS,
> and the local people, and the people who get recommended to me from
> the internet?
That you are a system suck.
> That I don't work with families anymore... I'm only working on the
> "big picture?"
See Dan, this is where your arguement fails. Where did I say that the
one family at a time approach is unimportant? Yes Dan, some families
need to be helped individually. All need the system fixed as a
whole. This is a problem with multiple levels. Do you deny that? Do
you really think that the problem will be solved one family at a time?
> >Hell, they've tried everything else right?
> > You also have to expose the truth and educate the
> > people so that they cry out against the injustice as a whole.
>
> Every time someone gets their CPS finding reversed, or their children
> returned, it exposes the truth about CPS.
To who? The judge? Do all of these families get to the front page of
the newspapers?
> You want to educate the people?
That's the attempt I'm making.
> Fine, me too.
Really?
> You want the people to "cry out against the injustice as a whole?"
Yes.
> Is that what your blog is for?
That's the attempt.
> How many children went back to their parents because of the newspaper
> stories posted on your blog?
Again you fail to see the purpose of my blog. I'd like to turn it
into something like that, but I'm not the one making the claim to have
all the answers. I've said before that if I had all the answers I'd
post them, but you're the only one who makes that claim.
> > Greg is
> > at least the one person in here making an attempt to do that.
>
> You really think grag is "exposing the truth and educating the people
> so that they cry out against the injustice as a whole?"
I think he's made the attempt.
> If grag is exposing the truth, why did he go back and remove his
> messages that detailed what he did to his girlfriend's seven year old
> daughter that caused her to be removed by the authorities?
Why didn't you tell us until recently that the detectives from the
DA's office were from the sex crimes unit? Others were under the
impression that the worker brought them there with her. Now you
change your story.
> BTW if you don't know, grag was an unrelated adult male living with
> the little girl's mother.
So?
> Reading what he did (spank the little girl, force her to take cold
> showers as punishment, and be present in the bathroom every time she
> got out of the shower) and didn't do (like clean up the clutter in his
> girlfriend's trailer which he claims was the cause of the removal)
> would be QUITE an education.
And you post that story every time someone in here comes looking for
info. The minute Greg posts a response, you copy and paste your anti-
Greg bullshit.
Is that how you help families?
> The mother lost custody for more than seven years.
Yet she stays with him anyway.
> Now THERE'S an injustice for the public to cry out against!!!!
I agree. If everything you say about Greg is true and there was such
a concern, he should have been removed, not the child.
> > Look what he gets for it.
>
> What he deserves.
I'll bet you say that to all the parents.
> > > They only wish to
> > > berate and use failures as examples of their 'right'.
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>
> What evidence is there that's what Betty wants?
I said people like her.
> > You
> > all want to believe deep in your hearts that they're really trying to
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>
> Who are the "pee-ons?"
That was a metaphore Dan. In the context I was refering to the foster
parents and babystealers who aren't paid all that much. When you
compair the child protective industry to any other industry in a
capitalist society, the lowest paid members of the society are the
ones who do the dirty work while the "smart people" rake in the
profits off of their backs. In the child protective industry the
product is children. You have the product aquisition team, ie
babystealers, you have storage, ie foster and group homes, you have
sales, ie adoption agencies and even a liquidization team dealing with
children who aren't a quality product for the sales team, ie older or
special needs children who age out.
> BTW IMO if CPS concentrated on the cases that needed their attention,
> their workload could be reduced by 90% or more.
And I agree with you on that.
> > > It's pretty pathetic. What is supposed to be a support group becomes
> > > an obsession in winning the pissing contest.
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>
> Has grag a single success against CPS?
Make that caseworker to caseworker call and find out. You really
should get an update.
> > > I've always felt this group could serve as a wealth of information for
> > > those in need, but, as unfortunate as it is, Greg, et al, use this
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> fear, rebellion and a distraction from the goal, which is getting
> their children back.
And some are beaten down psychologically so much that they never
overcome that.
> > Hell, they've tried everything else right?
>
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> Calm down, don't show anger, do what's appropriate and necessary, and
> focus on reunification.
Well there is a time for everything, isn't there?
> > Disgusts me.
>
> > That's because you're playing for the wrong team Betty.
>
> Betty was mistaken when she tried to resolve her family's problems
> with CPS?
