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Family Forum / Marriage / Marriage / March 2009Kind of odd habit
Awhile ago my DH bought me some perfume. I thought it odd because I am more of a lotion kind of girl, but still it was a great gift. It's nice and I wear it when going "out on the town". I wanted to return the favor so I cruised the cologne area at Macy and found a few I liked. Then I spotted a particular bottle, smelled it, and it brought back many warm memories. It was the cologne my dad wore and with not many memories of him, this was wonderful. (You know how smells can jog memories). I bought it. I gave it to DH and, yes, I told him about why I chose it. He never wears it and that's okay. He has never been the type to wear much cologne. Perhaps he doesn't like the smell. Or maybe it wigs him out to think to wear it? So a couple months ago, I got out of the shower, opened the medicine cabinet and saw it there. I opened it and smelled it. It was great, so I decided to sneak a few dabs on my arm. Well, now it seems I can't stop! Everytime, after a shower/bath, I open the cabinet and dab dab dab. My DH hasn't said anything, but I guess I feel kind of weird about it. But not weird enough to stop. So, it's okay to have this odd habit right? And DH hasn't commented so I think it should be okay with him. I guess I am just nervous about him seeing the bottle start to go down and think strange of me. Maybe I should stop? Vickie > It was the cologne my dad wore and with not many memories of him, this was > wonderful. [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > Perhaps he doesn't like the smell. > Or maybe it wigs him out to think to wear it? Or maybe he thinks of it as a memento - A visual memory of lost loved ones. More like a treasured photo. > I opened it and smelled it. It was great, so I decided to sneak a few dabs > on my arm. > So, it's okay to have this odd habit right? Let's think this through. It reminds you of a lost loved one. Using it you feel better about yourself and about family present and past. I see this as smart not odd. > Maybe I should stop? You could always discuss how it it triggers feelings of love that run extremely deep and see where the discussion leads. You might ask him what will happen if he puts on a drop or two at night. Something to discuss in the morning to put it on the mind for the day. It should work out just fine. "Vickie" <vkraj...@yahoo.com> wrote: > It was the cologne my dad wore and with not many memories of him, this was > wonderful. [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > Perhaps he doesn't like the smell. > Or maybe it wigs him out to think to wear it? Or maybe he thinks of it as a memento - A visual memory of lost loved ones. More like a treasured photo. _____________ Could be. > I opened it and smelled it. It was great, so I decided to sneak a few dabs > on my arm. > So, it's okay to have this odd habit right? Let's think this through. It reminds you of a lost loved one. Using it you feel better about yourself and about family present and past. I see this as smart not odd. _______________ Honestly, I can't really pinpoint what it makes me feel. Warm and safe come close. > Maybe I should stop? You could always discuss how it it triggers feelings of love that run extremely deep and see where the discussion leads. You might ask him what will happen if he puts on a drop or two at night. Something to discuss in the morning to put it on the mind for the day. It should work out just fine. _____________________ I just think if he wanted to wear it, he would. Vickie > Awhile ago my DH bought me some perfume. > I thought it odd because I am more of a lotion kind of girl, but [quoted text clipped - 34 lines] > > Vickie I just think that it's totally marvelous that you happened across your dad's cologne brand. I recently saw the kind my mom used to wear, and even though she's still alive and hasn't worn it in many, many, years, I had a similar nostalgic warm feeling just from seeing it. Xorra >> Awhile ago my DH bought me some perfume. >> I thought it odd because I am more of a lotion kind of girl, but [quoted text clipped - 37 lines] > even though she's still alive and hasn't worn it in many, many, years, I > had a similar nostalgic warm feeling just from seeing it. Finding it kind of blew my mind. I hadn't smelled that smell since 1976. Well, actually I had an old tie of his, a godawful, wide, burgandy-colored monstrosity, lol. It held his scent for a couple years. Memories from scent is a powerful thing. Vickie > Awhile ago my DH bought me some perfume. > I thought it odd because I am more of a lotion kind of girl, but still [quoted text clipped - 34 lines] > > Vickie I think that if it is not hurting anyone and it makes you happy, go for it. What you could do is take a shower while DH is home and right before you leave the bathroom, dab a couple drops and then give your DH a big hug. Make