Family Forum / Parenting / Mothers / March 2008

DD got a paper signed by 22 students (mostly girls) Titled "Award to
(DD's name) for being the most uncool person and the biggest looser in
the history of the universe" Below that it listed the reasons for why
she deserved the award

1.) for allways getting A's which makes her a nerd and a looser
2.) for also getting an A in gymn and playing sports - especially
football which makes her a jock and a looser. A nerd and a jock which
is double bad.
3.) for using words and talking about things that no one can
understand.
4.) for having occasional lunch with the "retards" (DD feels they are
happy when she sits with them and she feels good helping them as they
don't have it easy - having a handicap and all - even if most say that
that is social suicide - but she believes one has to do what one
believes is right even if there is a price to pay.
5.) for having both girls and boys as friends which is also uncool (at
DD's last birthday party there were 11girls and 10 boys)

DD told me that she fixed the spelling and improved on some things and
sent it back.

She also said she did not like the way girls go after her - she
prefers the way boys let her know when they have a problem with her.
So I asked what the difference is and she told me.

Girls spread rumours and write bad stuff about you or they sneak up
from behind and mess with your clothes or push you down the stairs.
Boys get physical and that is easier to deal with.

How is that I asked?

See for example there is "N" (used to be starter on the football team
but got expelled for behavioral problems), he was picking on "C" (a
boy she has been friends with since 1st grade who is very timid). So I
told "N" to back off and he said "I am going to puch your lights out"
so I said "you want to hit me - then right here - I give you the first
punch" and pointed on her stomach. So "N" hit her in the stomach with
all her might and DD stepped in and tightened up (She does 300 sit ups
no sweat) and "N" cried out and held his wrist. So DD sayd "looks like
I don't even have to hit back. Hope you learned that it does not pay
to pick on little girls" So "N" jumped her and took her in a choke
hold and she threw him over her shoulder like she had been practicing
in Karate for years ad laid him out on the concrete floor. "N" now was
crying. DD said "I said its a bad idea to pick on little girls and
while you are at it leave my friends alone too. "N" has not bothered
her and her friends since. So she feels that this is much easier than
to deal with what someone might do behind your back.

FS