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Family Forum / Pregnancy / Pregnancy / June 2008Mourning my mother in first pregnancy
It was one day before Mother's day I when I discovered that I am pregnant. My mother was the first person to know the happy news after my husband. We live apart since I left my parents home and country 8 years ago and got married 5 years ago to continue living abroad. My mother was extremely happy since I was the only girl in our family and the married one. She was planning to come and stay with us before the delivery period and also for a while afterwards to help me with the baby and I was flying from happiness because it will be the first time she can stay with us for a long period since she is usually living alone ( my father passed away 13 years ago and my 2 brothers are living abroad like myself) We always talk through the phone and more on a daily bases since I got the happy news. However 3 weeks ago I got the most terrible news in my life. I got the news of her sudden death while visiting my sick auntie in a foreign country. My Mother died... My most loving angel, friend and goddess left without I have the chance to say goodbye... It is hard to believe what happened and to accept that I will never see her again... I got the most beautiful gift becoming pregnant but I lost the most precious love I had forever: My mother. I am very sorry for your loss. The loss of a parent is very very hard, especially when you didn't get to say goodbye, and when it was unexpected. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Thank you for your thoughts... >I am very sorry for your loss. The loss of a parent is very very hard, >especially when you didn't get to say goodbye, and when it was >unexpected. My thoughts and prayers are with you. > It was one day before Mother's day I when I discovered that I am pregnant. > My mother was the first person to know the happy news after my husband. [quoted text clipped - 27 lines] > love I had forever: > My mother. So sorry for your loss. I would feel devastated to lose my mother. I believe when a loved one dies they live on in the little ones. hugs... Marie I hope your belief is true.....thank you for your message >> It was one day before Mother's day I when I discovered that I am pregnant. >> My mother was the first person to know the happy news after my husband. [quoted text clipped - 6 lines] >hugs... >Marie > It was one day before Mother's day I when I discovered that I am pregnant. > My mother was the first person to know the happy news after my husband. [quoted text clipped - 19 lines] > love I had forever: > My mother. I too lost my Mother, it was sudden (car accident) and I grieved her terribley during my pregnancy and even more after my baby was born. It hurts so bad that my Mom isnt here to see my little angel and isnt here to help me and share this time in my life. She passed 5 years ago and I went through the whole grieving process over again, but this time even worse. On top of it all my baby was colic, has severe acid reflux and severe protein allergies. I knew nothing about babies and I would pray and beg my Mom from above for her help. I felt like she wasnt listening or either was laughing at me for all the hell I put her through and I was now getting back (haha). I spoke with a medium before I had my baby and she said that when I go into labor (let me remind you that all this woman knew about me was my name (it was a phone reading)and knew I was pregnant, with a girl and was dead on about alot of other things too) that I will smell my Mom's perfume. Sure enough February 14th (the date that she gave me too), I went into labor and I smelled cucumber melon spray from Bath & Body Works. I was thinking in my head if I put in a new Glades plug in or something but then I remembered all the medium had told me and realized that I was smelling my Mom - that is what she used to put on everyday. It was so weird, it was if she was standing right next to me. Anyway, I plan on getting another reading soon. I really need to be reassured that she is here with me and sharing these times with me in some way. Maybe she can help you too. She is unbelievable and was so right on about EVERYTHING! Her name is RobynZ and her website is www.robynz.net. There will never be a day that will go by that you dont miss your Mom and wish she was here with you but she wants you to be happy and she will watch over you and your new baby. I know it is so so so so hard and I struggle with this everyday but I know speaking with the medium again will help me and reassure me. I really need that right now. There is no love or care in the world like a Mother's and now you will love and care for your child the same way and tell stories to your little one about his/her Grandma and keep her memory alive. That is all we can do. Dear Jiimy, I am sorry about your lost. we do share the same sadness... I hope that you are feeling better now. I am still in the shock. Of course I would give everything to communicate with my dear mother. But I do think that if there is a way it will not be through a medium. yes they may be right about some things but who knows... We should be strong and remember the best of our mothers and let their good memory live with us. I hope your baby is in good health now. Thank you for your message. >> It was one day before Mother's day I when I discovered that I am pregnant. >> My mother was the first person to know the happy news after my husband. [quoted text clipped - 36 lines] >little one about his/her Grandma and keep her memory alive. That is >all we can do. Dear Jiimy, I am sorry about your lost. we do share the same sadness... I hope that you are feeling better now. I am still in the shock. Of course I would give everything to communicate with my dear mother. But I do think that if there is a way it will not be through a medium. yes they may be right about some things but who knows... We should be strong and remember the best of our mothers and let their good memory live with us. I hope your baby is in good health now. Thank you for your message. >> It was one day before Mother's day I when I discovered that I am pregnant. >> My mother was the first person to know the happy news after my husband. [quoted text clipped - 36 lines] >little one about his/her Grandma and keep her memory alive. That is >all we can do. Dear Jiimy, I am sorry about your lost. we do share the same sadness... I hope that you are feeling better now. I am still in the shock. Of course I would give everything to communicate with my dear mother. But I do think that if there is a way it will not be through a medium. yes they may be right about some things but who knows... We should be strong and remember the best of our mothers and let their good memory live with us. I hope your baby is in good health now. Thank you for your message. >> It was one day before Mother's day I when I discovered that I am pregnant. >> My mother was the first person to know the happy news after my husband. [quoted text clipped - 36 lines] >little one about his/her Grandma and keep her memory alive. That is >all we can do. > It was one day before Mother's day I when I discovered that I am pregnant. > My mother was the first person to know the happy news after my husband. [quoted text clipped - 19 lines] > love I had forever: > My mother. Shiro, I am so sorry for your great loss and the grief that you continue to experience. There is something about becoming pregnant that really makes your relationship with your mother all the more precious, regardless of the type of relationship you had before becoming pregnant. Are you getting adequate support through other family/friends to help you with this loss and the pregnancy? Dear Rebecca, Thank you for your message. yes you are right of course, even that I was living away from my mother and I was all the time talking to her on phone, our relationship got stronger when I became pregnant. For me it is the biggest lost ever at this stage of my life and will always be... I live abroad and my brothers in separates countries. Life is not that easy but I am trying to be strong... >> It was one day before Mother's day I when I discovered that I am pregnant. >> My mother was the first person to know the happy news after my husband. [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] >becoming pregnant. Are you getting adequate support through other >family/friends to help you with this loss and the pregnancy? |
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