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Family Forum / Parenting / Step Parents / May 2005Help Dealing With grown Step kids
I am in a relationship witha man who 17yrs older then me and he has 3grown children 18 22 27 they act like they hate me and they havent even got to know me I just found out yesterday they already chased away my boyfriends other girlfriends what to do I love my boyfriend very much my own kids love him dearly >I am in a relationship witha man who 17yrs older then me and he has 3grown >children 18 22 27 they act like they hate me and they havent even got to >know me I just found out yesterday they already chased away my boyfriends >other girlfriends what to do I love my boyfriend very much my own kids >love him dearly i've been down a similar road. You can't make people like you that don't. And you have to try not to see it as you personally, but rather the "role" you are in with relation to their father. I started seeing my now-husband in 1998. Just this past week, the last "kid" left the nest at 24. Now we're just us two, and i think it's kind of like a new beginning (my kids are grown as well). There have been times where it has been so trying that i've nearly left, but i'm glad now that i waited it out. >>I am in a relationship witha man who 17yrs older then me and he has 3grown >>children 18 22 27 they act like they hate me and they havent even got to [quoted text clipped - 9 lines] > as well). There have been times where it has been so trying that i've nearly > left, but i'm glad now that i waited it out. Threadjack: WOW ML! He's gone? He's REALLY gone? Yippee for you! Cheryl > Threadjack: WOW ML! He's gone? He's REALLY gone? Yippee for you! Yeah. What she said. :) Jess > > i've been down a similar road. You can't make people like you that don't. > > And you have to try not to see it as you personally, but rather the "role" you [quoted text clipped - 7 lines] > > Cheryl I know! I was thinking it... but I thought perhaps I was getting posters confused. Whoooohooooo! With hope and heart, Kathleen >Threadjack: WOW ML! He's gone? He's REALLY gone? Yippee for you! Yes, he's moved into his sister's condo since she moved to an apartment closer to her work. He still has a lot of stuff here to come back and pick up, but he and his friends aren't here hanging out anymore. :-) >>Threadjack: WOW ML! He's gone? He's REALLY gone? Yippee for you! > > Yes, he's moved into his sister's condo since she moved to an > apartment closer to her work. He still has a lot of stuff here to > come back and pick up, but he and his friends aren't here hanging out > anymore. :-) Hopefully, you either got all the keys or changed the locks, so you have real privacy and he has to knock first! And wooo.. no more ex-wife walking in either, huh?.. gawd the nerve.  SignatureCal~ calliope 123 at gmail dot com >Hopefully, you either got all the keys or changed the locks, so you have >real privacy and he has to knock first! And wooo.. no more ex-wife >walking in either, huh?.. gawd the nerve. Not the keys yet since they still have stuff to move, but geez, i feel like a little girl with a new doll-house. :-) I can't do much in my current health, but i have done quite a bit of rearranging in the livingroom already. :-) Just did up the diningroom table with a romantic setting for TWO. I bought a book about "clutter" becuz there is a lot of stuff that needs to be done in that regard, and i think i'll leave it on the coffee table (which, btw, is so shiney you could see your reflection in it now!) It will be a long slow project to clean up, but at least now that the upstairs rooms are unoccupied, i can move (or ask someone to move) clutter from the living/dining area to up there where nobody will have to see it, at least until everyone is "ready" to deal with their own junk. We slept with the bedroom door OPEN, and i feel a sense of calm like i haven't felt in years. >>Hopefully, you either got all the keys or changed the locks, so you have >>real privacy and he has to knock first! And wooo.. no more ex-wife [quoted text clipped - 15 lines] > We slept with the bedroom door OPEN, and i feel a sense of calm like i haven't > felt in years. I bet you slept GREAT! Congratulations ML. You've waited a long time for this and I'm glad it has finally come to be a reality for you. Cheryl > i feel a sense of calm like i haven't > felt in years. I am *so* so happy for you, ML. Truly this is wonderful. SignatureCal~ calliope 123 at gmail dot com >> i feel a sense of calm like i haven't >> felt in years. > >I am *so* so happy for you, ML. Truly this is wonderful. :-) > Yes, he's moved into his sister's condo since she moved to an apartment > closer to her work. He still has a lot of stuff here to come back and > pick up, but he and his friends aren't here hanging out anymore. :-) Wow, it finally happened! Congrats. |
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