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This is the fourth call that DW won't make the next 48 hours. She now is off of the machines for almost 5 weeks..... For the last 2 weeks I get a call every 3-4 days that DW is near death. So we go to say goodbye.... Now I am asking myself if we should do the 80 mile drive and say good bye for the 4th time or wait for the weekend.... Also ... With all the things going on I did not check my hushmail account for 3 weeks and it expired. So if anyone sent me some e-mail let me know and I get you a different addy..... > This is the fourth call that DW won't make the next 48 hours. She now > is off of the machines for almost 5 weeks..... For the last 2 weeks I > get a call every 3-4 days that DW is near death. So we go to say > goodbye.... Now I am asking myself if we should do the 80 mile drive > and say good bye for the 4th time or wait for the weekend.... I would have to say that if you, and more importantly the kids, are at peace with the farewell you have given already then there doesn't have to be a rush to see her and say the same things over again. If you and the kids have something else you have to say or you want/need to be there when she dies, then make the trip. Just my thoughts. Cindi > Also ... > > With all the things going on I did not check my hushmail account for 3 > weeks and it expired. So if anyone sent me some e-mail let me know and > I get you a different addy..... On Jul 17, 10:58 am, "HappyMamaTo3" <LonnicusuoTAKEME...@yahoo.com> wrote: > <d...@hush.ai> wrote in message > [quoted text clipped - 23 lines] > > - Show quoted text - Things have changed again. Now hospice wants a meeting Monday. So we will go and visit Monday. Most frustrating thing is all those "false alarms". Point is she is going to die question is when? Just found out today that her kidneys shut down 10 days ago and were the reason for some of the calls. Supposedly usually when the kidneys shut down its over soon. Also her pulse is down to 25 for a week now. That was the reason for another call.... Guess she is tough >This is the fourth call that DW won't make the next 48 hours. She now >is off of the machines for almost 5 weeks..... For the last 2 weeks I >get a call every 3-4 days that DW is near death. So we go to say >goodbye.... Now I am asking myself if we should do the 80 mile drive >and say good bye for the 4th time or wait for the weekend.... It's really hard. It was a different situation with my Dad as he was very sharp and aware but suffering from heart failure, but when he did die it had looked like he may hold on for awhile, and only his wife, my brother, and a nephew were there, as everyone else either had headed home or cancelled plans to travel there. His beloved sister and her husband had driven from WI to Texas, and they were on the way back, and turned right back south again at about the AK border when they got the call .. But I'm glad those who were there, *were* there (like, one representative from each generation). But maybe it would help to forgive yourself in advance if you can't be there right at that moment, since you have others dependant on you too. My thoughts are with you, Banty > In article <8cb50475-fb6c-4a8a-9a65-a2f439684...@r66g2000hsg.googlegroups.com>, > d...@hush.ai says... [quoted text clipped - 20 lines] > > Banty Thanks |
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