sure you get it around his neck and then when you go to sleep (or whatever activity is good at the moment) at night you can snuggle up to him and sniff his neck for hours. If it has been a couple months since he used or smelled it, he have forgotten about it and would think that it is just your lotion so it would probably not bother him at all. mon >> Awhile ago my DH bought me some perfume. >> I thought it odd because I am more of a lotion kind of girl, but still it [quoted text clipped - 37 lines] > I think that if it is not hurting anyone and it makes you > happy, go for it. Yeah? Okay, good. It's terrible how in some things I question myself so! > What you could do is take a shower while DH is home and > right before you leave the bathroom, dab a couple drops > and then give your DH a big hug. Make sure you get it > around his neck and then when you go to sleep (or > whatever activity is good at the moment) at night you > can snuggle up to him and sniff his neck for hours. lol > If it has been a couple months since he used or smelled it, > he have forgotten about it and would think that it is > just your lotion so it would probably not bother him > at all. He has never worn it. This is a distinctly masculine scented cologne, I don't think he would think it the same as my coconut lotion! Vickie > Awhile ago my DH bought me some perfume. > I thought it odd because I am more of a lotion kind of girl, but still it [quoted text clipped - 34 lines] > > Vickie I can totally see why you would want to smell it given the memories it brings back to you. Smells are such powerful memory triggers. However, I will confess that if my husband bought me a bottle of his mom's perfume and asked me to wear it, I would find it kind of - heebie-jeebie-inducing. I mean, I don't want to smell like his MOM. (Actually, he did buy me a bottle of perfume a few years ago, not his mom's, and I rarely remember to wear that either, although I try to remember on special occasions. I'm just not much of a perfume person. But definitely not his mom's!) I think if what you're doing works for you, you should do it. He's not using it, and you're the one the scent is special for. If you can be happy having it on your own body instead of his, I think it's the perfect solution. Sarah On Mar 4, 11:59 am, "Vickie" <vkraj...@yahoo.com> wrote: > Awhile ago my DH bought me some perfume. > I thought it odd because I am more of a lotion kind of girl, but still it [quoted text clipped - 36 lines] > > Vickie I can totally see why you would want to smell it given the memories it brings back to you. Smells are such powerful memory triggers. However, I will confess that if my husband bought me a bottle of his mom's perfume and asked me to wear it, I would find it kind of - heebie-jeebie-inducing. I mean, I don't want to smell like his MOM. (Actually, he did buy me a bottle of perfume a few years ago, not his mom's, and I rarely remember to wear that either, although I try to remember on special occasions. I'm just not much of a perfume person. But definitely not his mom's!) _______________ When buying it for him, maybe I was really buying it for me. I didn't give a thought that I want my husband to smell like my dad or anything weird like that. He never met the man,.... heck, I barely met him myself. Still, probably was not one of my more brilliant ideas. :-) I think if what you're doing works for you, you should do it. He's not using it, and you're the one the scent is special for. If you can be happy having it on your own body instead of his, I think it's the perfect solution. ____________________ I do like using it, very much. Vickie > Awhile ago my DH bought me some perfume. > I thought it odd because I am more of a lotion kind of girl, but [quoted text clipped - 16 lines] > Perhaps he doesn't like the smell. > Or maybe it wigs him out to think to wear it? Or maybe it creeps him out that you gave him something that would always remind you of your father when he's with you. > X-No-archive: yes >> Awhile ago my DH bought me some perfume. [quoted text clipped - 20 lines] > Or maybe it creeps him out that you gave him something that would > always remind you of your father when he's with you. I think it is good that it brings back these memories. Vickie should tell her husband how it makes her feel. If I was her husband, I don't think I would wear it very often. Maybe when attending a family get together with her family, but that is about it. >> X-No-archive: yes >>> Awhile ago my DH bought me some perfume. [quoted text clipped - 22 lines] > > I think it is good that it brings back these memories. I do too, and I think she should continue to enjoy it to her heart's content. I'm simply addressing one possible reason why her DH might not want to wear it. > Vickie > should tell her husband how it makes her feel. I think she said that she did, but maybe I infer too much. > If I was her husband, I don't think I would