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Family Forum / Parenting / Single Parents / August 2006Poll
Does your definition of "success" include remarrying? > Does your definition of "success" include remarrying? No, my personal definitition of "success" includes that my children grow up happy and healthy and knowing that I have done my best, as far as parenting goes. Getting married in the first place (as I've never been married at all) does not have anything to do with success. I'd be happy enough with a successful relationship and partner for life, with or without marriage. As far as success goes, I would say that marriage or remarrying does not fall in that category, although I do see it as fairly important, I would definitely not measure my own personal success - as far as family, friends, life or career goes! > Does your definition of "success" include remarrying? Not necessarily - marital status has little to do with measures of success. > Does your definition of "success" include remarrying? Marriage .....what the social and religious taught expectations of what every little boy and girls successful lifes dream should be. Hmmm good question....... Does it have a large and overwhelming measure in how I see myself as a success in life......nope. There came a time in my life that being married became less and less of any importance to me. I find I need the companionship and security of a relationship and to share lifes successes with another person on a daily basis. I myself am very happy without being married. The fact that if I were to want to be married, and that it is illegal in the state I live in, irks my craw for sure, but thats another thread in another group :-) Bev > Does your definition of "success" include remarrying? no Thanks, folks! My definition of success has nothing to do with marriage too... if my children grow up to become good people (proactive family and community members), then I'll feel successful as a mother; although, some days, that they lived through the day was a measure of success. If I finish this educational program, then I'll feel some success... it's been a difficult program. I've never thought of marriage as "success" and as time goes by, I see it as less of an option for me, by my choice. > Does your definition of "success" include remarrying? nope... um... has someone asked?... ;-) z >> Does your definition of "success" include remarrying? > [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > >z It just struck me, after reading the booker's post, that people measure success differently and that in doing so, some may feel that single parents are less than successful in life. So... I asked. :-) Howya doing babe? > Howya doing babe? moi?... I'm good, well to be more accurate I'm [a] Hot... Bl**dy Hot (but you knew that already.... uh, no wait, I dont mean like that) Pathetic aint it, temperature gets more than 5 degrees above shivering and the whole damn country grinds to a slow halt... [b] Old, very very very old Son (16 yrs old) phones up and asked the question.... (have you had the question yet?) ... [J] Dad?... can E*** stay over tonight? [Me] uh... wheres she gonna sleep son?... (naive or what?) [J] with me dad.... and the first thought to travel thru my brain at this point??? 'Jeeze, i really am getting old' ;-) z >> Howya doing babe? > [quoted text clipped - 18 lines] > >and the first thought to travel thru my brain at this point??? That he's straight? Usually, if you answer, "Sure... we'll go pick her up so that I can talk to her parents and make sure it's ok with them" ends the conversation. >'Jeeze, i really am getting old' > >;-) > >z Don't you just love teens? :-) Glad things are normal there. Sorry about your recent heart attack. LOL > Does your definition of "success" include remarrying? Marrying at all, let along 'remarrying' doesn't even factor into whether or not I think I'm successful in life. Finding someone to be with maybe but I don't have to be married to be happy, in fact I think it would make me unhappy. Christine Would getting remarried make me successful? No, I'm already successful... a 28 yo with a solid growing career as a professional programmer, even with only a college degree, being a single father with his own house, a published writer, member of my city's Symphony Orchestra Chorus, among other things, already qualifies me as successful (yes, I guess I'm boasting a bit). But, dad gum, it sure would be nice to have someone to share all of this with. What good is success if you're lonely to the point of tears on a nightly basis? c'est la vie mike >> Does your definition of "success" include remarrying? > [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > > Christine