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Shelly - 30 Aug 2003 04:48 GMT

Well as you all know I posted that we would be moving. Well my sister is
having a major problem with me and my hubby bringing our two cats!! I'm not
staying in her house so why does she even care! Second my SD said that if I
get them declawed then it would be ok. My sister said that I need to grow
up and get a life. Well if it were a matter of life and death then I would
give up my cats but it's not. We didn't ask to move there they asked us!!
My sister really made me feel even worse. Like I'm not a good wife and
mother!!! She didn't come right out and said it but she might of well have.
If things were that dire then we'd skin the things and eat 'em. It's not.
I'm giving up my home, independance, freedom, and self respect, why can't I
keep the few things that mean the most? My husband and son. Cheesie and
Izabelle. I'm selling almost everything else!!!! My mom totally
understands and is an ally for me. She knows that I'm giving up alot for my
family and doesn't expect me to sacrifice my cats as well. Cheesie, I've
had since he was 5 weeks old. He has been there with me through all 3 of my
surgeries, He curls up with me when i'm sad and upset. He makes me feel
better when I am sad. Izabelle we got as our first cat together as a family
and she is a lover as well. Both are great tempered. Cheesie I know would
die if he was given away. Cats that have been with one owner that long do.
He won't go to anyone but me. He is just now warming up to hubby. God,
I'm tired of this already.

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Shelly
Mommy to Zachariah
January 24, 2003

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Angie - 30 Aug 2003 05:21 GMT

Sounds like your sister is really immature! As long as your parents don't
mind, then well, it's none of your sisters business.
((shelly))

> Well as you all know I posted that we would be moving. Well my sister is
> having a major problem with me and my hubby bringing our two cats!! I'm not
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> He won't go to anyone but me. He is just now warming up to hubby. God,
> I'm tired of this already.

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just me - 30 Aug 2003 12:42 GMT

<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<Shelly>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

Families can be the biggest pain in the but, yet we are lost without them.
I tend to agree with Christine's interpretation of possible reasons why your
sister's hackles are up, although there could be other reasons, I'm sure. I
bet that your mom, if she finds out what sister has said, will tell you to
ignore her and may well tell her to get a life, unless she is not a
particularly upfront kind of person. I'd say, if sister keeps this up,
about the cats or other details, that you vent here, get calmed down to the
point that you can tell her exactly what you've told us: it's between you
and your mother and she has no business sticking her nose in. She may think
she's protecting her mother or feel no one ever helps her out or something,
but that is *her* problem and not yours.

Hang in there. Your kitties are going with you and your mom has said they
are welcome and your sister has nothing to say about it.

-Aula

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Shelly - 30 Aug 2003 16:48 GMT

Here is a little bit of info I left out because i was so mad when i wrote
that. It's SD who really doesn't want the cats. My mom has 2 of her own
and SD doesn't want 4. Things aren't any better today.

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Shelly
Mommy to Zachariah
January 24, 2003

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> > Well as you all know I posted that we would be moving. Well my sister is
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> -Aula

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Jarkat2002 - 30 Aug 2003 19:34 GMT

>Here is a little bit of info I left out because i was so mad when i wrote
>that. It's SD who really doesn't want the cats. My mom has 2 of her own
>and SD doesn't want 4. Things aren't any better today.

If he lives in the house doesn't he have the right not to want 4 cats in his
home?
I guess I don't understand the issue but I do wish you the best of luck getting
it resolved.
~Kat

"For some reason I'm always slightly amused when I breast feed at Dairy Queen."
~Kat

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Shelly - 30 Aug 2003 21:46 GMT

the thing is this whole thing wasn't even my idea. First of all this is
between me mom and Sd NOT my sister. She needs to butt out. My mom doesn't
mind the cats but SD doesn't. I don't give a F*ck what my sister thinks

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Shelly
Mommy to Zachariah
January 24, 2003

> >Here is a little bit of info I left out because i was so mad when i wrote
> >that. It's SD who really doesn't want the cats. My mom has 2 of her own
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> "For some reason I'm always slightly amused when I breast feed at Dairy Queen."
> ~Kat

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Nan - 30 Aug 2003 21:51 GMT

Some people just aren't "cat people". Perhaps your sister knows it
will cause some tension with 2 more cats.

At any rate, families really can be difficult to manage.
When my ex and I were newly married, we found ourselves in the
position of needing help. We moved in with his mother. I was
pregnant at the time, and the ex had gotten laid off from his job.
His mother wanted us there, but 3 of his 4 sisters had massive
problems with it. Not that we cared.
We stayed for several months, and got back out on our own.

Nan

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Family Forum / Parenting / Mothers / August 2003

A MAJOR vent.