wear it very often. > Maybe when attending a family get together with her family, but > that is about it. Agreed. >> X-No-archive: yes >>> Awhile ago my DH bought me some perfume. [quoted text clipped - 23 lines] > I think it is good that it brings back these memories. Vickie should tell > her husband how it makes her feel. I did tell him how it made me feel, I just didn't tell him I put it on. But I think he has had to have noticed and he is just being really cool about it. > If I was her husband, I don't think I would wear it very often. Maybe > when attending a family get together with her family, but that is about > it. Thinking on it today, now I don't think I would prefer him to wear it anyway! Vickie > X-No-archive: yes >> Awhile ago my DH bought me some perfume. [quoted text clipped - 20 lines] > Or maybe it creeps him out that you gave him something that would always > remind you of your father when he's with you. That was not my intention. But like I wrote above, it may wig him out and I can understand that. Vickie Vickie > Awhile ago my DH bought me some perfume. > I thought it odd because I am more of a lotion kind of girl, but still it [quoted text clipped - 34 lines] > > Vickie Why? Only the fashion moguls say what is "male" or "female." If you likee it, wear it. Doug L.  SignatureSuccess is getting what you want. Happiness is liking what you get. - Anonymous >> Awhile ago my DH bought me some perfume. >> I thought it odd because I am more of a lotion kind of girl, but still it [quoted text clipped - 37 lines] > Why? Only the fashion moguls say what is "male" or "female." If you likee > it, wear it. Thanks Doug. I don't spash the stuff on anyway, just a few dabs on one forearm. I just get this undefinable safe feeling when the scent floats around. Not that I have much to fear! Just saying... Vickie >> Awhile ago my DH bought me some perfume. >> I thought it odd because I am more of a lotion kind of girl, but still it [quoted text clipped - 39 lines] > Why? Only the fashion moguls say what is "male" or "female." If you likee > it, wear it. Oh, I don't know about that. I was advised (in no uncertain terms) by my ex that I wasn't gonna be able to buy and wear some of those smaller watches that I kinda liked. (As in: "those watches aren't for guys!") On Mar 12, 2:26 pm, "Bill in Co" <sassycurmudg...@earthlink.net> wrote: > >> Awhile ago my DH bought me some perfume. > >> I thought it odd because I am more of a lotion kind of girl, but still it [quoted text clipped - 43 lines] > ex that I wasn't gonna be able to buy and wear some of those smaller watches > that I kinda liked. (As in: "those watches aren't for guys!") Odd, Beams. I also wear watches that are unisex--designed for either men or women. I have one black one, one brown one, and neither cost more than 30 bucks. I still know how to read time on a clock face :) > On Mar 12, 2:26 pm, "Bill in Co" <sassycurmudg...@earthlink.net> > wrote: [quoted text clipped - 54 lines] > men or women. I have one black one, one brown one, and neither cost > more than 30 bucks. I still know how to read time on a clock face :) Unisex watches? Interesting. :-) My watch has the analog hands (old school). I like that better than the digital readouts (thanks, but no thanks). On Mar 12, 11:20 pm, "Bill in Co" <sassycurmudg...@earthlink.net> wrote: > > On Mar 12, 2:26 pm, "Bill in Co" <sassycurmudg...@earthlink.net> > > wrote: [quoted text clipped - 58 lines] > My watch has the analog hands (old school). I like that better than the > digital readouts (thanks, but no thanks). I once purchased a digital watch and I couldn't figure out how to program anything. With my analog, it's easy to wind around and easy to push the alarm button. Just my speed! > On Mar 12, 11:20 pm, "Bill in Co" <sassycurmudg...@earthlink.net> > wrote: [quoted text clipped - 70 lines] > program anything. With my analog, it's easy to wind around and easy to > push the alarm button. Just my speed! Exactly! I get a kick out of those who are so delighted to have the fanciest watches and other gizmos but then need to carry an instruction booklet along with them to know how to get it to do most anything. I mean, what's the point? "Less is More" seems quite apropos here. And ditto on the digital microwave ovens with all their programming "features". (I can beat them to the punch with my old analog one, by just turning the Dial and pushing Start, and it's DONE! And NOT having to push a dozen buttons just to heat up a cup of coffee! On Mar 13, 2:30 pm, "Bill in Co" <sassycurmudg...@earthlink.net> wrote: > > On Mar 12, 11:20 pm, "Bill in Co" <sassycurmudg...