oops... I meant without a college degree, with only a HS diploma (::ahem::). but the point is the same... anyways... > Would getting remarried make me successful? No, I'm already successful... > a 28 yo with a solid growing career as a professional programmer, even [quoted text clipped - 19 lines] >> >> Christine >oops... I meant without a college degree, with only a HS diploma (::ahem::). >but the point is the same... anyways... Yep... same point. You sure have a lot going for you. It's easy to let the everyday stuff get in the way of taking stock of who you are and how you got there. To me, success is having something to look forward to learning, doing, and seeing. >>oops... I meant without a college degree, with only a HS diploma >>(::ahem::). [quoted text clipped - 6 lines] > To me, success is having something to look forward to learning, doing, > and seeing. And I was defining success as being able to sit back and feel like you did a good job. (in whatever) >>>oops... I meant without a college degree, with only a HS diploma >>>(::ahem::). [quoted text clipped - 11 lines] > >(in whatever) :-) That sounds a lot more relaxing! >>>>oops... I meant without a college degree, with only a HS diploma >>>>(::ahem::). [quoted text clipped - 14 lines] > > :-) That sounds a lot more relaxing! Works pretty well - and it can apply to anything from a project at work that is successfully completed, to a crocheting project that turns out looking like the pattern picture, to getting that closet FINALLY cleaned out, to having your child write a thank you note without you nagging them :-) >>>>>oops... I meant without a college degree, with only a HS diploma >>>>>(::ahem::). [quoted text clipped - 19 lines] >like the pattern picture, to getting that closet FINALLY cleaned out, to >having your child write a thank you note without you nagging them :-) :-) You crochet! Me too! When time permits, of course. >>>>>>oops... I meant without a college degree, with only a HS diploma >>>>>>(::ahem::). [quoted text clipped - 23 lines] > > :-) You crochet! Me too! When time permits, of course. Go to craftster.org - it's a wonderful crafting community - and in addition to all the crafts, they do 'swaps' - my daughter just sent her finished project to the other person, even though it didn't have to "have to be sent" until the 15th And maybe some day I"ll finish this crocheted jacket/top - started it July 4, up to the 2nd sleeve. >> :-) You crochet! Me too! When time permits, of course. > [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] >And maybe some day I"ll finish this crocheted jacket/top - started it July >4, up to the 2nd sleeve. I haven't done anything that ambitious in a long time. I have a filet crochet block of a flamingo started - a gift for my sister's housewarming. The website was down... I'll check back with them in a couple of days though. > "Moon Shyne" the following was posted in blue dry erase marker: > [quoted text clipped - 16 lines] > The website was down... I'll check back with them in a couple of days > though. always thought of you two as being *Very* crotchety... oh wait!... thats not right... heh ;-) z >> "Moon Shyne" the following was posted in blue dry erase marker: >> [quoted text clipped - 24 lines] > >z LOL... and today, that may well be true. End of summer vacation for the kids. I'm ready for them to go back to school.... not looking forward to all the driving though. Our gas/petrol prices have risen so quickly that my pocketbook can't keep up. >>> "Moon Shyne" the following was posted in blue dry erase marker: >>> [quoted text clipped - 30 lines] > school.... not looking forward to all the driving though. Our gas/petrol > prices have risen so quickly that my pocketbook can't keep up. Back to school! Oh lucky you. I have to wait till the end of the month. Crafty folks here. I sort of make jewelry (haven't lately) and I just invested in my own sewing machine. I use to sew many moons ago. So I am going to make some curtains once I find the material I want. I was able to finally hem some pants too! Wow... clothes that actually fit. (Yeah, my reply here is a bit delayed.... sorry. :/) >>>> "Moon Shyne" the following was posted in blue dry erase marker: >>>> [quoted text clipped - 39 lines] > > (Yeah, my reply here is a bit delayed.... sorry. :/) You might be interested in www.craftster.org It's a website for "rebel crafters" - and it's a lot of fun. >>>>> "Moon Shyne" the following was posted in blue dry erase marker: >>>>> [quoted text clipped - 44 lines] > > It's a website for "rebel crafters" - and it's a lot of fun. Oh that looks like fun. Will definitely be checking that website out regular. Thanks. |
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