Family Forum / Marriage / Marriage / May 2006

ddnoe wrote:

A long time ago in a cafeteria far, far away
I teased some co-workers.

There were three of us at the table, all
married men with at least 10 years into the
relationship.  A younger fellow comes over
and sits down and eventually he looks at us
with a serious look on his face and said:

"You're all married for a long time.  I've
been thinking about getting married.  You
get more 'play', right?"

All three of us stared at him like he had
just grown a second head.  I was the first
to speak, though, saying "No, that's not a
good reason to get married because that's
not how it ends up working."

The other two were nodding.

The young fellow asked "What do you mean?"

I sighed.  "Z, you know about that research
that says that men fantasize about having
sex every couple of minutes, right?"

He nodded, acknowledging that.

I then added "Well, women fantasize about
NOT having sex."

The other two married men are looking at
me, one is nodding and the other comments
"C'mon, Jack, that's not all of it, is it?"

A mental lightning bolt hit me over how I
could *really* say something funny, so I
grunted and said, as seriously as I could
to rattle his cage, "You're right, Dave.
Y'see, Z, women fantasize about NOT having
sex... and still getting work out of their
husbands."

This time both of the two married men did
smile and give me a thumb's up, with one
telling me "Nailed it" then turned to the
youngster and, rubbing it in, said "That
make sense to you?"

And to think we hadn't rehearsed this.

In subsequent lunch-time discussions he
never brought up the subject of marriage
again.

I know, really, that it's bullshit, y'know?
Because, really, it's not *always* true...
and really only represents one end of the
bell curve.

That being said, somehow I doubt that there
are many men who believe they get enough
(or "more than enough") sexual attention
from their spouse, but, then, it may be in
the nature of the beast.

So, really, it's likely more a matter of
"subjective perception" influencing one's
perception of the sexual aspect of their
marriage based upon how one feels.

How's that for a non-answer?

Hopefully someone got a laugh out of the
little discussion I described above.

That makes no sense.

its bullshit man !!! I feel for ya .I just posted a good one check it
out .Same probs as anyone just about