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Ilse Witch - 19 Jan 2005 18:47 GMT
Today is not my day. For a few nights in a row my morningsickness has been
clearly less, which freaks me out. During the day I generally feel
miserable, but at this point it is hard to tell whether that is due to
nerves or pregnancy. The only clue I had with the last m/c was the
disappearing of morningsickness, so I am scared out of my wits. Even too
scared to call my doctor for an extra test, as I'm terrified she will tell
me it's not good. At least I can still hope for the best as long as I
don't know otherwise. My next scheduled visit is thursday 27th.

Of course, there are good signs, but when I feel like today, the bad ones
dominate my mind and thinking, and I can hardly function. I am *so* fed up
with this, I wish I could just switch my brain off. Or even better, have a
little window so I can check on the twins myself. This pregnancy just
feels so different in every way, that I don't know what to believe and
what not. I try to believe in these two bubs, I know they can do it, but
the "what if...." won't leave me alone. At some point I have to get over
this and get on with life, enjoy things, be happy.

At least tomorrow my parents are arriving, and I will finally be able to
give my mum a big hug. I need that now :*(

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mommy to DS (July '02)
mommy to four tiny angels (28 Oct'03, 17 Feb'04, 20 May'04 & 28 Oct'04)
preggers with twins EDD August'05
guardian of DH (33)

kiticat - 19 Jan 2005 19:16 GMT
> At least tomorrow my parents are arriving, and I will finally be able to
> give my mum a big hug. I need that now :*(

Well heres a cyber one to keep you going
{{{{{{{{{{{{{Ilse}}}}}}}}}}}}}
I wish I could find some magically constructive words to help you feel
better. Im glad your parents are arriving tomorrow.

Sarah
Ilse Witch - 19 Jan 2005 19:24 GMT
> Well heres a cyber one to keep you going
> {{{{{{{{{{{{{Ilse}}}}}}}}}}}}}
> I wish I could find some magically constructive words to help you feel
> better. Im glad your parents are arriving tomorrow.

Thanks Sarah, those cyberhugs do work! Writing about this here and on a
Dutch group made me realize why I am so miserable: I feel like I am
letting my two bubs down when I am so scared. I want to believe in them,
but I cannot always do that. They deserve my unconditional love and
support, but right now I have a hard time giving that. Acknowledging this
made me feel better instantly, although no less scared.

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mommy to DS (July '02)
mommy to four tiny angels (28 Oct'03, 17 Feb'04, 20 May'04 & 28 Oct'04)
preggers with twins EDD August'05
guardian of DH (33)

Puester - 19 Jan 2005 20:17 GMT
> Thanks Sarah, those cyberhugs do work! Writing about this here and on a
> Dutch group made me realize why I am so miserable: I feel like I am
> letting my two bubs down when I am so scared. I want to believe in them,
> but I cannot always do that. They deserve my unconditional love and
> support, but right now I have a hard time giving that. Acknowledging this
> made me feel better instantly, although no less scared.

Ilse, please now that every mother-to-be I have known is scared
when she gets to the middle-of-the-night private thoughts even
thought she may seem happy and confident.  The "what ifs" don't
go away till the babies are safely in your arms.  That doesn't
mean that the fears are rational or reasonable, just pervasive.
Mothers are afraid of everything--miscarriage, retardation,
physical handicaps, stillbirth, birthmarks,hard labors--you name
it and many fear it.

Sometimes you just have to cross your fingers and hope for the
best because the one secret I can share with you is that fear
doesn't help at all.  Practice being in love with those babies
and having positive images of the future.  Oh, and get all the
sleep you can now.  ;-)

gloria p
Nan - 19 Jan 2005 20:21 GMT
>Thanks Sarah, those cyberhugs do work! Writing about this here and on a
>Dutch group made me realize why I am so miserable: I feel like I am
>letting my two bubs down when I am so scared. I want to believe in them,
>but I cannot always do that. They deserve my unconditional love and
>support, but right now I have a hard time giving that. Acknowledging this
>made me feel better instantly, although no less scared.