No. Betty is mistaken now that her families problems are resolved to
her satisfaction.
> In your opinion she should have focused on "exposing the truth and
> educating the people so that they cry out against the injustice as a
> whole," rather than what CPS did to her family?
Now that her problem with CPS is resolved, she should be screaming out
against the injustice of what she had to go through to make that
happen. If the removal was the right thing to do and Betty was always
an adequate placement for her grandson, as I assume she was probably
from day one, she shouldn't have had to fight them to win.
There is a time and a place for everything. I agree with you that
people who have open cases should be focused on getting the kids back,
and not be crying out against the system in the same way I am, but
only because of the way the system is set up and operates currently
where they can get f.cked for doing so.
I've come across lots of blogs with just that purpose and the problem
that I have with these is that these people tend to fill them with
personal info, they name judges and lawyers and workers, etc.
Although I have no ethical problem with that, the concern is
retaliation and the legal consiquences for doing so. They try to use
their own stories as a means for crying out against the injustice and
are limited in knowledge to what they are going through. They're all
over the internet I come across them all the time. I've actually been
trying to talk a woman into deleting her myspace page because she's
crying out for help and trying to expose the workers and the lawyers
and the judge and everybody else by name. She names them and they
know that she's been writing all of this in her little myspace blog
and THEY have told her that it's not helping her case, not to mention
they know about it and she gives away her strategy, her plans, etc. in
it. So you're right, there is a time and a place for everything.
It's just that too many people are beaten down into the pavement
psychologically, so they don't have what it takes.
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> > > > > On Sun, 13 Jul 2008 18:25:31 -0700 (PDT), Firemonkey
>
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>
> because they were system sucks like you.
I don't understand why you think I would want to scare people away
from here.
> > Was Betty one of them?
>
> Did I say Betty was one of them?
That doesn't answer my question.
> > And "a couple" tried to steer you to me to help you with your case.
>
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>
> I didn't say it was Betty.
I didn't say it was. I said it sounds like Betty.
> > What were the "most" out of several afraid of?
>
> There was only one who expressed fear Dan. The rest were warnings.
Interesting.
> > > Oh I
> > > was going to get attacked and on and on. And the one thing that I can
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>
> I was just stating an observation.
To what end?
> > BTW look at all the websites like your's, LK.
>
> Show me one. Mine is actually fairly original.
Isn't your blog a copy and paste job of info from the internet?
How could that be original?
> > And how long they've been in existence.
>
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>
> We know Dan.
It's a shame.
> You're the only one with all the answers.
Not all, but enough to beat CPS on a regular basis.
> > Why after all these years haven't they figured it out?
>
> Lots of people have figured you out, I'm sure.
And they got their children back.
And like Betty and Bobbe got their family back together and helped
other families do the same.
> > Because they're dominated by people like grag.
>
> There is only one Greg Dan.
No, unfortunately there's a lot like grag.
> > > If Greg scares people away from this group it's for their own good.
>
> > Scares them away with his ridiculous comments?
>
> I just think that your blaiming him for that which he's not entirely
> responsible for.
He's not responsible for what he says?
Why is that?
> > Or scares them away from other people's advice?
>
> What advice? I've yet to see you offer anything good to anybody
> who'se posted here.
You said you read the archives.
Guess not, huh?
> > > I've seen it happen to people in other groups looking for support
> > > online and having everything they posted turn up on the desk of a
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>
> Yes I have.
Interesting.
> > Is that like grag's "I've heard????"
>
> No it isn't.
Interesting.
> > Which web site's postings ended up on the desk of a judge?
>
> In other groups I've belonged too. Are you saying this doesn't
> happen?
I just thought you could prove your claim.
Guess not, huh?
> > > Besides, don't you think it's time that somebody speaks the
> > > truth, tells it like it is and doesn't sugar coat it with all of the
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>
> Like what?
Like what he did in Lisa Watkins' case.
> > He told one mother (who had custody) to do something in Court that
> > would have gotten her arrested!
>
> What was that?
Tell the Judge she made an illegal recording off the telephone of a
CPS case worker.
> > And she wasn't even in trouble with CPS!
>
> Then what's her problem with the system?
It was her ex-husband that had the problem
> > You haven't been around long enough to have read grag's years of
> > advice that plays right into the hands of CPS.
