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Family Forum / Pregnancy / Pregnancy / December 2005Does everyone have mixed feelings?
I got a positive test result yesterday. I didn't really need the test since I already knew. I've been through this before and the symptoms were unmistakable. I wanted the test to be positive but as soon as I saw the "+" sign appear, I freaked. "Oh my god, I'm not ready for this." was the thought that kept going through my head. Before we conceived, I had a whole list of reasons why I wanted my kids close together (our ages being the biggest factor), now I have a whole list of reasons why I should have waited. But I think that's just me, I always second guess the big decisions. The good news is that DD gave me a big smile when I told her but she's only 10 months old so she had no idea what I was saying. I think she just recognized the word baby. Mandy > I got a positive test result yesterday. I didn't really need the test > since I already knew. I've been through this before and the symptoms [quoted text clipped - 9 lines] > only 10 months old so she had no idea what I was saying. I think she > just recognized the word baby. That is totally normal and happened with both of my first pregnancies even though both were very much planned and anticipated. I had a bit of anxiety like this off and on through out the pregnancies but it all evaporated once they were born. It returned again when they were 2 and 5, lol. Oddly this last pregnancy came about 6 months earlier then planned so it was planned but not intentional if you see what I mean. I haven't had any mixed feelings at all this time. I think it is just the 'I did this on purpose' bit of anxiety when we actually conceive on purpose :-)  SignatureNikki Hunter 4/99 Luke 4/01 Thing One and Thing Two :-) EDD 4/06 > Oddly this last pregnancy came about 6 months earlier then planned so it was > planned but not intentional if you see what I mean. I haven't had any mixed > feelings at all this time. I think it is just the 'I did this on purpose' > bit of anxiety when we actually conceive on purpose :-) That's kinda what happened to me. My first baby was conceived the first time we had unprotected sex. I figured that lightening couldn't strike twice could it. I wanted the second baby to be conceived in early spring. So since 6 months is the average, I should start trying right now, right? Wrong! Pretty flawed logic isn't it? I've gotten pregnant every single time I've had unprotected sex. I know where I got my extreme fertility, my grandma used the rhythm birth control method and had 14 kids! LOL Mandy > > Oddly this last pregnancy came about 6 months earlier then planned so it was > > planned but not intentional if you see what I mean. I haven't had any mixed [quoted text clipped - 9 lines] > got my extreme fertility, my grandma used the rhythm birth control > method and had 14 kids! LOL That's funny. We've never had unprotected sex without a resulting pregnancy either. And my grandmother had 15 kids. And every time I got pregnant, even though I thought I was open to the possibility, I had very mixed feelings. It's just such a final thing, once you realize you're pregnant. It's one thing to think about it as a possibility, but one that test comes out positive, you know there's no going back, and suddenly you think about all the difficulties of having a baby. But I found that those feelings lessened with time (though they still crop up here and there), and by the time that baby is born, you won't have anything but adoration for him/her. I was downright depressed when I got pregnant with DD (my second pregnancy). I just did not feel ready at all, and then of course, I worried that my antipathy and depression would negatively affect her. Needless to say, those feelings are all a distant memory now. So I think it's good to acknowledge what you feel and to even wallow in it a little. And then you can start to enjoy the idea of welcoming a new little person into your life. Take care, -- Jodi SAHM to Oliver (4 years), Arwen (2 years), and "bubbles" (edd May 5, 2006) > > > Oddly this last pregnancy came about 6 months earlier then planned so it > was [quoted text clipped - 15 lines] > That's funny. We've never had unprotected sex without a resulting pregnancy > either. And my grandmother had 15 kids. Sigh...my grandmother had 14 births and my mom 8, but it took a hell of a lot of unprotected sex to get this one.... Are you having twins???? cara >>I got a positive test result yesterday. I didn't really need the test >>since I already knew. I've been through this before and the symptoms [quoted text clipped - 19 lines] > feelings at all this time. I think it is just the 'I did this on purpose' > bit of anxiety when we actually conceive on purpose :-) > Are you having twins???? > > cara Hey, don't scare me!!!! I'm already very sick considering I'm only a few weeks pregnant. I had no morning sickness in my last pregnancy until week 14 and even then it was mild. I'm trying to figure out why I'm so symptomatic this time. Twins definately run in my family. Can you imagine, I'd have 3 kids until 2 years old. My brother did it and I don't know how they survived. In fact, there was a while when I didn't think they were going to survive. Mandy (having single embryo thoughts) >>Are you having twins???? >> [quoted text clipped - 9 lines] > > Mandy (having single embryo thoughts) Ha ha, don't worry about that just yet (although my sister had triplets....so it CAN happen)...but I was wondering if Nikki is having twins since her sig says 'thing one and thing two' due in april...I never saw an announcement to that effect so now I'm curious :) cara Yes, Nikki is having twins. SignatureJamie Earth Angels: Taylor Marlys, 1/3/03 -- Who's got the Christmas spirit, singing all day long, "You put one foot in front of the other, and soon you'll be walking out the doooo-oooo-ooor! Addison Grace, 9/30/04 -- My Little Ham, who smiles so big her eyes disappear and she says, "Cheese" on command. Although it sounds more like "eeeeeesssshhh"! Check out the family! -- www.MyFamily.com, User ID: Clarkguest1, Password: Guest Become a member for free - go to Add Member to set up your own User ID and Password >>>Are you having twins???? >>> [quoted text clipped - 16 lines] > > cara > Yes, Nikki is having twins. Ah, ok, thanks for the clarification - it had me curious, I must've missed that announcement somewhere. Wow, twins. cara > > Are you having twins???? > > [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > until week 14 and even then it was mild. I'm trying to figure out why > I'm so symptomatic this