{{{{{Ilse}}}}}
It's very hard to let go and just enjoy your pregnancy when you've
been through the mill, as you have.  I'm glad your parents are coming
to visit you :-)

Nan
Elana Kehoe - 19 Jan 2005 20:40 GMT
> Thanks Sarah, those cyberhugs do work! Writing about this here and on a
> Dutch group made me realize why I am so miserable: I feel like I am
> letting my two bubs down when I am so scared. I want to believe in them,
> but I cannot always do that. They deserve my unconditional love and
> support, but right now I have a hard time giving that. Acknowledging this
> made me feel better instantly, although no less scared.

You have every right to be scared, just like you have every right to be
thrilled.  Don't forget your hormones are going *bonkers* right now :-).

You can do it, and they can do it.  Your whole family has people all
over the world pulling for you.  We all believe in YOU!

HUGS
Caroline or Greg - 21 Jan 2005 13:28 GMT
Ilse,
   I miscarried my first child.  My heart shattered in a million pieces and
I didn't know what to do.  Then when I was allowed to get pregnant again we
suceeded, and for the next 14 weeks I was like you, scared and listening to
hte what ifs.  It didn't matter what ANYONE said I was scared.  ANd really
it didn't go away until I felt son's first kicks.  Then it was real and a
whole lot less scary.  WEll at least until I realized I was about to be a
mother for the first time and went "whoa can I be a good enough mom for my
child" lol.  but the fear was very different.  I am praying for you as is my
family.  I hope that you have peace soon :)

Caroline

> > Thanks Sarah, those cyberhugs do work! Writing about this here and on a
> > Dutch group made me realize why I am so miserable: I feel like I am
> > letting my two bubs down when I am so scared. I want to believe in them,
> > but I cannot always do that. They deserve my unconditional love and
> > support, but right now I have a hard time giving that. Acknowledging this
> > made me feel better instantly, although no less scared.
Ilse Witch - 21 Jan 2005 14:32 GMT
> WEll at least until I realized I was about to be a mother for the first
> time and went "whoa can I be a good enough mom for my child" lol.  but
> the fear was very different.

Thanks Caroline. I know this fear is perfectly normal, but it does help me
to hear it over and over again. And the fear of being a good mom hits you
the second time as well. I've already seriously wondered whether I will
ever be able to care for two babes at the same time, and what will happen
with DS... It's part of the deal, I guess ;-)

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mommy to four tiny angels (28 Oct'03, 17 Feb'04, 20 May'04 & 28 Oct'04)
preggers with twins EDD August'05
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Caroline or Greg - 22 Jan 2005 02:38 GMT
with the amount of love you have, you will be an awesome mom.  And DS will
have a wonderful mom and awesome baby bros or sis to share his love with :)

Caroline

> Thanks Caroline. I know this fear is perfectly normal, but it does help me
> to hear it over and over again. And the fear of being a good mom hits you
> the second time as well. I've already seriously wondered whether I will
> ever be able to care for two babes at the same time, and what will happen
> with DS... It's part of the deal, I guess ;-)
Mamma Mia - 19 Jan 2005 22:21 GMT
>> Well heres a cyber one to keep you going
>> {{{{{{{{{{{{{Ilse}}}}}}}}}}}}}
[quoted text clipped - 7 lines]
> support, but right now I have a hard time giving that. Acknowledging this
> made me feel better instantly, although no less scared.

whatever happens Ilse, dont you dare think that you hvae let the twins down
in any way.  Who wouldnt be scared, we are all scared with you.  Sending you
healthy healthy healthy vibes for the bubs..

christine
toto - 19 Jan 2005 22:41 GMT
>Acknowledging this made me feel better instantly,
>though no less scared.

It's ok to be scared, Ilse.  You have a lot of rational
things to base that fear on.  But we here will keep up
the support for you.

--
Dorothy

There is no sound, no cry in all the world
that can be heard unless someone listens ..

