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Family Forum / Marriage / Marriage / August 2007Ideas?
It appears I am back and out from hiding... Just looking for the usual advice. This is mainly for the guys, out of maybe personal experience or what they'd want, and for the ladies, what you have done. Guys: What would be the one thing that your wife/girlfriend/SO could say or do that would just be like music to your ears? What would be that one special thing that she could do for you that would just make you feel like you're dancing inside. A gift? A word? A letter? A hug? A kiss? Something sentimental? Ok, you get the point. In an ideal world and an ideal life, if your SO could do one thing for you to bring you up and up (and I'm not talking something best saved for behind doors, but something/experience that could be shared with others) and just make you rethink everything and just make you feel so good? Ladies: Basically, same thing. Has there been something you have said, done, given to your hubby that has just made him want to prance around happy? Right now, I feel like I'm kind of in a situation. I want to elevate it for better, not escalate it worse. I want to do something extra special. I want to make him know for sure that he's that one special person, almost like do something that will hammer home that he is loved and appreciated. I have some ideas, but looking for some more ideas to work with and come up with something fantastic. Romantic, loving, caring, thoughtful. Any stories or ideas or suggestions? > Ladies: > Basically, same thing. Has there been something you have said, done, [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] > loving, caring, thoughtful. > Any stories or ideas or suggestions? I'll give it a go, but you might need a totally different set of operating instructions for your specific model husband. :) Let's see. You have three young children, I think? My husband has always been a great hands-on kind of father but he would really appreciate it when our children were tiny if I sent him off to do something purely for himself for the day occasionally. I'd have to shovel him out the door but he'd come back happy and relaxed and as if I'd done him a great favour. In the last few weeks he's had one virus after another and didn't eat for several days. I was starting to get really worried so one Sunday morning I got up early and made him chicken soup. He was really pleased (easily satisfied, eh? :) ) and although he enjoyed eating it I think it worked best because it made him feel cared for. So think about how your husband likes you to show him you really care about his well-being and choose from those gestures. Chances are your man will have a completely different set to mine, of course. You've got the closed door stuff covered, I think? Do something a little different and give him a manicure, pedicure and hand and foot massages. Get the kids to make a banner for an impromptu Dad's Day then fuss over him for the evening. Make up a picnic dinner for the whole family and go somewhere pretty to eat it. Write him a love letter from your heart. Do one or more of the jobs he does around the house to give him a break and to show that you do appreciate how much he does for your family. Someone else will have to help you with the fantastic ideas, I'm hopeless at those! Good luck. :) > It appears I am back and out from hiding... > Just looking for the usual advice. [quoted text clipped - 25 lines] > > Any stories or ideas or suggestions? What is your man like? Depends on who he is. Introvert/extrovert Jock/non-jock humorous/serious likes to get it on/not so high a libido If you would like to share a bit more, I'll take a stab at it. To get that one certain word or thing to knock his socks off, you have to know the man. Vickie >> It appears I am back and out from hiding... >> Just looking for the usual advice. [quoted text clipped - 47 lines] > > Vickie Alright, I'll give this one a shot. He is more of a follower than anything. He will follow a suggestion from someone else (good or bad) to try and impress them. He does try to impress people and show that person who is he or it seems more like who he would ideally like to be in that person's eyes so they'll like him. He isn't one to really strike up a random convo, but he is friendly to others. He's not the type to start a random conversation with a random person standing beside him in the line at the movies. He likes to work with his hands. Give him a power tool of some sort and he's happy (but I do not have the money to just go get some power tool at the moment LOL) he likes to talk about himself. He enjoys riding his bike, he was once really active like that. He's not really so much anymore. His type of a joke is one that is the obvious funny. He often misses sarcastic or dry humor, and if something is said that is not said in a basic flat tone, he can often take that and turn it around and blow it out of proportion (as in, words seem to need to be choosen carefully as not to allow for this misconception) His libido is extremely high. He would go at it 3 times a day if that was a possibility, maybe even more. He loves hugs and even more than that, he loves kisses and that type of stuff. He's not really into much like watching football or hockey or sports. He's not much of a drinker. He's into tv shows and movies that are along the lines of sci-fi (he watches a lot of Star Treks and similar) but not much of a reader. He likes video and computer games a fair bit. He's a cat person and loves fish as well. He likes music, and somewhat of a variety from techno, rap to older rock stuff. And random this and that in between. He'd much rather write things down (feelings, issues, thoughts, etc) than speak them out loud, and he'd rather read about feelings, issues and thoughts on paper than have them said to him. Other than that, there's probably more, but that's an idea? Well, I think you have plenty to work with. :-) He sounds like a person who likes to please people, so let him take a break from that. Do a early bike ride together, then go downtown and let him purchase a new video game. When home tell him to play for awhile and you handle the kids or house or what have you. Make sure to get a sitter for the evening. Got out to dinner or make a nice meal. Then tell him he needs to check his email. (You have already posted some nice thoughts about him and how much you love and appreciate him.) Also on the email include a map to where your randevu will be. When he gets to your destination (bath/shower, kitchen, couch, bed, etc. wherever you choose), pop in a tape of his favorite CD and get-it- on! Or something like that, lol. Vickie > It appears I am back and out from hiding... > Just looking for the usual advice. [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] > dancing inside. A gift? A word? A letter? A hug? A kiss? Something > sentimental? Ok, you get the point. Well, maybe I'm very easily pleased. But a spontaneous hug and a kiss, and some words of affection do it for me. |
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