>
> Like the kiss a.s approach that you suggest?
That's never been my approach.
Guess you never read the archives, huh?
> > > So his method is not politically
> > > correct or it's impolite. Neither is reality.
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>
> Where did I say that?
You said you wanted to "discuss the truth for what it is instead of
arguing against it simply because it was stated by Greg."
As if what greg says has anything to do with the truth!
> > > > Few of us have stayed on...myself, FM, wishing to help people just as
> > > > we were helped.
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> away from this group as Betty claimed. I also said that Greg tells it
> like it is.
YOU don't have any solutions and certainly greg doesn't have any, so
how could you possibly say "greg tells it like it is?"
That's one of the most stupid statements I've ever read on asCPS.
> > Sounds like bad advice to me.
>
> Point out where I said that.
I said it sounds like bad advice to ME.
> > Or shouldn't I have said that?
>
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>
> How do you know I haven't? Have you looked through all 2000 + posts?
I thought you said your website was original.
Guess not, huh?
I bet if you had a solution or two you would have featured them some
place prominent.
Guess not, huh?
> > Why haven't you asked grag to post his advice on your web site?
>
> Greg hasn't claimed to have all the answers. That's your claim.
But if greg "tells it like it is," as you claim, surely you could post
his messages on your "not so" original website.
> > Call it "grag's corner!"
>
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> rescued over 40 children from the system. Yet you can't prove a
> single one.
The stories are all thru the asCPS and FightCPS archives.
Ask Betty, Bobbe, Lostintranslation.
> Your claims are wild and unrealistic.
A claim from someone who has no idea how the CPS system works.
What a surprise.
> sh.t, you can't
> even get your own puppet bear story straight, what with the recent
> development, for example, the detectives from the DA's office being
> from the sex crimes unit and all.
That's what I was told.
Prove I wasn't told that.
> > > And you can't do so until you're willing to listen to
> > > and discuss the truth for what it is instead of arguing against it
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>
> Google it.
Got nothing, huh?
> > > > You can't know the solution if you don't know the problem, and you
> > > > can't know the problem if you aren't willing to listen.
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> No Dan. What I am saying here is that if you do actually help
> families, that it just isn't enough.
Well, EXCUUUUUUUUUSE ME!!!!
> Great, you rescue one kid from
> the system what about the other half a million stuck in there? What
> about all the people who never hear of you and your brilliant advice?
I've never turned anyone away.
> As soon as one family is helped another 100 fall victim. It happens
> on a massive scale. There just aren't enough of you to go around.
Sad to say.
> While you're helping one family at a time Congress is getting ready to
> pass a new version of the adoption and safe families act (ASFA ends
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> etc. I have been encouraging people to contact their congressmen and
> senators about this.
Is that the "cry out against the injustice as a whole" part of your
plan?
> Is that the wrong thing to do? Hell your own
> Senator (Hillary) is one of the biggest advocates for it. Have you
> contacted her office?
Has CPS removed Chelsea?
> > You can be sure the family's that I help don't complain.
>
> About what?
My help.
Of course they complain about CPS.
What are you stupid?.
> Your help or the injustice dished out by the system? I
> hardly doubt that their experience with false accusations strengthens
> their support for CPS and the injustice they dish out on a regular
> basis.
Apparently you are.
> What's your success rate? 100%?
Higher than I could ever have hoped for.
> What about the families you couldn't help? Or wouldn't help?
I have never declined to help anyone.
> How do you pick and choose?
I have never declined to help anyone.
> > Each and every defeat of CPS demonstrates to them and the Family Court
> > Judge that returns the children that someone knows how to expose the
> > people in CPS for what they really are.
>
> And what are they really Dan?
If the parents prevail in a Family Court Hearing that means CPS lost.
That means the Judge believed the family and NOT CPS!
> And who are you exposing them too?
To themselves and the Family Court Judge, just like it says in the
sentence.
> > And if I knew how to "solve the problems for the thousands going
> > through it at any given time," do you really think I wouldn't?
>
> You'd be out of a job.
Helping people involved with CPS isn't my job.
> > Why don't you tell me how, and I'll start right now.
>
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> risk the quality of Legally Kidnapped in order to expose you for the
> bullshit artist that you are.
First, Legally Kidnapped is a copy and paste web site.
Certainly NOT "original" as you seem to think.