The Outer Limits
Tori M. - 19 Jan 2005 19:25 GMT
> Today is not my day. For a few nights in a row my morningsickness has been
> clearly less, which freaks me out. During the day I generally feel
[quoted text clipped - 16 lines]
> At least tomorrow my parents are arriving, and I will finally be able to
> give my mum a big hug. I need that now :*(

*hugs* Ilse.  I was goin to ask if you had thought of names as of yet or if
it was too soon yet..how far along are you?

Tori

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Ilse Witch - 19 Jan 2005 21:23 GMT
> *hugs* Ilse.  I was goin to ask if you had thought of names as of yet or if
> it was too soon yet..how far along are you?

I'm 8 weeks today, and yes, I've been thinking of names. One has been
standing out strong as soon as I knew I was pregnant. I have another, and
both are girl names. Boy names have always been problematic for us, so for
the time being, I'll just assume they are girls ;-)

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mommy to four tiny angels (28 Oct'03, 17 Feb'04, 20 May'04 & 28 Oct'04)
preggers with twins EDD August'05
guardian of DH (33)

Tori M. - 19 Jan 2005 23:03 GMT
>> *hugs* Ilse.  I was goin to ask if you had thought of names as of yet or
>> if
[quoted text clipped - 4 lines]
> both are girl names. Boy names have always been problematic for us, so for
> the time being, I'll just assume they are girls ;-)

DH and I have the same problem.  Girls names are easy but for boys names I
like traditional ones or Biblical ones so the Names I like Henry, Ezekiel,
Gabriel he is not fond of and his name he likes for a boy is Jon Wayne after
his 2 best friends and I said no way to that.  I almost changed Xaviers name
to Adam near the end but DH did not like it.

Tori

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Xavier 10/27/04

Mermaid - 19 Jan 2005 19:35 GMT
> At least tomorrow my parents are arriving, and I will finally be able to
> give my mum a big hug. I need that now :*(
>
> --
Ilse... (((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))
Anni
Mermaid - 19 Jan 2005 19:37 GMT
> Today is not my day. For a few nights in a row my morningsickness has been
> clearly less, which freaks me out. During the day I generally feel
[quoted text clipped - 19 lines]
> --
> -- I

I thought of something... just a thought.  Can you journal.  Write to them
or write in a way so you can feel more a connection to this pregnancy and
lesson some of your fears.  Tell the fears to go away.  I'm tooling around
with this idea but the point is to let it out and sometimes writing can let
it out and give you a way of coping better?

(((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))) another hug for you!

Anni
Ilse Witch - 19 Jan 2005 21:21 GMT
> I thought of something... just a thought.  Can you journal.  

I've been playing with that thought a while, maybe I should just go ahead
with it. Writing always has a positive effect on my mood, and if it
benefits me in any other way, that's even better.

Thanks for the idea Anni!

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mommy to four tiny angels (28 Oct'03, 17 Feb'04, 20 May'04 & 28 Oct'04)
preggers with twins EDD August'05
guardian of DH (33)

Froggy - 19 Jan 2005 21:57 GMT
>> I thought of something... just a thought.  Can you journal.
>
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>
> Thanks for the idea Anni!

Sorry to hijack this post but Ilse, I did journaling with Z.  From the
minute I found out I was preggers til even now that he is almost 2 (on
monday) I plan on writing in it all through his life and giving it to him
maybe when he becomes a parent.   It really helped me through the rough
times....   We are all pulling for you.
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"No one can belittle you without your consent."
~Eleanor Roosevelt~

> -- I
> mommy to DS (July '02)
> mommy to four tiny angels (28 Oct'03, 17 Feb'04, 20 May'04 & 28 Oct'04)
> preggers with twins EDD August'05
> guardian of DH (33)
Kara H - 19 Jan 2005 19:39 GMT
> At least tomorrow my parents are arriving, and I will finally be able to
> give my mum a big hug. I need that now :*(

I'm glad that your mum will be there to give you hugs. You know that if I
could be there to give them to you, I would!

