Family Forum / Marriage / Marriage / July 2009

Hi,

my name is Ernst. I give you an introduction to my problem:

My wife is very nice, I really love her. We have two childrens age 4 and
5. Everything went fine, until at the age of 4 the older one behaved
strangely.

She started to read and started to figure out multiplication. After some
fights my wife agreed to test her fot IQ. Well, the diagnosis was
gifted. "Great!" said my wife and stopped reading the report when she
comes to the recommendations.

Long story made short; I bought some literature, never read by her.
Okay, the relationship went on reasonable, I accepted my fate to take
the guidance. My wife is very proud, she has some gifted children in her
family, must be from her. Genes. I was tested 140 as a teenager, but
nobody told me, what it means. "Einstein was 180, so that is normal."

After some quarrels she told me, she was tested was 80, still normel.
Well, not really... and I don't believe it... and so on...

However, even if it is true, it doesn't matter.

Now some problems occur:

1. the 5 years old told mummy: "Don't be sad, maybe some day I will find
a question you can answer."

2. the 4 years old told me: "I don't like to play memory with mummy,
because she can not find a pair."

Both are going to a chess club now. Both can swim, the younger one could
handle an indoor swimming pool and could dive 4 yards to pick up a ring.

The older is scared of watching TV, but likes to watch Tschaikowski,
Prokoview (Nurejev) and Wagner's Ring.

Congratulations, I would say, but there is a bitte taste.

Now my wife blocks everything. She doesn't go to Chess, declares to the
childrens, it's not good for them. She cancelled gymnastics, swimming
and social activities with other children (some disappointments, when
they tried to show the beauty of chess and opera to her friends).

She moved out of the sleeping room, okay. I can understand, she is
scared. She wants me to practice again, but she can not really entertain
the children. She plays no board games, she's never reading, she watches
only the celebrity channel or CNN. She always stays in the house, no
contacts to everyone, except one friend abroad, who has financial trouble.

How can I approach this problem?

Any advice appreciated!

Best regards,

Ernst