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Family Forum / Parenting / Parenting / March 2008Dummies and 3 year olds
Hi All, I was just wondering if anybody had any suggestions how I might wean my 3 year old of her dummy??? I feel that she is getting a little to old for dummies but she is so dependent on her dummy to sleep. If she doesnt get her dummy she will scream through out the night which unfortuantely wakes up our 16 months old twins. She quite often ask for her dummy during the day which we say no, but now she wants to go to sleep more often during the day so that she can get her dummy then sneak out of bed. Any suggestions??? Thank You Hi -- We had a "pacifier fairy" who, at age 3 1/2, takes away pacifiers from big kids who don't need them any more and gives them to babies who don't have any. The fairy leaves a little toy behind on the big day. We prepared by only having pacifiers at night while in bed and at the scheduled naptime, not other naps. And on the big day we went "cold turkey" and got rid of the pacifiers. DS1 took an hour to fall asleep on the first night, 5 minutes on the second night, and then the transition was done. DS2 was a tougher nut, but worked it out eventually. It helped a LOT that both kids bought into the story and were willing, if nervous, when the big day came. --Beth Kevles bethkevles@gmail.PUT-THE-COM-HERE http://web.mit.edu/kevles/www/nomilk.html -- a page for the milk-allergic Disclaimer: Nothing in this message should be construed as medical advice. Please consult with your own medical practicioner. NOTE: No email is read at my MIT address. Use the GMAIL one if you would like me to reply. > Hi -- > [quoted text clipped - 11 lines] > It helped a LOT that both kids bought into the story and were willing, > if nervous, when the big day came. We did something very similar except, about 6 months ahead of time, I told my DS the paci fairy came on his 3rd birthday and brought a toy in exchange for all his pacis (it was a big toy since we were doing it on his birthday). Every so often I'd remind him. One day, about 3 months before his birthday he told me he knew what he wanted the Paci Fairy to bring him and did I think she would come early. I told him I was sure she would and we made an appointment for her to come. The day before I went to get the present, couldn't find it!!!!! Bad planning on my part. I made some calls and located one. That night the Paci Fairy left a small present and a note where to find what he had asked for. The family went down to get it. DS was sick that day, this was evident when he didn't want to look at *any* toys in the toy store. I was really worried that we had taken his pacis away on a day that he was sick, but he only asked once and when I reminded him the Paci Fairy had taken them and left him his present he was fine. That was about 7 1/2 years ago and I recently found the bag of pacis in my DH's drawer where I had stashed them just in case.  SignatureL. Miller My Homeeschool Space (name changed to Ridgetop Academy but I can't change the web address) www.myhomeschoolplace.com/Hogwartsacademy/ Usborne Books Representative (ladmiller@citcom.net) Transylvania Data Recovery Services - when your computer is junk but your data isn't.(tdrs@citcom.net) > Hi All, > [quoted text clipped - 9 lines] > > Any suggestions??? What we did for #1 is set a date and throw a "no more plug" party (just for family). We talked about it in advance and how he was big enough to give up the plug now and how it was moving his teeth around and that wasn't a good thing. Everyone made a fuss over what a big boy he was at the party and brought little nighttime gifts (pjs, nightlight, stuffed animal to sleep with, etc.) and all the plugs went out of the house in the trash. One thing, though, is that he did have other comfort objects (primarily a blanky), so it wasn't like we were taking his only comfort object. If your daughter doesn't have anything else, you might look into trying to establish something else before taking away the pacifier. Other folks I know have done things like gathering up the pacifiers to give them to a new baby who needs them or cutting the ends of the pacifiers secretly so that they don't work anymore. Best wishes, Ericka >Hi All, > [quoted text clipped - 7 lines] >now she wants to go to sleep more often during the day so that she can >get her dummy then sneak out of bed. I didn't worry about it. I don't remember what we did except with dd#3. In her case, she was wearing it on a string around her neck (which I did in those days - this was c 1970). She was 2+. We went to the Audubon zoo in the Boston area, and she was walking along by the cages. She got close to a cage with a racoon in it, and he reached out through the bars and grabbed her pacifier and pulled it apart. The ring on the string stayed on her neck, but the part that you suck on came off. She cried "My fire" (short for pacifier). But we told her she couldn't have it back. She could see for herself that the racoon had chewed it up. She didn't have one after that. For the others: My first one would not take one, and sucked her thumb long after 3.5 My fourth and last one had one but I didn't remember that he had until I saw a photo of him with it. But this one also wasn't weaned until he was 3.5 years old, so he probably used me instead. The second one used hers for a long time, and I'm not sure what happened because she doesn't have one now (she's 44 years old now). At some point, she just stopped using it. [...] > I don't remember what we did except with dd#3. In her case, she was > wearing it on a string around her neck (which I did in those days - [quoted text clipped - 6 lines] > back. She could see for herself that the racoon had chewed it up. She > didn't have one after that. [...] While that one is admittedly not going to be much practical use to most parents, I still think it's the best how-to-get-your-child-to-give-up-the-binky story EVER. ;-) All the best, Sarah Signaturehttp://www.goodenoughmummy.typepad.com "That which can be destroyed by the truth, should be" - P. C. Hodgell >Hi All, > [quoted text clipped - 11 lines] > >Thank You This is something I never worried about. I figured my kids wouldn't be using a dummy when they graduated high school ;-) However, if you're really wanting to get rid of it the other posters have some great suggestions. A friend of mine had her daughter "pay" for a new (small) toy with her dummy. I think it helped reinforce that it was gone for good. Good luck! Nan > Hi All, > [quoted text clipped - 11 lines] > > Thank You When my daughter was almost 3, we told her she'd have to stop using her pacifier when it wore out - she had only one, and we wouldn't replace it. She managed to make it last until she was 4 - at that point, the nipple was chewed in half. I was afraid she might choke on it, so my husband pulled off the rest of the nipple, and we told her it was now worn out. She cried for about a half-hour, and asked for it a few times over the next few weeks, and that was it. YMMV. I agree with Ericka's idea about a comfort item. My daughter had her stuffed bear (she's almost 12, and still sleeps with the bear). Clisby > Hi All, > [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > doesnt get her dummy she will scream through out the night which > unfortuantely wakes up our 16 months old twins. I put a hole at the tip with a needle for DS. It no longer worked, so he gave it up right away. Problem was, he used it for sleep. So, the wonderful sleeper who could go 12 hours overnight and 4 hour naps no longer slept. DH made me up and get a whole new set. Took a whole month to get the sleep thing going again. DS was 2yo at the time. At 3 yo, DH had a talk with DS and they both agreed he was too old for pacifiers. He gave them up, no problem, and he didn't have a problem falling asleep without them. |
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