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Family Forum / Pregnancy / Pregnancy / July 2006Is this a good Idea??? Help
Hi all I just misscarried my twins this past week. I am feeling ok, but still wonder how things would have been with them. I have a wonderfull support team. I am now feeling ok about the whole thing and I am ready to move on and put my thoughts into haveing a new baby. I have everything ready to put my nursery together and wish to do so before I try to get pregnant again. I feel this will bring joy and good thoughts and have a bit of focus. I do most of the work around here when it comes to decor. So I was thinking it would be a good idea not to be pregnant while painting and working on latters in the room. So after the room is done I will be back in shape a bit, and ready to start trying again. What do you all think Ps. My nursery will be done in Dr.Seuss, So much paint work to do on the walls I am not an expert on this but I would wait a while to put up a nursery. It seems like it would just be a negative reminder especialy if you did not get pregnant again right away. Tori > Hi all > [quoted text clipped - 12 lines] > Ps. My nursery will be done in Dr.Seuss, So much paint work to do on > the walls >I am not an expert on this but I would wait a while to put up a nursery. >It seems like it would just be a negative reminder especialy if you did not >get pregnant again right away. > > Tori I agree to an extent, as if I were in that situation of the OP (which I never have been) I *think* that's how I would feel. I don't know, though, and each person deals with each situation differently. Also, when you're nicely pg and have nothing to do during the day, or are just itching to shake the nesting off, I found that doing the baby's room was one thing that helped. >> Hi all >> [quoted text clipped - 12 lines] >> Ps. My nursery will be done in Dr.Seuss, So much paint work to do on >> the walls >I am not an expert on this but I would wait a while to put up a nursery. >It seems like it would just be a negative reminder especialy if you did not >get pregnant again right away. I can see where the OP is coming from. Particularly as she wants to do something fairly complicated, and certainly I wouldn't have been capable of doing complicated painting during pregnancy, to say nothing of worrying about paint fumes. (the best I did was to repaint the cot and put teddy stencils on) But my concern would be what if you don't become pregnant? I can think of people who conceived one easily, and spent years on trying subsequently. I know it's relatively rare to do that, and only the OP knows how easily they conceived the first time, but I think I'd feel it was, I suppose, almost like tempting fate to do that. To have a ready nursery and no baby on the horizon to put in, would probably render a room either unenterable, or would become a sort of shrine where I collected little bits for"if" I became pregnant. Debbie > Hi all > [quoted text clipped - 12 lines] > Ps. My nursery will be done in Dr.Seuss, So much paint work to do on > the walls So sorry for your loss bonita. I have never been in your situation, so i dont know what i'd do. But i think you know what will make you feel better, and nobody should tell another or judge another on how they choose to greive. Never is there a more personal thing. just consdier how will you feel if it takes a few months or even years to fall pregnant again? I guess a few dr suess pictures might be the least of your worries! here's hoping it all happens quickly for you, and you have a full term pregnancy and deliver a healthy baby, or two! chris > Hi all > [quoted text clipped - 12 lines] > Ps. My nursery will be done in Dr.Seuss, So much paint work to do on > the walls I'm sorry for the loss of your twins. I had only partly finished my son's nursery when he was stillborn at 29 weeks, and his cot, while paid for privately, had not been delivered and assembled. I chose to finish the room for several reasons - to me, it had already ceased to be the spare room, and I thought of it already as being my son's room. For me, it became a place to sit and remember and grieve in quiet. The cot had been bought from a family friend at a good price, and I didn't want to get rid of it...so I assembled it after his death, strange as it sounds. It occurred to me that I would have a hard time emotionally preparing a nursery during a subsequent pregnancy, as I spent a lot of that pregnancy fearing that my daughter would also be stillborn. Really, though...until I became pregnant again I thought of the room as belonging to my son. Had I imagined it belonging to a future, yet-to-be-conceived child, it would have made the wait while trying to conceive that much more painful. And I only had to wait six months...it can take much, much longer. Do what feels right for you, and keep in mind that it's difficult to predict how you will feel after months of trying to conceive, or when you are pregnant, or when you deliver a future child. Pregnancy after loss can be an emotional minefield. Good luck to you, and do whatever feels right.  SignatureAmy Mum to Carlos born sleeping 20/11/02, & Ana born screaming 30/06/04 http://www.freewebs.com/carlos2002/ http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/a/ana%5Fj%5F2004/ My blog: http://spaces.msn.com/members/querer-hijo-querer-hija/ |
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