You are and will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers, Ilse. Hang in
there, hun.

((((Ilse))))

-Kara.
bRaTtY - 19 Jan 2005 19:40 GMT
> At least tomorrow my parents are arriving, and I will finally be able to
> give my mum a big hug. I need that now :*(

(((((Ilse)))))
I hated that
I had a week with  no morning sickness with Tyler, i was SURE it meant
things had gone wrong given my previous history
Hang in there chick those wee babes are under orders to stick stick stick
Ilse Witch - 19 Jan 2005 21:25 GMT
> I had a week with  no morning sickness with Tyler, i was SURE it meant
> things had gone wrong given my previous history

I'm so glad to hear this happens! My other symptoms seem to be even
stronger than ever, which also gives me a little peace of mind. I can
hardly standup straight, my abdomen is so tight. This is exactly what I
had with DS around 8 weeks, but I never felt it with any of the m/c's.
It's just that the bad things seem to weigh so much more...

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mommy to four tiny angels (28 Oct'03, 17 Feb'04, 20 May'04 & 28 Oct'04)
preggers with twins EDD August'05
guardian of DH (33)

Stellar Mama - 19 Jan 2005 20:04 GMT
HUGS to you...  That's all I can offer.  :(

| Today is not my day. For a few nights in a row my morningsickness has been
| clearly less, which freaks me out. During the day I generally feel
[quoted text clipped - 16 lines]
| At least tomorrow my parents are arriving, and I will finally be able to
| give my mum a big hug. I need that now :*(
Ilse Witch - 19 Jan 2005 21:25 GMT
> HUGS to you...  That's all I can offer.  :(

They are all I needed for today :)

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mommy to four tiny angels (28 Oct'03, 17 Feb'04, 20 May'04 & 28 Oct'04)
preggers with twins EDD August'05
guardian of DH (33)

michelle downunder - 19 Jan 2005 20:35 GMT
> At some point I have to get over
>this and get on with life, enjoy things, be happy.

sweetie... even in normal pregnancies, this happens at the end, when
you hold the wee babe in your arm.. in your case babes...

{{HUG}}

tell your mum to give you all our hugs to you...

Michelle
Kate - 19 Jan 2005 20:45 GMT
(((Ilse)))

I know it's hard but you have to stay positive - see your belly swell
and feel those babies move  :o)) - I know the three of you can get thru
it

Kate

Mommy to DH, an ickle angel 16 Dec 96 and a holy terror 31 Oct 97
Ilse Witch - 19 Jan 2005 21:26 GMT

> tell your mum to give you all our hugs to you...

O she will, she will...

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mommy to four tiny angels (28 Oct'03, 17 Feb'04, 20 May'04 & 28 Oct'04)
preggers with twins EDD August'05
guardian of DH (33)

PdB - 19 Jan 2005 21:29 GMT
More hugs from Holland, to tie you over until your parents get there!!!
Lynn - 19 Jan 2005 21:46 GMT
Sorry to hear that you are having a rough day. Big hugs to you and I hope
you have a lovely visit with your parents.

Lynn
A&G&K&H - 19 Jan 2005 21:50 GMT
> Today is not my day. For a few nights in a row my morningsickness has been
> clearly less, which freaks me out. During the day I generally feel
[quoted text clipped - 23 lines]
> preggers with twins EDD August'05
> guardian of DH (33)

((((((((((((((((((((((((((Ilse)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
You will be in my thoughts and prayers.  I pray that you can have some
calmness and reassurance that everything is OK.
hugs
Amanda

--
DD 15th August 2002
1 tiny angel Nov 2003
DS 20th August 2004
Stara Baba - 19 Jan 2005 21:54 GMT
> Today is not my day. For a few nights in a row my morningsickness has been
> clearly less, which freaks me out. During the day I generally feel
[quoted text clipped - 4 lines]
> me it's not good. At least I can still hope for the best as long as I
> don't know otherwise. My next scheduled visit is thursday 27th.

