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Family Forum / Pregnancy / Pregnancy / February 2006Updating you all
Hi Not posted on my situation for some time so here is a brief update for you. Well its still going really well and I think social services are realising we are not the monsters we have been made to be by the other lot we dealt with back 6 years ago. Contact is going well on the whole, last week on Friday after I had come away from Joanna I broke down in the car because I felt my daughter didnt really know who I was (she probably is a bit confussed) and I felt like a total failure of a mum, I felt DH was doing it all naturally and I was just well crap, My DH reasurred me that he think I am a wonderful Mum and that under the circumstances I am bound to feel a bit shitty at times because I am being watched and it is really hard and stressfull but that I am a good Mum and dealing with Joanna well, this helped me quite a lot and after a good rant and a few tears I felt much better. Today I met with my daughter again and I felt it went much better and Joanna was keeping her eye both on me and her daddy. We were also told by the contact worker that contact is about to be increased so that is also wonderful news becuase it means that things must be going well. We have got a few meetings this week, got to meet with solicitor tommorow, then we have a LAC meeting Wednesday then in court Friday. So watch this space!!!!!!!! > Hi > [quoted text clipped - 22 lines] > have > a LAC meeting Wednesday then in court Friday. So watch this space!!!!!!!! April, I'm so glad to hear that all things considered, you, DH, and baby Joanna are doing good. I really am hoping nothing but the best for all 3 of you, and the best is clearly your family to be whole, complete and all together. I see this whole situation as totally crazy. It's stupid. You are NOT a bad mother! Don't think that, and don't let anyone tell you that you are. As far as Joanna not knowing you, don't worry. I read somewhere that a mother's voice is something that a child always knows. I believe this was at a birthmother's meeting I had gone to, and the subject of the evening was concerns about our own children not knowing who we are, even though we are biologically mother and child. I remember something about even years later, in the back of minds, our mother's voice is something that we don't ever forget. I have no idea where this info came from, nor do I know if it's true, and I very well could have been dreaming up something insane, but I remember a discussion about it. Your baby girl knows you. She will continue to know you and will always know you. Same goes for her daddy. You have a special bond with her, even still, that no one else can have with her from long before she was born. I am definitely hoping and praying for you and your family. I see that you are doing a really good job just being yourself and proving to those who were doubting and saying you were a bad mother that you really are a good person and mom! Good luck, and hoping for the best. It is so great to hear from you. I came in just to write a message asking about you. You are amazing and wonderful and I am so impressed by you. Joanna knows her mom. Like xkatx said, your voice is just about as much a part of her as your heart beat. I did read reserach once about how a mothers heart beat was more reassuring to babies than any other sound,...not just any mother's or anyone's, but her mom's,...Yours April. Soon she will be with you and you will be able to keep sharing those things with her in a constant basis. Big Hugs! Kath > It is so great to hear from you. I came in just to write a message > asking about you. You are amazing and wonderful and I am so impressed [quoted text clipped - 7 lines] > Big Hugs! > Kath I cant wait until she is back with us for good, I have a big celebration party planned for her and we will have all family and friends there. Its been a hard week because on top of Joanna, my husband found out this week that his mum has been diagonosed with having early stages of dementia and then top top that off a few days later the family dog (mum in laws) which has been in the family for many years was PTS on Firday. So a lot to deal with for sure. I feel sorry for Stewarts step-dad though being told that his wife has dementia, then dog dying and also being told that other dog has a heart problem, all within one week. Ah well im going on one now..... Signing off thanks Kath for the warm words. > April, > I'm so glad to hear that all things considered, you, DH, and baby Joanna are [quoted text clipped - 20 lines] > > Thanks Kat > Hi > [quoted text clipped - 22 lines] > have > a LAC meeting Wednesday then in court Friday. So watch this space!!!!!!!! Hope it goes well on Wednasday. Good news that contact is increasing. Can you see her at the weekend at all? Debbie > Hope it goes well on Wednasday. > Good news that contact is increasing. Can you see her at the weekend at all? > Debbie Hi Debbie Still unable to visit her at weekends due to SS not having the resorces which is annoying, we do phone foster carer up at the weekend though to make sure Joanna is doing well. I dont think its going to be long before we get a LOT more contact with her and then hopefully contact can also move to the home which will be a nicer more natural environment. April |
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