time. Twins definately run in my family. The same thing happened to me with this pregnancy: morning sickness despite not having had it with my first, twins running in my family, and being spooked by people saying "maybe it's twins." But there's just one in there, and my morning sickness went away. SignatureSara accompanied by TK, number two, due in April of 2006 Quoting, for users of Google Groups: http://groups.google.com/support/bin/answer.py?answer=14213&topic=250 > Are you having twins???? I've been away. I see Jamie clarified but yes! :-D. We found out at our 20 week ultrasound. It was quite a shock as we didn't expect it at all. I didn't think there were any twins on either side of the family but over the holidays I discovered that one of my grandpa's had sisters that were twins and I have a cousin that had twins. SignatureNikki Hunter 4/99 Luke 4/01 Thing One and Thing Two :-) EDD 4/06 I'm not sure how predictive your grandfather's sisters or your cousins would be, for you to have twins. It also depends on what type of twins they are. My understanding is that if they are fraternal twins, where you popped out two eggs, then any fraternal twins on your or your mother's side of the family would be predictive, but not your husbands side of the family. On the other hand, if they are identical, then there is no predicting that, as it's random, regardless of how many sets of identical twins are on either side of the family. At least that's how I understand it. Not being a twin, nor having any twins in our family, I could be wrong. SignatureJamie Earth Angels: Taylor Marlys, 1/3/03 -- Who's got the Christmas spirit, singing all day long, "You put one foot in front of the other, and soon you'll be walking out the doooo-oooo-ooor! Addison Grace, 9/30/04 -- My Little Ham, who smiles so big her eyes disappear and she says, "Cheese" on command. Although it sounds more like "eeeeeesssshhh"! Check out the family! -- www.MyFamily.com, User ID: Clarkguest1, Password: Guest Become a member for free - go to Add Member to set up your own User ID and Password >> Are you having twins???? > [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > the holidays I discovered that one of my grandpa's had sisters that were > twins and I have a cousin that had twins. > I'm not sure how predictive your grandfather's sisters or your > cousins would be, for you to have twins. It also depends on what [quoted text clipped - 6 lines] > either side of the family. At least that's how I understand it. Not > being a twin, nor having any twins in our family, I could be wrong. That is the way I understand it too. The grandpa in question is on my mom's side but it isn't known if they are identical or not. I don't think the cousin's are identical? I'll have to ask. There is a huge age difference between us and we never see each other but I do see my aunt/uncle from time to time. That cousin is male though so it probably doesn't make much difference. I think it is wife that would get the credit of heredity not him. It is kind of interesting stuff. They can't say for sure but I was told mine had a 'good chance' of being identical so that tosses the heredity thing out the window anyway ;-) SignatureNikki Hunter 4/99 Luke 4/01 Thing One and Thing Two :-) EDD 4/06 Ah! I feel I'm reading my own post from 3 1/2 months ago. I got pregnant when DD was 9 months old, and I did get the same feeling that I wasn't ready. Same thing: we wanted our kids close together, but not *that* close. The first conception took 6 months, so we weren't too careful... and bingo! One time unprotected and "hello baby". If it makes you feel any better, I still have mixed feelings about this current pregnancy. It's too late to go back, but sometimes I wonder if it was such a good idea to have babies so close in age, or if it's the right time for me - I feel my body never fully recovered from the first pregnancy, DD won't have much time alone, etc... And things with DH are sometimes difficult with a now-one-year-old in the house sucking in all of our energies. All in all, when I think rationally, it makes sense. If I let my emotions creep in unawares, the I start secong-guessing myself. SignatureIsabelle Mom to Mlle C, Nov. 27, 2004 Expecting Little One on June 7, 2006 >I got a positive test result yesterday. I didn't really need the test > since I already knew. I've been through this before and the symptoms [quoted text clipped - 11 lines] > > Mandy > If it makes you feel any better, I still have mixed feelings about this > current pregnancy. It's too late to go back, but sometimes I wonder if it [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > difficult with a now-one-year-old in the house sucking in all of our > energies. I know exactly what you mean about your body not fully recovering. I'm in the same boat. I still wake up every morning with a killer back ache. Let's not even talk about the baby weight that I still have. I spent the majority of my last pregnancy on bed rest, I really hope that doesn't happen this time because I really need to stretch and exercise this time. How am I going to lift DD1 when I have a big belly? I guess we'll figure it. I'm sure glad she's on the verge of walking! > All in all, when I think rationally, it makes sense. If I let my emotions > creep in unawares, the I start secong-guessing myself. I'm glad it's the holidays. I have something else to focus on. Mandy Ah! I feel I'm reading my own post from 3 1/2 months ago. I got pregnant when DD was 9 months old, and I did get the same feeling that I wasn't ready. Same thing: we wanted our kids close together, but not *that* close. The first conception took 6 months, so we weren't too careful... and bingo! One time unprotected and "hello baby". If it makes you feel any better, I still have mixed feelings about this current pregnancy. It's too late to go back, but sometimes I wonder if it was such a good idea to have babies so close in age, or if it's the right time for me - I feel my body never fully recovered from the first pregnancy, DD won't have much time alone, etc... And things with DH are sometimes difficult with a now-one-year-old in the house sucking in all of our energies. All in all, when I think rationally, it makes sense. If I let my emotions creep in unawares, the I start secong-guessing myself. SignatureIsabelle Mom to Mlle C, Nov. 27, 2004 Expecting Little One on June 7, 2006 >I got a positive test result yesterday. I didn't really need the test > since I already knew. I've been through this before and the symptoms [quoted text clipped - 11 lines] > > Mandy |
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