Family Forum / Marriage / Marriage / April 2007

It would be smarter to move to Ontario, where same sex marriage has
been legal for several years.
The surgery is huge, not something anyone would take on unless they
really, really, REALLY wanted to be a woman - transgendered is not the
same thing as a transsexual. I also doubt any sane doctor would do a
surgical alteration for the reasons you provide.

Counselling, and quick!

M

Absolutely NOT! Sex reassignment surgery is not an option "for us"!

Do you know any facts about "SRS"? First of all, it is definitely not
just a surgery. Once a program site has been carefully selected, the
prospect goes through a very thorough screening process. This process is
designed to eliminate everyone is not a genuine transsexual. Once
candidacy is granted, and prior to surgery, there is a nearly endless
series of hoops to jump through. Some years ago, the team at Vanderbilt
determined that I didn't want to be Andrea Beck, I just didn't want to
be Michael Ball; so, I was not admitted as a candidate.

No team worth a damn with admit your friend, just because he wants a
different toy box. You said, "he's already a transvestite..." Being a
transvestite is Not a step toward becoming a transsexual. A candidate
must dress in gender of choice for a prescribed period, but that does
not make one a transvestite.

One's inner drive for sex reassignment is always stronger than the
suggestion, encouragement or nagging of a self-centered mate. If it is
different with your friend, he should not pursue sex reassignment.
Perhaps he doesn't really want to be a woman: he just wants to be
married to you. A good team will discover than, and deny admission.

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