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Family Forum / Marriage / Marriage / July 2008Sorry
I started a post to see if I could get some help with my life at this point as a married person. I know that having children young may have a great impact on my married life but as I have said in my post, thats all I wanted was help with the married life....I know what parental classes are because I have been to them for a year. and yes I have learned things and Im sure I will learn something new every day as a new mom and when they grow up and move out....I wanted help with my husband not with my child...thats why I got defensive because I hear the same thing every day "How old are you??? your married??? you have a child allready??? your too young for that arnt you???" Thats all I hear every day of my life when I go to the store and they see my rings...or I always hear "oh you have some cute little brother and I have to tell them the difference!!!! that HARD for me to do when I see them look at me with disgust in their eyes.....so coming in here I thought that maybe I wouldnt be looked at like...some people seem to understand me, but others just seem to want to talk about how Im so young with a child!!!! I here that alllllll the time and Im sick of it. I am sorry about what I said and how I said it...it was not mature of me and I hope you understand where Im coming from with this Thank you for all the help > I started a post to see if I could get some help with my life at this > point [quoted text clipped - 19 lines] > wouldnt be looked at like...some people seem to understand me, but others > just seem to want to talk about how Im so young with a child!!!! Others?? No, you just mean AY, who likes to toy with people as part of a game. So don't let it get to you. He's got his own issues and problems, and likes to take it out on others. And probably a few of us do that, at least at some point in time! > I hear that > alllllll the time and Im sick of it. I am sorry about what I said and how [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > from with this > Thank you for all the help More poison being spewed by the 'lil guy. >> I started a post to see if I could get some help with my life at this >> point [quoted text clipped - 13 lines] >> from with this >> Thank you for all the help Yes thats exactly who I mean...AY >>> I started a post to see if I could get some help with my life at this >>> point [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > >Yes thats exactly who I mean...AY And its obvious he has a bit of self-projection himself...He dont like to hear what you have to say and he just likes playing silly little games........ .....Your spilling some poison little guy :) ROTFLMAOWPIMP > ROTFLMAOWPIMP At least you can laugh at yourself. That's an improvement. Now work on your spelling. > Yes thats exactly who I mean...AY What newsreader are you using? >> Yes thats exactly who I mean...AY > > What newsreader are you using? I think she's here (and in other newsgroups) just to drum up business for that horrid sneaky usenet archiver she's posting through - familykb. >>> Yes thats exactly who I mean...AY >> [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > business for that horrid sneaky usenet archiver she's posting through > - familykb. <shrug> I was gonna suggest using the KF, but I guess that's out. >>> Yes thats exactly who I mean...AY >> >> What newsreader are you using? > > I think she's here (and in other newsgroups) just to drum up business for > that horrid sneaky usenet archiver she's posting through - familykb. You're kidding, right? >>>> Yes thats exactly who I mean...AY >>> [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] > > You're kidding, right? Nope. It happens from time to time. Don't feel bad, Tara, and don't let those people that question you or look at you funny get to you. Truthfully, a lot of those people might be a little jealous. If not now, in time they will be. Like I said in an earlier post, I am just starting out with my children in my mid 30s. When they leave to go to college, I will be in my mid 50s. You.....you will be the age I am now, when your kids are college aged. Hey, I'm jealous. You are young enough and have the energy enough to keep up with your kid and any more to come. When they are grown, you will still be young and have lots of energy and many years to enjoy grandchildren and the like. >I started a post to see if I could get some help with my life at this point > as a married person. I know that having children young may have a great [quoted text clipped - 25 lines] > from with this > Thank you for all the help Eh, I was pregnant at 17 and UNMARRIED. I understand a bit of what you're feeling! I had 2 children by the time I was 20(one was days before my 20th bday). I have come such a long way since then, one of the kids is a teenager now and neither one of them are damaged. Nowadays, the thought of having children in my late 20's or later is horrifying to me... I don't condone having kids at such a young age, but when it happens it's happened and the age thing needs to be left out. I've met really crappy new moms in their 30's. Really, all the bumps smooth out over time. Don't worry so much about how others see you. Sue seems to be one of the most sensible and level-headed parents I've come across, she probalby wasn't thinking of your age at all when giving advice about taking classes. Alot of parents do that for social time, or just for some help. And just so you can hear a different point of view about this- many women who go on about how young you are...were young moms themselves, in a less-forgiving time. You're not going to hear about that part. I don't know how many times some old lady has tsked about something at me, and then I find out she did the *same thing*. Hell, my own mom got pregnant at 15, then when I was older she gave me the idea that pregnant teenagers were horribly sinful and should be ashamed. Marie |
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