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Family Forum / Parenting / Twins / May 2004two questions about age "milestones"
Hi Everyone, I wonder if you could share your personal experience as to what age the babies start to notice and interact with each other. I have been told that it is very cute to see, and I am still waiting for it to happen. It would be great to have the video camera ready by then. They are currently four and a half months old and still don't bother much with each other. On a side note, at what age could you start to easily tell your identicals apart? We are still struggling with this and have to rely on nail polish on the toe and different clothing to put them in. It is embarrassing, because we feel as their parents we should know "automatically". When does this get easier?  SignatureTerri & Rob Parents to: Colton (11-29-00) Aimee and Kylie (12-22-03) Visit us at: http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/a/aimee_kylie_colton/ I distinctly remember my now 9 year olds (going on 14), realizing there was someone to interact (I can't say play with), at 7 months. Sometime around 6 they tolerated each other but really to notice that there was someone to play with, my books say 7 months. As far as identical - can't help there as I have b/g twins. Good luck. Shirley Kathleen and Chris 1/95 > Hi Everyone, > [quoted text clipped - 18 lines] > Visit us at: > http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/a/aimee_kylie_colton/ In message news:pp7lc.6210$3Q4.41594@news20.bellglobal.com on 02 May 2004, Terri and Rob said to all at alt.parenting.twins-triplets > I wonder if you could share your personal experience as to what age the > babies start to notice and interact with each other. I have been told > that it is very cute to see, and I am still waiting for it to happen. > It would be great to have the video camera ready by then. They are > currently four and a half months old and still don't bother much with > each other. I think it was roughly after 6 months that Henry began laughing at something Ella was doing (at least that is what it seemed like to us!) Once it begins to happen, it might slowly grow into great entertainment (for them and for you!) Ella was sick for a couple days last week and couldn't go to daycare, and whenever we would put Henry in the car to take him to daycare he would peer over to Ella's seat to see if she was there. It is awesome to take a ride in the car with both of them and to hear them both giggling at some inside joke that only they are in on! BTW, they are 11 months old now. > On a side note, at what age could you start to easily tell your > identicals apart? We are still struggling with this and have to rely on > nail polish on the toe and different clothing to put them in. It is > embarrassing, because we feel as their parents we should know > "automatically". When does this get easier? Obviously, I don't have identicals, but certainly would think that you should not be embarassed about wanting to make sure you could properly identify your children! They are *identical* after all, right? I look forward to hearing others answers to this question. Good luck and have fun! They're only young once! SignatureI'm Jonathan Wolgamuth and I approved this message. "People...they're the worst." This is one of those things that varies quite a bit, so I would make sure to always have the camera battery charged. My two started responding to each other at about 2 months or so (one month adjusted). Julie Mom to Erica & Chris, 07/97 > Hi Everyone, > [quoted text clipped - 10 lines] > embarrassing, because we feel as their parents we should know > "automatically". When does this get easier? >I wonder if you could share your personal experience as to what age the >babies start to notice and interact with each other. I have been told >that it is very cute to see, and I am still waiting for it to happen. It was around 2-3 months of age. They would notice each each other, smile and make noises if we held them up to each other. It was pretty funny to watch. :) However, if they were on the floor together they didn't seem to notice each other very much, until they were older. >On a side note, at what age could you start to easily tell your >identicals apart? We are still struggling with this and have to rely on > nail polish on the toe and different clothing to put them in Can't help you with that as mine are fraternal, but if it makes you feel any better I mixed up my children a couple times when they were a few days old. I kept nail polish on Madison's toe for 2 weeks because I was so afraid of mixing them up. The older they got the less they looked alike. Andrea twin girls-Jordan & Madison 3/22/00 Mine were at least 5 and possibly 7 months (3.5 and 5.5, adj.). And it was a fairly brief thing -- one day the boys in particular just went nuts playing with each other's hand(?) -- happily the nanny got it on tape so I'll be able to take a look in years to come to refresh the details (haven't had time yet :-). But that was more or less a one-off and it was months more before they really cared about each other again -- I guess the next occasion was about the time they learned to climb on each other and bite :-) (15 months). So I guess some babies interact cute and young, and others, like mine, just