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Am I totally at fault

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nrthflamale123@yahoo.com - 29 Jul 2007 22:41 GMT
I have been married for 26 years but the last 4 years have been really
hard.  After my wife's Hysterectomy her sex drive took a nose dive.
She said she no longer had feelings down there and could not have an
orgasim.  At first she would still have sex but later stopped wanting
to have sex at all.  I had to start asking, then begging to have sex
with her and the most likely answer I got was NO.  When she did decide
to have sex, it was ususally answered with a "I guess so, but make it
quick."  During the past few months, when I convinced her to have sex,
she would lay on the bed on her stomach and just let me pound away.
Of course she would ask if I was thru yet, or would say that if I did
not cum soon she was going to get dressed.  Now here is the real
kicker.  A month ago we were visiting her sister and had consumed a
lot of beer.  We settled down for the evening to watch a movie with
the lights turned down wher her sister laying on the love seat with me
at the end of it in a rocking chair.  During the movie, I looked over
at my sister in law to see her laying there with her legs spread wide,
sleeping, and I had a unobstructed view of her pussy.  I sat there
staring at it for a while.  I started to rub her foot that she had
been asking me all day to rub for her.(she had injured it a few years
ago).  One thing let to another and I eventually had started rubbing
my way down to her a.s and began slowing rubbing it.  As I got braver,
I started to work my finger into her shorts and started to place a
finger onto her pussy and rubbed it softly.  She just lay there an
never seemed to wake up.  She had consumed a lot of beer so I figured
she must really be out of it.  I moved my hand around to her front and
started to work my finger back to her pussy and began to rub her
clit.  I could see her pelvis move slightly and this only made me want
to go further.  I gently inserted my finger into the folds of her
outter lips and rubbed softly.  Eventually she started to stir some so
I withdrew my finger and brought it up to my nose and breathed in the
smell of her pussy.  I got up and went to the bathroom to masturbate.
Precum was litterly dripping form the end of my dick.

The next night, again after a day of drinking, and my sister in law
flashing me a full frontal nude twice after we had gotten out of the
pool, I could hardly wait until she fell asleep.  Again I played with
her until she began to stir.  The following day is where I screwed up
royalily.  She lay down to take a nap and I reached between her legs
and touch her pussy.  She woke up and told my wife what I had done.
Now I am in the process of trying to patch up my marriage and will not
likely ever be welcome to her sister's house.  I know I should have
not done it, but damn it was the most exciting thing I had done in
along time.  I keep telling myself that I should have not done it but
at the same time, I have a feeling that I had been pushed into it
somehow.  I wonder if I had not been baited in some way.  What do you
think?
Talos - 30 Jul 2007 00:55 GMT
>I have been married for 26 years but the last 4 years have been really
>hard.  After my wife's Hysterectomy her sex drive took a nose dive.
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>somehow.  I wonder if I had not been baited in some way.  What do you
>think?

You cheated on your wife with your sister in law.  You did it, live up
to it.  You may have been craving intimacy with a woman, any woman, but
it was still cheating.  It's not a matter of ethics, or circumstances.  
It is facts.

Talos
LarryG - 30 Jul 2007 01:40 GMT
On Jul 29, 4:41 pm, "nrthflamale...@yahoo.com"
<nrthflamale...@yahoo.com> wrote:
> I have been married for 26 years but the last 4 years have been really
> hard.  After my wife's Hysterectomy her sex drive took a nose dive.
[quoted text clipped - 42 lines]
> somehow.  I wonder if I had not been baited in some way.  What do you
> think?

You need the help of three professionals:
1. A medical doctor - to assess if your wife's loss of libido can be
corrected.
2. A therapist - you are now a sex offender - whether convicted or not
- you still need to correct you issues with boundaries after violating
your sister-in-law.
3. A lawyer (maybe two) - you may need to defend against charges of
criminal sexual misconduct.  And even if not, you may wish to opt for
divorce.  Your wife has a right to her own body, you don't have a
right
to it.  However, loss of libido and an unwillingness to correct it to
help sustain your relationships is tantamount to abandonment.

Abandonment, even if only sexually, is grounds for divorce.

Best of luck,
Larry G.
S.D. - 30 Jul 2007 18:48 GMT
>  I wonder if I had not been baited in some way.

Not likely - but, could be so - course you'll never know:-)  

What you will know is the pain and shame that comes from letting your
little head control your perving behavior; at the cost of a 26 year of
marriage.

Actually, I would wonder about your wife's mental state and the rest of
those aware of your actions, if they forgave you at all.  And, maybe do
some praying - cause your behavior bordered rape.  If I was the husband
of your sister-in-law - you'd have two broken knee caps and maybe a
concussion!!!  

You crossed a number of sacred lines.  I wouldn't be surprised if the
word gets out to both sides of the family's, and your told to stay away
permanently.  Such behavior could easily result is NObody trusting you
whatsoever.  
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Mary_Gordon@tvo.org - 30 Jul 2007 19:42 GMT
OP wrote: What do you think?

Mary responds: I think you are lucky she didn't call the cops.
 
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