@earthlink.net> > > wrote: [quoted text clipped - 82 lines] > turning the Dial and pushing Start, and it's DONE! And NOT having to push > a dozen buttons just to heat up a cup of coffee! Lots of ppl don't need the instructions, tho--I suppose they are the point. Funny about microwaves! I have one, and I always put in repetitive numbers: ie, 4:44 or 2:22 or :33 (for coffee reheat). That, to me, is controlled programming! I keep my thermostat on manual, so my home is usually about 64-66 degrees. They wanted me to do this daily programming thing, and I said, my days are not enough alike for that to be conserving for me! > On Mar 13, 2:30 pm, "Bill in Co" <sassycurmudg...@earthlink.net> > wrote: [quoted text clipped - 90 lines] > Lots of ppl don't need the instructions, tho--I suppose they are the > point. For all the extra features? Maybe the kids can remember, but how many adults can?? Even remembering how to reset the day and time on a landline telephone answering machine (remember those?) often requires one. > Funny about microwaves! I have one, and I always put in repetitive > numbers: ie, 4:44 or 2:22 or :33 (for coffee reheat). That, to me, is > controlled programming! When I've been over to someone else's house and used their MW oven to reheat coffee, I've done something similar. But it would have been a lot simpler (and IS a lot simpler) to do it the old fashioned way. Plus - you forgot you first had to select Low, Med, or High heat in addition to punching in those silly numbers :-) > I keep my thermostat on manual, so my home is usually about 64-66 > degrees. They wanted me to do this daily programming thing, and I > said, my days are not enough alike for that to be conserving for me! Exactly. Less Is More. and KISS. (old school) :-) On Mar 13, 9:16 pm, "Bill in Co" <sassycurmudg...@earthlink.net> wrote: > > On Mar 13, 2:30 pm, "Bill in Co" <sassycurmudg...@earthlink.net> > > wrote: [quoted text clipped - 104 lines] > you first had to select Low, Med, or High heat in addition to punching in > those silly numbers :-) Not my microwave. Just the numbers and start! How's the weekend looking for you? I just got my hair cut. How exciting. She put in extra grey, I think... > > I keep my thermostat on manual, so my home is usually about 64-66 > > degrees. They wanted me to do this daily programming thing, and I > > said, my days are not enough alike for that to be conserving for me! > > Exactly. > Less Is More. and KISS. (old school) :-) > And ditto on the digital microwave ovens with all their programming > "features". (I can beat them to the punch with my old analog one, > by just turning the Dial and pushing Start, and it's DONE! And NOT > having to push a dozen buttons just to heat up a cup of coffee! I dunno...we just got a new microwave. On our old one, the only feature we ever used really was "express cook" where you could set it from 1 to 6 minutes with the push of a single button. But this new one impresses me. Yesterday I wanted to make a cheese ball and needed to soften some cream cheese. So I went to the soften menu, and sure enough, there was a setting for cream cheese! I could even choose the 8oz or 3 oz package! And it did indeed "soften" it, without turning it into a block sitting in a pool of liquid. I've found a lot of their presets to work really well. I mean, yeah, if all you ever want to do is heat up a up of coffee, I guess the analog works fine. But in my older ones, I never was able to get the power level/time ratio right to say, heat up sauce without splattering it all over the oven, or defrost meat without cooking some of it, and so on. Xorra > > And ditto on the digital microwave ovens with all their programming > > "features". (I can beat them to the punch with my old analog one, [quoted text clipped - 15 lines] > > Xorra I went to a gathering and had the best cheese ball I'd ever tasted. It was covered with dried beef and just delicious. You have the recipe for that one Xorra? >>> And ditto on the digital microwave ovens with all their programming >>> "features". (I can beat them to the punch with my old analog one, [quoted text clipped - 21 lines] > was covered with dried beef and just delicious. You have the recipe > for that one Xorra? Coincidentally, the one I made was covered with dried beef. :-) I don't know if it's the same one, but we really like it. Here is the recipe I use: 2 8oz packs of cream cheese 1/4 cup minced onion 1 cup finely grated cheddar 3/4 cup finely grated Monterey Jack 1/2 teaspoon Worcester sauce 1 pack of dried beef. Beat the cream cheese to soften. Add the onion, Worcester sauce and cheeses. Finish mixing with your hands. Divide mixure and form into two balls. Roll in minced dried beef, and refrigerate to harden. I don't eat nuts, so I like the idea of the dried beef instead. Xorra > >>> And ditto on the digital microwave ovens with all their programming > >>> "features". (I can beat them to the punch with my old analog one, [quoted text clipped - 39 lines] > > Xorra Thanks! I won't know if it's the same one either, until I try it--I think there may have been some red pepper and garlic in there. I'll use your recipe for my base and play from there! Thanks Xorra! |
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