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How do you get out of a marriage if your spouse wont leave? I have only been married 5 years but its fife years too long. Ower first year together was great, he was my prince charming. The DAY after we said I do everything changed. At first I didnt want to be rude because I thought his new attitude came from the fact that he was legally devorced 6 months before he remarried. The fact that I loved him so much and understood his horrable upbringing keep me from being my self and telling him off. Even after he hit me when I was pregnant with his baby. I believed that he just needed to realize life isnt all about pain and misery. I thought after talking about ower problems for over 2 years he understood that if he was mad all he had to do is calmly tell me and we could work it out. We moved and things got increasing worse. Not so much the hitting (that part got better) but the mental was so bad. Three months ago I tried to slit my wrist after telling him I'd rather die then llive with him another day. Since then he has gotten better he's not abusing me at all but he still so angry every day. The only time he comes home happy is when he wants to have sex. I have told him thats not enouph for me and I cant be with someone so deressing. The police wont make him leave unless he touches me again. So how do I convince him to leave? On Mar 29, 10:15 am, dconn...@gmail.com wrote: > How do you get out of a marriage if your spouse wont leave? I have > only been married 5 years but its fife years too long. Ower first year [quoted text clipped - 16 lines] > deressing. The police wont make him leave unless he touches me again. > So how do I convince him to leave? YOU leave!! I'm sure there are shelters in your area for abused women. Call your local police department and ask them for information. You don't wait for a man who hits and mentally abuses you to leave first. > On Mar 29, 10:15 am, dconn...@gmail.com wrote: > [quoted text clipped - 25 lines] > > - Show quoted text - Im terrified of taking the kids to a shelter. I know how stupid that sounds considering being here isnt much better but at least they know ower home. On Mar 29, 8:29 am, dconn...@gmail.com wrote: > > On Mar 29, 10:15 am, dconn...@gmail.com wrote: > [quoted text clipped - 31 lines] > > - Show quoted text - Hey...... I took my kids to a shelter. It's not forever. It's better than being stuck out on the street at 4 am. It's also better than living the hell of a horrible relationship. The shelter has links to programs and services that can help you, be it starting up on your own or acquiring counselling to repair your damaged relationship and get your husband some help. > > YOU leave!! I'm sure there are shelters in your area for abused > > women. Call your local police department and ask them for [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > sounds considering being here isnt much better but at least they know > ower home. Do you have any relatives who would put you up temporarily? Or is there any money for a hotel/apartment? > How do you get out of a marriage if your spouse wont leave? I have > only been married 5 years but its fife years too long. Ower first year [quoted text clipped - 16 lines] > deressing. The police wont make him leave unless he touches me again. > So how do I convince him to leave? I don't know - but he can't make you stay, if you want to leave. You could just move out yourself. When I was 5 years old my mother took myself and younger brother to a shelter. I was confused, but I knew we were safe. I knew my mother was safe and on the path to becoming happy once again. I'm not encouraging a shelter, that would be an alternate choice in my mind, first try family and friends. My mother did not really have an option. I think if you want something bad enough, the only thing that can hold you back is your own mind. The question you should ask yourself is, what's the worse or the two options, my children living with this man (who can abuse a child as they get older and begin to remind him of you, their mother) or getting out of there and giving them and yourself a better chance at a better life hunny. It all comes down to your will. On Mar 30, 11:32 am, Barbara.johnsonca...@nmci.usmc.mil wrote: > When I was 5 years old my mother took myself and younger brother to a > shelter. I was confused, but I knew we were safe. I knew my mother was [quoted text clipped - 7 lines] > their mother) or getting out of there and giving them and yourself a > better chance at a better life hunny. It all comes down to your will. The funny thing is Im 23 and for some reason Im affraid of what my dad will think. He keeps telling me it would break his heart to see another marriage go down. We both just resently had to kick my sister out of ower lives and I kicked my mom out too. He's still working on that one. They are crack addicts who believe invisable people touch them in the shower. I never had much of a family until all this came out. Now I have a relationship with my dad and Im scared of dissapointing him. He has no clue whats going on. I keep telling my self Im 23 Im a big girl now and I have to make choices based on whats good for me. But when I talk to him its so sad and Im trying so hard to help him I dont want to hit him with another bomb shell. He thinks I have an almost perfect life now. He has told me several times now that if it wasnt for my supporting him he would of killed himself by now. Thats why I want my husband to leave. If he goes I dont have to explain as much. |
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