Family Forum / Parenting / Mothers / November 2007

LOL... not even talking about Chewy this time!

I'm at the boys' house, doing my laundry.  I had to drive Chewy to
work at 7am, so I figured I'd bring the laundry into town and do it
here (cheaper than the laundra-mat).  The boys were all asleep (or so
I thought), so I figured I'd just do my laundry out here (washer and
dryer are on the carport) and not disturb them.  About halfway through
the first load, one of YS's housemates - *not* TF - came out to smoke
a cigarette.  I asked if I'd woken him up, and he said no.  Then he
turned around and went back in.  No invitation into the house, no
nuthin'.

Now I've been here 3+ hours, standing on the carport, my laptop
plugged in so I can piggy-back on their wireless connection while
laundry's running.

My feet and legs are KILLING me!  My back's not doing too badly, but I
think that's 'cuz I had 2 "dirty bong waters" last night... hehehe...
took some of the kinks out of my shoulders.  They don't feel like
rocks this morning.

But what the hey?!?!?!  My grandparents and Mom would have knocked the
living daylights out of any of us who'd left someone standing on the
carport for 3+ hours!  This boy has absolutely NO manners - and he's
the one who's *MY* age.  YS and TF would *never* do anything like
that.

Oh, and as for Chewy....

He talked to me a bit last night about all the stuff we've been going
through, how he feels like he can't stop screwing up, how he feels
like I'm distancing myself from him (duh!), and how much the things
his counselor has been telling him bothers him.  He doesn't want to
hear it.  He doesn't want to fix himself, 'cause it hurts too much to
do a truthful self-inventory.  I told him to stop focusing on not
screwing up, and to focus instead on doing the things he'd done
during  the 15 good days we had just over a month ago... which were
the reason I started staying at home again.  At least I was smart
enough to leave half my stuff at my friend's house.

He started getting all down at the mouth about it, and I told him to
go read that book the counselor gave him, and to focus on the 2.5 page
list of things husbands should do to improve their marriages.

Then later, after I'd had those 2 dirty bong waters (absolutely
DELICIOUS! ... and kick-butt! - literally... lol), I asked him to
think about why 1) he doesn't do the assignments his counselor gives
him and 2) he gets so upset about what his counselor tells him.

The damn man!  He's a good man - when he's not all wound up in all his
old, old, OLD baggage.  I wish he'd just let it all go.

Anyhow.... I'm standing out here, bored out of my skull 'cause NOONE's
posting today.  LOL... I've got the last load in the washer and my
reds in the dryer, so I'll only be here another hour or so.

Kitten