Family Forum / Parenting / Twins / March 2004

Hello. how is everyone? Its been a long time since I posted here but
this is a post Ive been holding back on. My twns are almost 7 and they
dont even know my family. Heres the rundown. I have a younger sister who
up until about  a few years ago lived on foodstamps and low income
housing while she was going to college. I sent her money every month and
give her a old datsun to drive(which she is quick to say how bad she
hated)  My wife bought her 3 kids clothes and we kept them many times.
Now she makes big bucks, drives a 60000 dollar car and has never had
anything to do with me or my kids, has never kept or bought them one
thing. They donet even know her when they see her. I recently asked to
come visit her and she offered to put me and the kids up in a motel. Gee
cant u just feel the love! Any one remember the show named Dynasty? Well
my sister could play Alexis  in real lfe. Im now having some serious
medical problems and am one notch away from bankruptacy and she is
travelig around the world and I sure could use some help. Did not even
get a phone call when I had heart attack recently to see how I was doing
and she only lives 2 hour away in Valdosta, Georgia. Now my mother. she
lived on my property in  a small mobile uptill she recently moved. In 6
years she did not keep my twins ONE TIME nor offered to. She would come
home and let the blinds down and lock the doors. I used to get s tired
of people telling me how lucky I was to have someone to watch my kids so
close. No one belived me when I told tthem it never happened. She has
moved and not one time called and talked to my kids , she always calls
after 10 pm when she knows they are asleep. I  can just feel the love!!
She has made the comment that :why doest deanna (MIL) come watch them!
My wifes mother maybe a hard to get along with but by gosh she would be
here if we needed her and she lives 4 hours away and all my family lives
no more than a hour away.Now my dad, he was a abusive monster and left
when I was 12 yo. Now 40 years later and open heart surgery he has done
a complete turn about face. calls everyday and is always buying kids
something.Im proud to say that between my wifes severe post pardem
depression that Ive done a big part by ourselves. My Dr. really beliees
that the last 7 years of stress ( my daughter did not sleep thru nite
till 3 years old!!!) has really put a whipping on my cardivas system.Ive
got at least 10 Aunts who live within 30 minutes that Ive not heard from
but once i the last decade. During the first 2 years I could have used
help DESPERATELY when my daughter would stay up all nite every nite!!!
Then from 2 years to 3 would sleep in 30 minute intervals. GRRR Im sorry
for the negative and long post but the last 7 years have not been a pie
eating contest! My kids did not come home from the hospital and sleep
thru the nite
, I lost my job 2 months after they were born and sure would have liked
to had a break just once in awhile. My wife would set in a dark room and
cry for hours. All you folks that had the wonderful births and not so
fussy babies do you know how lucky/blessed you were. Just did not work
that way for me. Now dont get me wrong, my kids are the most IMPORTANT
thing in the world to me and would give my life for them. I guess that
Im angry at myself that I cant do the things with my kids that I would
like to do because of finances and poor health.  I should have had them
at 20 not 40 when I was in good shape both financially and health. Sorry
did not mean to get offtopic from my post but it sorta ties in together.

Thanks for the rant, been wanting to get off my chest

Danny

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