go straight to sibling rivalry at a later stage. PS The rivalry is still with us, leading to separate first grade classes, swimming lessons, etc etc -- just a warning in case. --Janet Elliot, Hanna, Connor (10/21/96) and Holly (4/4/01) > Hi Everyone, > [quoted text clipped - 10 lines] > embarrassing, because we feel as their parents we should know > "automatically". When does this get easier? Sibling rivalry has peaked around here and its driving me nuts!!! A & A are at each other's throats constantly-- teasing (I have the red sucker and you have a purple one), insulting (I draw, write, jump, skip, etc. better than you), wrestling, slapping, kicking... I could go on and on. Jenna even got in on it tonight-- she caught Allyson sitting on my lap on the floor and she crawled over and tried with all her little might to push Allyson off of me. She finally resorted to hair-pulling which sent Allyson to the other side of the room. I thought it was just the almost-5-year-old-girl syndrome until that episode. How do you all deal with the rivalry? A & A don't fight at school (they are in the same preschool class 3 half-days a week) but are fighting before we even get in the car to come home. (They will be in different classes in K-- will that help?) Last night, I told them that they were no longer allowed to be in the same room together. So, the evening was somewhat peaceful, but they were right back at it this morning... Do I just have to deal-- I was an only child so this is all new to me. -Cindy (mom to Ashlyn and Allyson 6/99 and Jenna 6/03) >Mine were at least 5 and possibly 7 months (3.5 and 5.5, adj.). And it was >a fairly brief thing -- one day the boys in particular just went nuts [quoted text clipped - 30 lines] >> embarrassing, because we feel as their parents we should know >> "automatically". When does this get easier? I think putting them in separate classes next year will make it at least a little better. I don't experience sibling rivalry within my own children yet, but I am a teacher and have had experience with older twins. It is usually recommended by my principal that twins be put into separate classes because that way they get a break from each other. Otherwise they are pretty much together 24-7 which is bound to instill conflict in anyone. As for your current situation, I have no answers, since I have not experienced it in my own children yet. SignatureTerri & Rob Colton (11-29-00) Aimee and Kylie (12-22-03) Visit us at: http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/a/aimee_kylie_colton/ My 9 year olds (almost 9.5) are at not only separate classes but schools and sibling rivalry is a matter of life. We try to get each involved in something else but there is still the "STOP IT" yelled at an volume of 10 and "you are a worm" (their vocabulary doesn't grow much either), and many other things. We usually say knock it off, but in a car or close together they can either be their worst enemies or best friends. Bribing works but not all the time. Short of telling them "I don't want to hear that" and using the arbitration table if the problem is huge, I believe it's just being brothers and sisters. My pediatrician said that he and his twin could not go down a hall without slugging each other to see how hard they could hit the other one. Generally mom never caught them but he said they lived and are the best of friends (now in their 60's). So I believe it a fact of life, without letting them go too far and get too hurtful. Apologize if they have to after something really gross is said "you eat green unmentionable". Anyhow, they even pick up more fun things in school. Good luck. Shirley > I think putting them in separate classes next year will make it at least > a little better. I don't experience sibling rivalry within my own [quoted text clipped - 11 lines] > Visit us at: > http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/a/aimee_kylie_colton/ > My 9 year olds (almost 9.5) are at not only separate classes but schools and > sibling rivalry is a matter of life. We are working hard to separate ours more -- E has taken up tae kwon do again, which all three used to do, but unless they beg neither of the others will be permitted to invade this choice. And of course three separate first grade classes. And this summer I have them enrolled in three separate swimming lessons even though they are all basically at the same level. I *know* that separating them does help. But still the rivalry (in the form of "what's he got that I didn't and what am I missing out on?") remains thick around here. My mother sends them comics/magazines from time to time and last Friday I gave each boy their favorite out of the package and then watched in disbelief as they spent the next 15 minutes ignoring their own but trying to shove their jealous noses into the *other's* magazine to see what they were missing out on. We try to get each involved in > something else but there is still the "STOP IT" yelled at an volume of 10 > and "you are a worm" (their vocabulary doesn't grow much either), and many > other things. Don't forget "I'm telling Mom!!!!!!!!!!!!!" shrieked at high pitch. > We usually say knock it off, but in a car or close together > they can either be their worst enemies or best friends. Ain't that the truth -- one day they're punching each