Ilse, get the test as soon as possible, please.  Else you'll be driving
yourself and all those around you NUTS!
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say,'Well, that's not going to happen.'"  - Comedian Rita Rudner,
performance at New York, New York, January 10, 2005.

arachne - 19 Jan 2005 22:36 GMT
> Today is not my day. For a few nights in a row my morningsickness has been
> clearly less, which freaks me out. During the day I generally feel
[quoted text clipped - 16 lines]
> At least tomorrow my parents are arriving, and I will finally be able to
> give my mum a big hug. I need that now :*(

(((((((((((ilse))))))))))). i know what you mean about that window. i
understand how you are feeling - one part of you wants to be excited, but
the other part is just so damn scared.
it's hard to shut the brain off when you have those hormones racing around.

just concentrate on getting to tomorrow as relaxed as you can & your mum
will give you that big hug & everything won't seem quite as scary.
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DS 20th August 2002

"In these matters the only certainty is that nothing is certain."  -- Pliny
the Elder (23 AD - 79 AD)

toto - 19 Jan 2005 22:40 GMT
>Today is not my day

((((((((((((((((((Ilse)))))))))))))))))))))

Lots of sticky vibes coming your way.
I believe in your twin bubs.  They are strong and
growing.

--
Dorothy

There is no sound, no cry in all the world
that can be heard unless someone listens ..

The Outer Limits
Jen - 19 Jan 2005 22:46 GMT
*hugs hugs hugs*
Call your doctor, that's what he's there for.
Just keep reminding yourself that you're going to be okay.
Kelly - 20 Jan 2005 04:52 GMT
(((Ilse)))
I'd feel the same way-noone should expect you to not think these thougths.
Your provider would most likely welcome any and all calls from you and have
you come in for reassurance.  The last office I worked in years ago would
have mamas come in every other day if they needed to and we'd listen to
heart tones.

Warmly,
Kelly
> Today is not my day. For a few nights in a row my morningsickness has been
> clearly less, which freaks me out. During the day I generally feel
[quoted text clipped - 16 lines]
> At least tomorrow my parents are arriving, and I will finally be able to
> give my mum a big hug. I need that now :*(
cjorp@yahoo.com - 20 Jan 2005 05:24 GMT
(((Ilse)))

Hang in there!  It's got to be hard to keep second-guessing things like
that.  I would totally be doing that in your shoes as well.
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Anna Mc - 20 Jan 2005 08:49 GMT
Hi Ilse Witch

Don't worry too much.  I remember with Fiona (Feb 2000) I had an
appointment at the hospital on the day before she decided to enter this
world (I was 20 days overdue - don't ask - still French system) and I
hadn't felt any movement for some time.  When they put the dopler on and
we heard the heartbeat, I cried!! I'd been expecting the baby for over a
 month - you know they say the baby can arrive 2 weeks early etc.

Just hang on to your next appointment.  Of course it feels different,
there's two of them in there!  And don't forget to talk to them, and ask
them not to leave you etc.  No doubt you will let us know the outcome in
due course.  Good luck and don't give up hope.

Cyber hug

Anna Mc
Elle - 20 Jan 2005 15:01 GMT
> Today is not my day. For a few nights in a row my morningsickness has been
> clearly less, which freaks me out. During the day I generally feel
[quoted text clipped - 13 lines]
> the "what if...." won't leave me alone. At some point I have to get over
> this and get on with life, enjoy things, be happy.

Oh Ilse it is bad enough that you are frightened without feeling guilty
about it :( Don't worry that you are worried, it won't affect the twins
:)

I had the very same feelings with this finally healthy pg (#5)-- the
morning sickness was bad, but when I got a respite from it instead of
feeling relieved I was terrified. I also wished for the belly window :)
It is perfectly normal for ms to wax and wane, but also perfectly
normal for that to scare the pants off you.

