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Family Forum / Parenting / Single Parents / December 2004HO! HO! HO!
Hi All, let me be the first to say Merry Christmas to everyone as I may not have much time later. Have bought some great presents this year. In the past Freddie's present has disapeared to his mothers house for months on end so to get my own back (or ensure that it stays here this year, I have bought him a drum kit! Ho Ho Ho! Because Freddie's shoes always come back from her place encrusted in mud on the tops and in dog turd underneath, I have bought her a shoeshine kit, Ho Ho Ho! Love to all, Dennis >so to get my own back (or >ensure that it stays here this year, I have bought him a drum kit! Ho Ho Ho! And this is a gift you *want* to stay at your house ( :- 0 My son has cleaned out the kitty litter boxes for months and saved up to my a Ninento DS. I couldn't convince him to wait till after xmas to buy it so he'll have it this week. But for Christmas he's getting a piece of paper saying he still has the money he saved for it cuz the DS is from me ;-) HO HO HO Joelle The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page - St Augustine Joelle That's a generous idea but I am wondering if he'll miss out on the satisfaction of earning it himself?... Karen >That's a generous idea but I am wondering if he'll miss out on the >satisfaction of earning it himself?... Not that I asked your opinion - but duh - he DID earn it himself, regardless if I give him another $100 or not. That's why I let him do it instead of saying he could have it for christmas. Geesh and you don't think you are hypercritical fo EVERYTHING I say or do, here you are criticizing my damn presents for my kids. You are a piece of work. Joelle The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page - St Augustine Joelle >Not that I asked your opinion You posted it to Usenet ..... If ya can't stand the heat, get outa the internet! And Season's Greetings :) steveb -- *But when a long train of abuses and usurpations, pursuing invariably the same Object evinces a design to reduce them under absolute Despotism, it is their right, it is their duty, to throw off such Government, and to provide new Guards for their future security* Declaration of Independence In Congress, July 4th, 1776 > >That's a generous idea but I am wondering if he'll miss out on the > >satisfaction of earning it himself?... [quoted text clipped - 10 lines] > Augustine > Joelle We did the exact same thing with my son, he saved his money for an Xbox, and purchased it at the end of November. My husband, however, simply could not wait and helped out by upgrading to the Crystal version, plus buying another game. I know better than to let those two go shopping by themselves. Our boy is very proud of himself that he saved for it, and understands that the upgrading is part of his Christmas present. None of this took away from the fact that he saved enough himself. Lisa >Our boy is very proud of himself that he saved for it, and understands that >the upgrading is part of his Christmas present Seems like a win win- he gets to save and earn something himself, you get to give him an even bigger surprise -everyone is happy. Wish I sort of thought that's what the holdays were for... Joelle The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page - St Augustine Joelle > >Our boy is very proud of himself that he saved for it, and understands that > >the upgrading is part of his Christmas present > > Seems like a win win- he gets to save and earn something himself, you get to > give him an even bigger surprise -everyone is happy. Definately. Teaching kids these days the value of a buck and earning what you want isn't that easy it seems. Compared to his best friend, I have a juniorslaveboy. We made sure to praise him a great deal, and his dimples come out. > Wish I sort of thought that's what the holdays were for... Yeah well, my dearest darling was shopping without me again yesterday. Lisa > Joelle > The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page - St > Augustine > Joelle whoopsie, sorry! I think you're hypersensitive to everything I say. No offense. Karen >That's a generous idea but I am wondering if he'll miss out on the >satisfaction of earning it himself?... > >Karen I don't think so... I think he'll appreciate the generosity of the gift more because he knows what it's like to earn that amount of money. My parents did a similar thing when I was a teen. I had been saving for skiis, poles, and boots and there was a big sale but I only had a little over half. My parents chipped in the rest for my christmas/birthday present. I'll never forget... and it was nearly 30 years ago. 'Kate > That's a generous idea but I am wondering if he'll miss out on the > satisfaction of earning it himself?... > > Karen From what I read...he DID earn it himself. Now he just has the extra money in his pocket to buy games to go with it. I think that's a great idea Joelle! Betsy I guess that's very true. I am just thinking about when I was a kid and saved for a long time every penny that I earned to buy something that I wanted very much, it ended up being very prized and cherished possession. I almost think that special feeling of pride of accomplishing that goal may be derailed if it's bought by Mom at the last minute. I think I would let him buy the item himself and buy something else for a gift. But, I'm probably wrong and he'll think it's way cool and that his Mom is way generous! Just tossing out another idea on the subject. Karen >I guess that's very true. > [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] >derailed if it's bought by Mom at the last minute. I think I would let >him buy the item himself and buy something else for a gift. Sure.. that's understandable and possible. >But, I'm probably wrong and he'll think it's way cool and that his Mom >is way generous! > >Just tossing out another idea on the subject. It's good to hear it and have to defend one's point of view. It is possible that it could turn out badly but given that Joelle is a very conscientious parent who knows the kids pretty well, I kinda think she's got it right WRT to her child. I'm also glad you posted the alternate POV because what if it does backfire on someone else? Then what? Happy Holidays 'Kate Happy Holidays to you, also. I'm glad with the google reader that I can read your posts now! Karen >Happy Holidays to you, also. I'm glad with the google reader that I can >read your posts now! > >Karen :-) Just hard for the rest of us who have to guess who you're replying to! thanks. 'Kate >I guess that's very true. > [quoted text clipped - 11 lines] > > Karen When I read it, I thought it was a wonderful idea, something he'll remember forever because although he saved up and worked hard for it, she's acknowledging that and rewarding him on top of it. Christine "Joelle" < wrote in message > >so to get my own back (or >>ensure that it stays here this year, I have bought him a drum kit! Ho Ho >>Ho! > > And this is a gift you *want* to stay at your house ( :- 0 Yeah! Rock an roll around the Christmas tree this year! > My son has cleaned out the kitty litter boxes for months and saved up to > my a [quoted text clipped - 6 lines] > > HO HO HO A nict touch. I often go for the 50/50 approach. When they have saved up half for something expensive that they really want, I will help out with the rest. Dennis > Hi All, let me be the first to say Merry Christmas to everyone as I may not > have much time later. [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] > > Love to all, Dennis I'm like the approach, except that my sister uses it too! We returned home from her house yesterday with a gift for my son that was specifically to come home, oh, and the batteries are nicely wrapped on top of the package. I'm afraid. Lisa I love your Christmas spirit! Karen I love your Christmas spirit! Karen |
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