Family Forum / Parenting / Parenting / July 2004

I am the parent of a 19 yr. old son that basically dropped out of high
school with a special diploma a year ago,works part time and nets
$400/month.

I'm trying to motivate him to look for a full time job, but he only has a
bicycle for transportation(excuse on his part). However, my wife and I
agreed to pick him up and/or drop him off from work when necessary(e.g.
foul weather).

He states that he's comfortable with the money he makes and has what he
perceives as enough cash to get along at home.
When not working, he sleeps 10-11 hrs. a day and with his free time; he
watches TV, plays with freinds and surfs the net. He does no chores when
asked or he'll only do them when "he" is ready. Regardless, an argument
occurs 90% of the time once something is asked of him (e.g.clear
dishwasher, mow lawn, clean his bathroom and room,put his stuff away,
etc...).My wife and I eventually do them ourselves to avoid a massive
argument with him and ultimate anxiety.

I want to make things a little uncomfortable for him(less free cash)in
attempts to get him used to full time work. I also want him to recognize
the value of money and the need to save as well. I also would like him to
understand that he'll pay R&B, especially since he's giving nothing of
himself back. He pays for nothing at home with the exception of his
clothing and he's not saving any money for a car or motorcycle as well.

Please give me some suggestions in reference to how I should approach this
with him, how much money or what percentage should I charge him and any
other senario(s)you might suggest to address the issues. We don't need his
money and are thinking of setting up a savings account for him on the
QT.Good start out of the box when he leaves home:IF HE EVER WILL.

Thanks in advance for your help.

Earl