I hope your parents' visit provides a welcome distraction. Don't be
afraid to ask your doctor to move your visit up a bit if it will really
help your peace of mind. I was often tempted but realized that the
relief I felt would only last a *very* short while, and then I'd be
jonesing for another check. So I made myself wait. But do whatever gets
you through these tough weeks.

Best
Elle
EDD 2/16/2005
Ilse Witch - 20 Jan 2005 18:34 GMT

> I was often tempted but realized that the relief I felt would only last
> a *very* short while

That's exactly what will happen to me. After each u/s I was elated, but
after a few days my mind started rambling on and on again, and joy was
replaced by utter despair. It won't help me much to go in every day, I
just don't have the time. I might invest in one of these Doppler thingies
for home use though ;-)

I had a good night's rest, and feel tons better today. I spoke out my
fears and love to the twins, picturing them in my mind as 3 y/o girls
(somehow they were identical) and hugging and kissing them afterward. Such
vizualisations help me a great deal, and right after I did that, I felt
horribly sick again (YAY!). I guess my nerves somehow affect my morning
sickness, I had that before each u/s too.

I will just have to accept that these ups and downs are part of the road
ahead, and stop fighting them. Admitting that I have every right to be
scared was a big step... Today I feel utterly and horribly pregnant again,
and just relish the feeling while it lasts. Knowing that bad days will
come, makes it a lot easier to cope.

Thanks all, for being there and sharing your love, experience and hugs. I
really needed that yesterday!

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mommy to four tiny angels (28 Oct'03, 17 Feb'04, 20 May'04 & 28 Oct'04)
preggers with twins EDD August'05
guardian of DH (33)

Jen - 20 Jan 2005 18:53 GMT
>> I was often tempted but realized that the relief I felt would only last
>> a *very* short while
[quoted text clipped - 20 lines]
> Thanks all, for being there and sharing your love, experience and hugs. I
> really needed that yesterday!

This is about to sound so odd...
I'm glad you're feeling sick again!
*hugs hugs hugs*
You're going to be just fine. You need to relax, take it one day at a time
and just remember that this too shall pass. These feelings will come and go.
:)
Now that I'm done clichéing...

We're all behind you honey.
Lead Foot Mama - 20 Jan 2005 19:23 GMT
> Thanks all, for being there and sharing your love, experience and hugs. I
> really needed that yesterday!

{{{{{{{{{{{{{Ilse}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

We're here for you!
Cam & Shane - 20 Jan 2005 19:52 GMT
I'm so glad you are feeling worse in your tummy  :-)  and better in your
head.

We thinking of you and your family here in NZ

Cam & Shane

>> I was often tempted but realized that the relief I felt would only last
>> a *very* short while
[quoted text clipped - 20 lines]
> Thanks all, for being there and sharing your love, experience and hugs. I
> really needed that yesterday!
Unadulterated Me - 20 Jan 2005 20:44 GMT
> Today I feel utterly and horribly pregnant again,
> and just relish the feeling while it lasts.

You're completely mad, but I'm pleased being sick makes you feel better :-)
When do you have another ultrasound?

Andrea
Ilse Witch - 20 Jan 2005 21:13 GMT

> You're completely mad,

I've been told that before by reliable sources ;-)

> When do you have another ultrasound?

A week from today, January 27th. I'll manage that, especially with my mum
around, which means: lots of shopping at dads expense :-D

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mommy to four tiny angels (28 Oct'03, 17 Feb'04, 20 May'04 & 28 Oct'04)
preggers with twins EDD August'05
guardian of DH (33)

Stara Baba - 20 Jan 2005 22:41 GMT
(snip)
> A week from today, January 27th. I'll manage that, especially with my mum
> around, which means: lots of shopping at dads expense :-D

Ah, yes -- His Fatherly Duty.
(DD once got into a "discussion" with her dad about a ride to the mall.  
She informed him it was His Fatherly Duty.  Man, I'll never forget the
look on his face.   They still laugh about it.)

Do buy something lovely for yourself, Ilse.  I want a report!
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performance at New York, New York, January 10, 2005.

