Supposed to be getting married????!

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Stamp - 30 May 2007 01:27 GMT

Hi All,

Supposed to be getting married in a weeks time, and my bride to be has just
told me while coming home after a few too many that she has had sex with
another man while out on her hen party?!?!

She told me "I had sex with another man, please forgive me". But I hit the
roof then she went to bed, now I am sitting here at the moment thinking,
like hell I am going through with any wedding if this is what she has done
already.

Any advice people?

As at the moment, I am ready to pack her bags so to speak and throw her out.
But, I might wait till morning and ask her what the hell happened during the
night, if I get the same answer again, would others forget about the wedding
in a week? Ok, its supposed to be the last night of freedom but still...I
wouldn't do it....

I'm gutted to here this tonight.... :-(

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S.D. - 30 May 2007 01:44 GMT

> As at the moment, I am ready to pack her bags so to speak and throw her out.

Wait until she sobers up... and find out what she defines as "had sex"
with another man. Then, if it's true - you have a big decision to make.
If it were me, and she confirms such --- I'd say her moral structure
isn't up to the standards I would want in a woman, wife or the mother of
my children. Also, you have to ask yourself how likely is it that she
would do something akin in the future; if not the same, and of course
she'd be drunk.

You have to say to yourself; the period surrounding getting marriage is
founded on enthusiastic pure love --- the one time when having an affair
is least likely. So, it's a stretch to wonder if this is her way of
finding a way out.

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Janiegirl98 - 30 May 2007 01:52 GMT

> Hi All,
>
> Supposed to be getting married in a weeks time, and my bride to be has just
> told me while coming home after a few too many that she has had sex with
> another man while out on her hen party?!?!

A good question to ask yourself is if you can trust her. If you can't
trust her right now which is probably likely considering what
happened, you may need to postpone the wedding. Pay attention to how
she continues to carry herself. Tell her you still want to marry her
but you need time to trust her again. If she runs off or comes up with
some lame excuse, then she probably isn't in love with you. It goes
back to that saying, actions speak louder than words.

Janie
http://whatsociallife.blogspot.com

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Supposed to be getting married????!