And if there is any quality it's from the news stories and other
websites that you suck your copy from.
Being that you believe grag "tells it like it is" YOU should have HIM
be the hero of your Legally Kidnapped web site.
> You haven't written anything specific,
> that I've seen anyway that would be useful.
Never read the archives, huh?
> I'd make that offer to anybody. You got the answers? Send them to me
> and I'll post it for the whole world to see.
Every case is different.
> > What should I tell the people who get referred to me from FightCPS,
> > and the local people, and the people who get recommended to me from
> > the internet?
>
> That you are a system suck.
That the guy who had the Legally Kidnapped web site hasn't a clue
about how to beat CPS... I DO!!!
> > That I don't work with families anymore... I'm only working on the
> > "big picture?"
>
> See Dan, this is where your arguement fails. Where did I say that the
> one family at a time approach is unimportant? Yes Dan, some families
> need to be helped individually.
What a monumental horses a.s you are!
They ALL need to be helped individually!
> All need the system fixed as a
> whole. This is a problem with multiple levels. Do you deny that? Do
> you really think that the problem will be solved one family at a time?
That's how I'm doing it.
Constitutional Bob from Pennsylvania "wrote" two laws he thought fixed
all the CPS problems in Pennsylvania.
The Family Preservation Act of 2006 and the Family Advocate Act.
They were originally referred to as the 2005 laws.
He switched the name to 2006 when he failed to submit them to the
legislature in 2005.
And then came 2007.
And then 2008.
In a few months it will be 2009.
The guy is so caught up in his own bullshit he doesn't have any idea
what he should do.
And then YOU say you "have to expose the truth and educate the people
so that they cry out against the injustice as a whole."
Well what HAVE you done and have you gotten a SINGLE child back from
CPS foster care?
AND you claim "Greg is at least the one person in here making an
attempt to do that."
So why would you NOT feature grag and his "tell it like it is"
messages on your website???
Just let me know when you have actually accomplished something, other
than your "not-so-original" website.
> > >Hell, they've tried everything else right?
> > > You also have to expose the truth and educate the
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>
> To who? The judge?
And to CPS themselves.
> Do all of these families get to the front page of the newspapers?
I really don't think that's where they'd want to be.
> > You want to educate the people?
>
> That's the attempt I'm making.
And what have you accomplished so far.
Your website isn't an answer.
> > Fine, me too.
>
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>
> That's the attempt.
Well, I'm WAYYYYY past attempting to do something.
I have been helping people prevail over CPS since 1993.
> > How many children went back to their parents because of the newspaper
> > stories posted on your blog?
>
> Again you fail to see the purpose of my blog.
So the answer is ZERO!
> I'd like to turn it
> into something like that, but I'm not the one making the claim to have
> all the answers. I've said before that if I had all the answers I'd
> post them, but you're the only one who makes that claim.
Every case is different.
> > > Greg is
> > > at least the one person in here making an attempt to do that.
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>
> I think he's made the attempt.
By saying what, exactly?
> > If grag is exposing the truth, why did he go back and remove his
> > messages that detailed what he did to his girlfriend's seven year old
> > daughter that caused her to be removed by the authorities?
>
> Why didn't you tell us until recently that the detectives from the
> DA's office were from the sex crimes unit?
Was it not obvious that they were investigating a sex crime?
Do you think they were traffic detectives?
> Others were under the
> impression that the worker brought them there with her.
Others?
Where?
In the same car?
> Now you change your story.
Not at all.
> > BTW if you don't know, grag was an unrelated adult male living with
> > the little girl's mother.
>
> So?
Parents are the primary disciplinarians.
Live in sponges don't make the list.
> > Reading what he did (spank the little girl, force her to take cold
> > showers as punishment, and be present in the bathroom every time she
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> info. The minute Greg posts a response, you copy and paste your anti-
> Greg bullshit.
People should know what greg is all about.
> Is that how you help families?
To get them to not listen to a word greg says is a start.
> > The mother lost custody for more than seven years.
>
> Yet she stays with him anyway.
You're claiming Lisa Watkins still lives with greg?
greg has hinted that Lisa got physical custody of her daughter back.
Have you proof of any of that?
> > Now THERE'S an injustice for the public to cry out against!!!!
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> I agree. If everything you say about Greg is true and there was such
> a conc