Ilse Witch - 21 Jan 2005 14:29 GMT
> Do buy something lovely for yourself, Ilse.  I want a report!

Long ago I promised myself that when I would make it past 8 weeks, I'd buy
myself a real maternity outfit. I only had 2 or 3 maternity pants with DS,
and just wore wide shirts, but this time I want to show off big time.
Spring collections are just in, so you know where I'll be this sunday
(providing the winter storm takes it easy with the snow) :-D

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enigma - 21 Jan 2005 15:51 GMT
>> Do buy something lovely for yourself, Ilse.  I want a
>> report!
[quoted text clipped - 6 lines]
> sunday (providing the winter storm takes it easy with the
> snow) :-D

heh, you're having twins this time! there's no *doubt* you'll
be showing off big time ;)
good luck finding nice maternity clothes. i know they're out
there but none were applicable to my lifestyle. i just bought
oversize work overalls & put a hair elastic as an expander on
my regular jeans. only worked to 5 months though. i even ended
up using the hairties on the overalls during the last few
weeks.
still it's better than a few years ago where maternity
clothes were all pink & cutesy & not at all professionally
appropriate!
have fun shopping :)
lee
Stara Baba - 21 Jan 2005 22:42 GMT
> > Do buy something lovely for yourself, Ilse.  I want a report!
>
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> Spring collections are just in, so you know where I'll be this sunday
> (providing the winter storm takes it easy with the snow) :-D

Sounds like a good treat!  When DD was infanticipating, we went to a
maternity specialty shop that had tummy pillow to hang around the neck
so mom could get the true effect of what she'd look like wearing it when
she was big as a house.  :-)   Didn't have those when I was bearing
children.  Pretty cool.
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arachne - 20 Jan 2005 22:38 GMT
>> I was often tempted but realized that the relief I felt would only last
>> a *very* short while
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> Thanks all, for being there and sharing your love, experience and hugs. I
> really needed that yesterday!

i'm glad you feel horrible again. (you know what i mean!)
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Mermaid - 21 Jan 2005 04:08 GMT
> > I was often tempted but realized that the relief I felt would only last
> > a *very* short while
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> preggers with twins EDD August'05
> guardian of DH (33)

Ilse I'm glad you found a way to connect with those sweet little babes
growing inside you!  anytime you need reassurance and time to rant just let
us know!

Anni
Marc - 21 Jan 2005 04:47 GMT
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> I will just have to accept that these ups and downs are part of the road
> ahead, and stop fighting them. Admitting that I have every right to be
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> Thanks all, for being there and sharing your love, experience and hugs. I
> really needed that yesterday!

it sounds like an absolute roller-coaster
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The downs get less as time goes on
Marc
Rosenugga - 21 Jan 2005 14:17 GMT
Ilse

Somehow I missed the announcement that you were expecting twins.  Last I saw we
were all wishing you sticky vibes.  I am so glad to hear that things are going
better.  Sorry to hear that you are sick though I am sure it is somewhat of a
relief to feel it and know that things are going well.  (That doesn't quite
make sense does it....)
Rose
Mamma to Caity Feb 13 1999 ( Daddy's best birthday present)
Ilse Witch - 21 Jan 2005 14:26 GMT
> Somehow I missed the announcement that you were expecting twins.  Last I saw we
> were all wishing you sticky vibes.  I am so glad to hear that things are going
> better.  Sorry to hear that you are sick though I am sure it is somewhat of a
> relief to feel it and know that things are going well.  (That doesn't quite
> make sense does it....)

O yes, it does make sense! And I am quite happy to be feeling sick, since
it gives me a sense of security. I'd rather feel miserable through
pregnancy than having to deal with another loss. So far so good! :)

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Jamie Clark - 31 Jan 2005 02:58 GMT
Hugs Ilse.  I've been following your newest installment with great hope.
I've got major prayers coming your way.  I'm sorry you are having a hard
time, but it's completely understandable.  After all you've been through.  I
hope your twins make it to term and are around for a long long time.  Hugs.
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