Family Forum / Parenting / Mothers / April 2008

or why I am and will post more about DD then DS.

DS is Aspergers PDD NOS SID. IOW quite problematic and with that the
center of RL attention. Seems like people just enjoy hearing about
him. I call it the Jerry Springer effect. You know sitting there and
watching people who are more messed up than you and allowing you to
sit back and say "at least I am not .. " or at least "DS is not.. "
Noone is really interested to hear about DD's acomplishment. Seems to
even pain some people. So whenever I start talking about DD I get
"what about DS".

To make the point. Earlier this year I went to DD's parent/teacher
conference. Now DS went to that school 2 years ago and due to his
ideosyncraties is known to everyone. So with every teacher the same
story replied.

"Hi I am"
"Oh I know you you are DS's Father"
"Yes I am but I am here to talk about DD"
"Oh she is fine. Is he still ...."
some reply of mine trying to get the subject back on DD
getting interrupte "I remember when he .... "
etc etc.

Only exception L/A who added to the "Oh she is fine" "She just needs
to learn to do as she is told without question or critic".

I started to keep track of time and found that the DS took up at least
75% of the time spent at DDs parent/teacher conference. And she should
have been the center of discussion there.

Same happens with family or everywhere in town. Noone seems to want to
hear my stories about DD (including grand parents and aunts). "We know
she is great but what did he do lately"

So I have the choice to either end the conversation and walk away or
keep talking and talking about DS getting cut off everytime the
subject turns to DD.

So here you can read or not read my posts but I can pretty much post
what I want. So I can go on talking about her and maybe someone
listens.

Personally I prefer talking about positive acomplishment instead of
dwelling on the latest misbehavior of one of my offspring.