other in the back seat, the next they are giggling over (terrible) knock knock jokes. > Bribing works but > not all the time. Maybe I'm cheap, but mostly I rely on threats, not promises. :-) > Short of telling them "I don't want to hear that" and > using the arbitration table if the problem is huge, I believe it's just > being brothers and sisters. I'm glad to hear someone else has been trying the "I don't want to hear that" line. Mine frequently descends these days into "... so just go away", too. Or time out to calm down in their rooms. Or anything else I can think of that STOPS the noise FAST .... I really hope it's all "normal" or I've got some maniacs on my hands. But judging by the agreement on this ng I feel somewhat reassured that it must be ok. <snip> >Anyhow, they even pick up more fun things in school. Another terrible truth. Since entering first grade / public school system I just cannot *believe* the burp/f**t/snot garbage that has suddenly appeared and gets recirculated at every meal (why only at mealtimes, btw???????). Coupled with "you stink" or "your breath stinks" or "I don't want to sit next to X, (s)he stinks" or ..... Maybe being one of three girls I was more sheltered than I realized! --Janet Elliot, Hanna, Connor (10/21/96) and Holly (4/4/01) > Shirley "multimom4" <multimom4@comcast.nospam.net> wrote in message news:FNTnc.22513> > >Anyhow, they even pick up more fun things in school. > [quoted text clipped - 5 lines] > > Maybe being one of three girls I was more sheltered than I realized! Hey, Janet - I'm one of three girls, too. As for the disgusting stuff that started coming up after they started school, we simply remind them that they're welcome to talk like that any time they like as long as they go to the bathroom to do so. That was all it took to kill the fun. Julie Mom to Erica & Chris, 07/97 > As for the disgusting stuff that started coming up after they started > school, we simply remind them that they're welcome to talk like that any [quoted text clipped - 3 lines] > Julie > Mom to Erica & Chris, 07/97 One of my girlfriends here just told me about that yesterday -- I can't **believe** I never thought of it. I think I see light approaching fast at the end of this tunnel. :-) Heh heh. Thanks! --Janet Elliot, Hanna, Connor (10/21/96) Holly (4/4/01) >Do I just have to >deal-- I was an only child so this is all new to me. I'm right there with ya Cindy. :) My girls have been going at it with each other too and lately they've added the "My picture/hair/doll/_____(fill in the blank) is prettier than yours" etc., etc. It drives me up the wall! Madison is more physical with the abuse to her sister and Jordan is more verbal with it. Since I was an only child I don't know if it's just normal sibling rivalry or if my kids are just hateful, horrible little creatures. :{ Their hatefulness seems to be confined to each other, which I'm thankful for. At least they don't treat their friends that way. I do time-out for the behavior all the time it seems like. I've also tried to let them know how it makes the other one feel when they're mean to each other, but that's not working either. I wish I could give them more one-on-one time, but I don't have the opportunity to do that much. Sorry I'm not much help. I just wanted to commiserate with you. :) Andrea twin girls-Madison & Jordan 3/22/00 Andrea-- I'm glad to hear someone else is going through this with me. Like you, I have one that is more physical and the other who is just meaner with the things she says to her sister. My girls' hatefulness seems to be confined to each other and me for the most part. I'm trying really hard to get "the mouth" thing under control-- If they talk to me like this at four, the teen years really scare me!! That has actually gotten a bit better since I've gotten "tougher" on it. But, the hatefulness that goes on between them seems neverending no matter what I do. One-on-one time is tough around here also-- especially with Jenna added to the mix. It makes me feel guilty sometimes, but then I think how it would be so nice to have a sibling as an adult-- and just hope they understand and appreciate my efforts someday... -Cindy (mom to Ashlyn and Allyson 6/99 and Jenna 6/03) >>Do I just have to >>deal-- I was an only child so this is all new to me. [quoted text clipped - 18 lines] >twin girls-Madison & Jordan >3/22/00 > Hi Everyone, > [quoted text clipped - 10 lines] > embarrassing, because we feel as their parents we should know > "automatically". When does this get easier? I have a picture of the kids when they were just learning to raise themselves off their bellies with their arms. They are face to face and are squealing with delight as they look at each other. I forget what age it was but that was the first as I recall. Jack We thought that the babies seems to pretty much IGNORE one another for the longest while... I mean that they had just about NOTHING to do with one another, (maybe until they started walking? or even after that?). We figured that they'd had close enough contact for too long (in the womb). They did play a little bit in the tub (mostly stealing toys from one another), but when they got mobile, and started to talk a little bit, they really began to interact. Interesting... Grandmom Gwen |
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