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Family Forum / Parenting / Mothers / July 2008why would you pay back
A friend discovered that she owed her kids' school a couple of thousand dollars. The school didn't realize it but my friend did. So she alerted the school and paid it. We were talking about it and she said she paid the money because if she didn't, it would affect her ten fold some time in the future. I would do the same thing and I'm sure most of you too. But my question to you is if you were in her situation and you were to pay it back, why would you do it? Would you give it back because of the same sentiment as of my friend? Or would it be to clear your conscience? Or because it's just the right thing to do? Do you really believe that a good deed will affect your future happiness in same kind (not because of the peace of mind it brings)? Why/why not? If you won't return it, I would like to hear your logic as well. Thanks. >A friend discovered that she owed her kids' school a couple of >thousand dollars. The school didn't realize it but my friend did. So [quoted text clipped - 15 lines] > >Thanks. I simply believe that this is the right thing to do. If you owe money, you pay it. I have gone back to cashiers when they gave me incorrect change that was more than they owed as well. It's a matter of principle for me.  SignatureDorothy There is no sound, no cry in all the world that can be heard unless someone listens .. The Outer Limits >> If you won't return it, I would like to hear your logic as well. >> [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > incorrect change that was more than they owed as well. It's a matter > of principle for me. Same here. Treat others as you'd have them treat you. Signaturescrum (\_/) Procrastinator bunny says: ( . .) "I'll conquer the internets tomorrow" C(")(") [snip] > Same here. Treat others as you'd have them treat you. Screw that! I'm treated as royalty; I don't treat ANYONE to that level. Sir Ranger > [snip] >> Same here. Treat others as you'd have them treat you. > > Screw that! I'm treated as royalty; I don't treat ANYONE to > that level. You get paid to sit on your arse and do nothing all day? Signaturescrum (\_/) Procrastinator bunny says: ( . .) "I'll conquer the internets tomorrow" C(")(") [snip] > You get paid to sit on your arse and do nothing all day? I'm reading (and reposting to) Usenet; whatdoyouthink? The Ranger > [snip] >> You get paid to sit on your arse and do nothing all day? > > I'm reading (and reposting to) Usenet; whatdoyouthink? /bows Your Highness Signaturescrum (\_/) Procrastinator bunny says: ( . .) "I'll conquer the internets tomorrow" C(")(") > > [snip] > >> Same here. Treat others as you'd have them treat you. [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > > You get paid to sit on your arse and do nothing all day? He is a teacher and "teachers don't work they just play with us" DD when she was in KG <g> On Jul 7, 4:57 pm, scrumble <whate...@bleh.hu> wrote: > The Ranger wrote: > > [snip] [quoted text clipped - 7 lines] >He is a teacher and "teachers don't work they just play with us" DD >when she was in KG <g> Schooooooooooools out ! For! Summer! On Jul 12, 9:42 am, d...@hush.ai wrote: > He is a teacher and "teachers don't work they just play with us" DD > when she was in KG <g> I've obviously found my place in the Universe: Entertaining those on their way through The System. The Ranger >A friend discovered that she owed her kids' school a couple of >thousand dollars. The school didn't realize it but my friend did. So [quoted text clipped - 13 lines] > >If you won't return it, I would like to hear your logic as well. I would pay it back not only for my conscience, but in anticipation of accounting eventually catching up to it. Pehaps long after I'd written off the debt in my mind, and it would be harder to pay. I've found in life it's a good policy just to play it straight whenever one can. Banty > Do you really believe that a good deed will affect your future > happiness in same kind (not because of the peace of mind it brings)? > Why/why not? 1. It's the right thing to do. 2. The school needs that money to pay salaries and other bills. I hope they are not as cavalier about all their students' accounts or they will have to raise tuition/fees costs or go out of business. 