Family Forum / Marriage / Marriage / April 2007

A friend of mine from Europe came to visit me
for a week and we got along so well that it makes
me think he is my soulmate for life.
I could feel that he also fell in love with me
and at the time he was leaving the city
he gave me a scented chocolate candle
and a beautifully wrapped book.
We talked about his current girlfriend and
he said that he was not that into her
while she somehow tricked him into saying
`I love you' all the time by saying "and...?" at
the end of their conversation.
Somehow I did not realize I was in love with him
back then and was not jealous of anything, I just joked
"and...and..' then he really popped the words "I love you"
to me. All of a sudden I did not know what to
do. I just pretended that I did not hear it and we
kept our conversation and the friendship is intact.
After he left I started to feel I missed him so very much and
I am really in love with him.

My headache is that his girlfriend
is moving to Europe to live with him.
I regreted that I pretended that I did not feel much towards
him at the time he was around me. I really did not realize
that I was in love with him, I have not dated anybody for 2 years and
I knew he has a girlfriend so I never allowed myself to love him.

Now I am in deep water since I could not forget about him,
I believe that he is the ONE. He has not called me or emailed me since
he returned London 3 days ago. At the airport when I was seeing him
off, I stood in a big distance from him, but he kissed me goodbye.
I pretended to be just friendly, but he reached out his one hand
and held my hand before he ran off to catch the plane.

I knew he likes me a lot for sure. But I do not know what he is going
to do
with his moving-in girlfriend. What should I do? I am totally lost
here.
Please help me!!!