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Family Forum / Marriage / Marriage / October 2008A learning experience
This is what i have learned in life and relationships: -- SILENCE IS GOLDEN It comes much easier with phlegmatic temperaments, unfortunately. But it's worth a try to listen more than to talk. You will understand the other person and yourself better. peace, Erin > This is what i have learned in life and relationships: > [quoted text clipped - 7 lines] > > Erin I'm getting good at this, but I have to practice because I am not a phlegmatic person. I am very open and optmistic and love to have fun in conversations and discover things together. I don't like one-upmanship conversations and competition. It's important to understand the character of the person you are speaking to. In order to keep things harmonious, it takes work and self-control. Giving the other person the freedom to express their opinion with no objections is the best, with habitual nay-sayers. I am determined to keep peace and harmony in my life. Everyone is different and has their own tastes and temperament. It takes practice and nothing is gained in disagreements for the sake of sparring except self-aggrandizement. Erin >> This is what i have learned in life and relationships: >> [quoted text clipped - 23 lines] > > Erin Well, there IS some social interaction. So I'm not sure it's necessarily quite as black and white as you seem to portray it here. And you seem to be implying or assuming here that there is a bit of malice (I might lump "self-aggrandizement" in there). I just don't necessarily agree with that, as a carte blanche assessment. Some people just like to debate their own positions on things. Addended. >>> This is what i have learned in life and relationships: >>> [quoted text clipped - 32 lines] > as a carte blanche assessment. Some people just like to debate their own > positions on things. (But I will agree that there has been some of what you say in here, too, Erin) > >> This is what i have learned in life and relationships: > >> [quoted text clipped - 30 lines] > as a carte blanche assessment. Some people just like to debate their own > positions on things. No malice intended -- just understanding and recognition of how to keep conversations as conversations and not debates that accelerate into fights. There are different types of subjects and the academic/political/scientific are not as volatile as personal ones. I'm trying to change the personal style. Erin >>>> This is what i have learned in life and relationships: >>>> [quoted text clipped - 42 lines] > > Erin Well, that would be nice. And they say "hope springs eternal". But does it really? I think the jury is still out on that one. the triumph of hope over experience; why do you think people are religious? :-) Erin > the triumph of hope over experience; why do you think people are > religious? :-) > > Erin To believe in something Above Them, to help give them some meaning and purpose to Life. > > the triumph of hope over experience; why do you think people are > > religious? :-) [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > To believe in something Above Them, to help give them some meaning and > purpose to Life. Well, i'm not hoping for something Above Me, but something within me (above the neck:-)) that will improve my life. That's sort of religious, if you have faith in yourself. Erin |
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