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Hi everyone, Just wondering if anyone has one twin who is more advanced than the other? I have 3 year old twins who are due to start preschool next year and one has a disability and will probably need two years of preschool, my problem is do I hold back my other twin so that the "slower" twin can catch up or do I just let her go ahead and be in a diferent year level? Any feed back would be appreciated. Cheri Mum to Sean and Jasmine April 2002 Expecting #3 June they are different kids and should be treated differently. this is true with all kids. we had that experience in our preschool and the mom sent the child who was ready for kindergarten, on to kindergarten. the other one went to preschool an additional year. they could probably benefit from having their own friends, etc. and the one who repeats preschool will probably enjoy the familiarity of the teacher and setting. JMHO. pam >Hi everyone, > [quoted text clipped - 8 lines] >Mum to Sean and Jasmine April 2002 >Expecting #3 June The twins have been the same until last year when Chris was placed on a medicine for his epilepsy that made his mind mush. It took a year of intervention, a year to get him removed from the medicine, and a year for us to get him admitted to a Special Ed class. The child went from all A's in second grade to failing in 4th. Now that he is in SE classes his grades are improving by leaps and bounds as well as the medicine removed and another in it's place. The point being that the twins are totally different, Kathleen has always been a "box" kid, she makes notes for herself, follows lists etc., and is an Honor Roll student, Chris though Honor roll before the escalation of the seizures, he never was a "box" kid, has always been the laid back kid, very artsy, in fact, his art teacher sees a great deal of promise in his gift and he takes weekend adult art classes. Anyhow, it takes a bit of talking to him when his sister gets awards, but he can outdraw her and his swimming skills at his swim club is awesome as well. All kids need to know that they have gifts and talents that do not match each other. It helps a bit with the competition between the twins, as well as helps (IMO), with their "feel good" about themselves and not be an offshoot of their twin. Good luck Shirley Chris and Kathleen 1/95 > they are different kids and should be treated differently. this is > true with all kids. we had that experience in our preschool and the [quoted text clipped - 22 lines] >>Mum to Sean and Jasmine April 2002 >>Expecting #3 June They are two different people. Treat them as appropriate for each individual. You may have to take some extra time to explain what is going on to your children but it will be worth it. Cindy Wells (whose mother followed that exact principle with raising my sister and I after watching one set of twins in junior high or so and another in college) Additional thoughts. You don't have to decide now. After they are in preschool for a few months, talk to their teachers (and any special therapist/s that are involved). You'll need to consider if they have separation issues and if those are severe enough to interfere with them learning in different environments. There are advantages to letting them be on different schedules. Many teachers and students will not connect them as twins and the comparisons may be reduced. (Unfortunately, you may get other comparisons instead - my grandmother was a year younger than her sister and always got the "why aren't you as good a student as your sister". It sounded really annoying since Great-aunt Anne had a very different personality than my grandmother. I have no idea if Anne got compared to their other sisters.) Cindy Wells > Hi everyone, > [quoted text clipped - 4 lines] > just let her go ahead and be in a diferent year level? Any feed back would > be appreciated. I do. One of my twins is profoundly gifted, the other has learning difficulties. One is a couple of years ahead of the other in school. When they were in 3rd grade, one skipped a year, then skipped another year in 5th grade. He's now in 9th grade and is 12. His sister is in 7th grade, and she's one of the youngest in her class as in our area many people redshirt their kids for a year, starting K at 6 instead of 5. It has worked out very well for us, keeps the competition to a minimum, and because they attend different schools, allows them individuality that they may not have had otherwise. Marjorie > Cheri > Mum to Sean and Jasmine April 2002 > Expecting #3 June |
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