3. I do believe in some tiny way that there are cosmic consequences to bad actions. Accruing bad Karma and all that.... gloria p > A friend discovered that she owed her kids' school a couple of > thousand dollars. The school didn't realize it but my friend did. So [quoted text clipped - 7 lines] > sentiment as of my friend? Or would it be to clear your conscience? Or > because it's just the right thing to do? Once upon a time, I was a bank teller. On my first day alone off of training, I game someone $1k too much in cash. She could have walked away with $1K more than she had withdrawn. I had no idea. She came in to the bank and gave it back to me. (I did wrong that day and did not tell the bank. Balanced to the penny.) She said she brought it back because it was the right thing to do. And that she was concerned for my job. I would pay it. It is the right thing to do. > Do you really believe that a good deed will affect your future > happiness in same kind (not because of the peace of mind it brings)? > Why/why not? No. My father did LOTS of good deeds. He was a truely caring, wonderful human being. He later suffered a horrible brain injury to be completely incapacitated then dead. Life can be joyous, horrible, wonderful, scary and all sorts of things. One's actions definitely impact how things go. But they are no guarantee. > If you won't return it, I would like to hear your logic as well. > > Thanks. >> A friend discovered that she owed her kids' school a couple of >> Do you really believe that a good deed will affect your future >> happiness in same kind (not because of the peace of mind it brings)? [quoted text clipped - 6 lines] >Life can be joyous, horrible, wonderful, scary and all sorts of things. >One's actions definitely impact how things go. But they are no guarantee. Yeah. I missed that part of the post, but, I agree. In the sense that if one is the type to return the money, one's actions concerning myriad and continuing *other* similar things gives one a reputation such that one is trusted and liked. In that way there's a sort of karma (and it's a real thing). But there's no mystical thing where if one is a Good Person, only Good Things will happen to one. Some real jerks seem to sail through life; some awful misfortunes befall some really good people. But that's all usually from all the factors which people don't control. There's a big area of life that one's actions DO impact one's future which is more under one's influence by what other people see one do day to day in little accumilating ways. Ways that are consistent with doing something like paying back a large sum of money, even if people woulnd't know about that particular honest action. And the jerks that seem to sail through life are missing things that they don't know, and wouldn't necessarily be visible to others, because people don't include them, don't trust them, and they have stresses coming from their various conflicts. Banty >> A friend discovered that she owed her kids' school a couple of >> thousand dollars. The school didn't realize it but my friend did. So [quoted text clipped - 20 lines] > > I would pay it. It is the right thing to do. My husband cashed a paycheck and was given $500.00 too much cash due to a teller error. It was right before Christmas, he had just started this job, and we were pretty much broke. He took the money back, and since the bank hadn't finished their daily accounting, it hadn't shown as missing so he pretty much had to force them to take it back LOL. He believes strongly in karma and in setting a good example, and it would have been a very bad example for our children if he had kept the cash, plus it would have caught up with him eventually when his boss got the bank statement! >>> A friend discovered that she owed her kids' school a couple of >>> thousand dollars. The school didn't realize it but my friend did. So [quoted text clipped - 32 lines] > the cash, plus it would have caught up with him eventually when his > boss got the bank statement! What did his bank receipt say? If it did not say that $500 extra was withdrawn, it would not have been found. >>>> A friend discovered that she owed her kids' school a couple of >>>> thousand dollars. The school didn't realize it but my friend did. So [quoted text clipped - 35 lines] > What did his bank receipt say? If it did not say that $500 extra was > withdrawn, it would not have been found. The bank receipt did not show the extra $500.00 given to him. However, his employers account did show the missing $500.00. DH was one of only three employees at the time, so they would have known where the missing money was. > A friend discovered that she owed her kids' school a couple of > thousand dollars. The school didn't realize it but my friend did. So [quoted text clipped - 13 lines] > > If you won't return it, I would like to hear your logic as well. I would pay it. And yes, I believe in 'you get what you give'. A propos someone elses post, that doesn't guarantee a great life, but it does make for strong support from one's nearest and dearest. Marc > A friend discovered that she owed her kids' school a couple of > thousand dollars. The school didn't realize it but my friend did. So [quoted text clipped - 15 lines] > > Thanks. Sometimes a good deed is just that, a good deed. Just say thanks and take her to dinner. SignatureFroggy |
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