Family Forum / Marriage / Marriage / June 2009

Hi,

    Either love marriage or arranged marriage, both have its own
consequences. One thing is that  people always say love marriage is
against to wishes of their parents and family members. But if we have
convincing capability,we can make all kind of marriages into arranged
one.

The marriage is for phosphorous life. At the end we need to happy and
hence think before proceed. That so we say "Marriage in haste ,repent
later in leisure".

Today inter caste marriages also  accepted widely and it is no more
valid point for argument. Other things like financial health of girl
and boy, their adjust-ability and understanding levels matters  to a
large extent and this points need to understand by the lovers/one who
marry and not your relatives or parents.

There is a hidden answer in your question itself-"if we have any
problem after marriage no one will help us ". Here is a challenge in
life. If you loved right one at the first instant instead of just
following style, beauty and attractions etc...you never come across
the problems.

The society neglects the love marriages because  the boy or girl never
understand the future life goals and the hurdles that they may across.
They only  plan  for 2-3 years  which is  not enough for marriage, it
must be ,of course ,plan till next generation or at least 75 years or
till death. Have you discussed  your goals and plan  with your darling
for at least 75 years...! If yes,call your parents and explain it.
even if  they not agreed and you are sure of plan you can go ahead
with your lover.

Ok...best of luck for your marriage.....!

Being in an arranged marriage means you most likely are very religious, from
the same culture, have very prescribed gender roles and extreme family
pressure to make the marriage work. You suck it up.  Personal happiness and
fulfillment are not important.