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Family Forum / Parenting / Mothers / September 2006Am I overreacting?
My mother comes over and forgets some cat food for my cats. She and DS walk over and get, no big deal. I'm in the kitchen unloading the dishwasher when I see my mom and son getting into a white utility van that I don't recognize. I fly out the door but it's too late the van is gone. I try my mom's cell phone, no answer, I try my sister I can't get her either. Try my mom agian. no answer. I'm about to call the police when my mom pulls in with this white van, turns out my sister has gotten a new work van and they wanted to go up the street. Ok, after losing it for the fact I think I lost my son, There is NO carseat either. I've been told by my aunt that I'm overreacting. What do you think? A very scared froggy >My mother comes over and forgets some cat food for my cats. She and DS walk >over and get, no big deal. I'm in the kitchen unloading the dishwasher when [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] > >A very scared froggy That would be a scary sight. I don't think it's out of the realm of normal to be scared about that. On the carseat, heck no you're not overreacting. If you're like us, our rule is the kids can't go *anywhere* without being in a carseat. Nan >>My mother comes over and forgets some cat food for my cats. She and DS >>walk [quoted text clipped - 17 lines] > That would be a scary sight. I don't think it's out of the realm of > normal to be scared about that. She insists I knew it was my sister. IF I did, there is still the point that he was unrestrained. > On the carseat, heck no you're not overreacting. If you're like us, > our rule is the kids can't go *anywhere* without being in a carseat. We never allow Ds. in a car without a carseat. NEVER!!  Signature"Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great. " ~Mark Twain~ Froggy > Nan >She insists I knew it was my sister. IF I did, there is still the point >that he was unrestrained. It goes without saying that if you knew it was your sister, it wouldn't have scared you as it did. She's trying to lessen her own guilt. Nan >>She insists I knew it was my sister. IF I did, there is still the point >>that he was unrestrained. > > It goes without saying that if you knew it was your sister, it > wouldn't have scared you as it did. She's trying to lessen her own > guilt. Exactly! She then said "why did I call my husband?" Uh, well he's my husband? Signature"Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great. " ~Mark Twain~ Froggy > Nan I tell ya what, you need to do something similar to your goofy sister, you are NOT overreacting , I would have FLIPPED, and immediatley called the police, you sister had no right telling you you over reacted!, then you mother should have told you where they were going instead of assuming you kinew this person....shame on them! Amanda *smile it'll get better!* > My mother comes over and forgets some cat food for my cats. She and DS > walk over and get, no big deal. I'm in the kitchen unloading the [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] > > A very scared froggy >I tell ya what, you need to do something similar to your goofy sister, you >are NOT overreacting , I would have FLIPPED, and immediatley called the >police, you sister had no right telling you you over reacted!, then you >mother should have told you where they were going instead of assuming you >kinew this person....shame on them! > Amanda I've calmed down a bit now, My mom still thinks she did nothing wrong! That is the most frustrating thing right now! > *smile it'll get better!* >> My mother comes over and forgets some cat food for my cats. She and DS [quoted text clipped - 9 lines] >> >> A very scared froggy > My mother comes over and forgets some cat food for my cats. She and DS walk > over and get, no big deal. I'm in the kitchen unloading the dishwasher when [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] > > A very scared froggy I'd be really upset too {{{Froggy}}} SignatureSarah ******************************************* Vincent vowed vengeance very vehemently. >> My mother comes over and forgets some cat food for my cats. She and DS >> walk over and get, no big deal. I'm in the kitchen unloading the [quoted text clipped - 10 lines] > > I'd be really upset too {{{Froggy}}} Thanks Sarah, I've calmed down a bit now. > [snip] I'd've said something about the missing carseats and asked where her cell phone was but probably not said anything about the new van. If told I was over-reacting, I'd've reminded them who the parent is and my rules for transporting my child. The Ranger >> [snip] > I'd've said something about the missing carseats and asked where her [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > > The Ranger Yes, Ranger I agree. The thing is my mother doesn't see that what she did was wrong. She knows how I feel about DS and carseats. She had a total lapse of judgement IMNSHO. <snip> "Froggy" > My mother comes over and forgets some cat food for my cats. She and DS > walk over and get, no big deal. I'm in the kitchen unloading the [quoted text clipped - 6 lines] > fact I think I lost my son, There is NO carseat either. I've been told > by my aunt that I'm overreacting. What do you think? Yes, your mum should have said where they were going. I can understand your point of view. But you also need to decide whether you trust your mum to make a decision to go for a spin down the road or not. Either she can be responsible for Z and take him out of your sight or not. /sigh - it's a hard one, but you've been in this situation before with her and know she doesn't hold carseats in the same regard as you do. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ good luck Marc > <snip> > "Froggy" [quoted text clipped - 17 lines] > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ good luck > Marc The thing is, I know my mum would never do anything to hurt Z intentionally. She doesn't make some good choices. She doesn't hold carseats in the same regard. I've told her over and over that he doesn't go ANYWHERE with out a seat. She doesn't get it. Signature"Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great. " ~Mark Twain~ Froggy > The thing is, I know my mum would never do anything to hurt Z > intentionally. She doesn't make some good choices. She doesn't hold > carseats in the same regard. I've told her over and over that he doesn't > go ANYWHERE with out a seat. She doesn't get it. You know what Froggy, you need to stop putting your son in these situations and put your foot down with your parents and their carelessness. My x-mil had a total disregard for carseats when DS was an infant. Why, because she raised her kids without using carseats and they all were just fine, and they live in the country, blah, blah. I told her in no uncertain terms, that she was NOT allowed to have DS in a car without a car seat, I did not care if she was just driving across the street to gran's house. A carseat was a must. I found out one time that she disobeyed my rule and DS was never allowed in a vehicle with her driving again until he was old enough to not be in a carseat and knew to buckle himself in. Period, end of story. If someone is not going to respect your parenting wishes, they should NOT be left responsible for your child unsupervised. Your son cannot care for himself, he is your responsiblity to provide care for him, stop putting him into unhealthy situations by irresponsible people - I don't care if they are your relations, your son is your priority. >> The thing is, I know my mum would never do anything to hurt Z >> intentionally. She doesn't make some good choices. She doesn't hold [quoted text clipped - 25 lines] > people - I don't care if they are your relations, your son is your > priority. great adv. LFM. >The thing is, I know my mum would never do anything to hurt Z intentionally. That's why they're called "Accidents". Nobody but a complete fool would do anything intentionally. >She doesn't make some good choices. She doesn't hold carseats in the same >regard. I've told her over and over that he doesn't go ANYWHERE with out a >seat. She doesn't get it. Then it's up to you to make sure she's not allowed to make those bad choices. Your son's well being is at stake. I understand she's your mum and hurt feelings, etc, etc, etc. But you really need to take a stand. Nan |
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