Family Forum

....the medications are working, and your thought processes are becoming
more rational, but no matter how rationally you think, you can still find no
purpose or worth in your life, and any realistic look at the future shows
only more of the same, probably worsening with age, ...

Lately there has been a lot of talk here about controlling your partner.
This is kind of on the same line of thought.
My husband and I have been getting into some arguments about certain
decisions with the kids.

He's not spending much time with me;
just goes through the necessary courtesies
and then runs to his computer at his apt.; makes me
feel kind of insecure; i guess that's my

I get a lot of flak (probably a decent portion
of it deserved) for being CONTROLLING, wanting
things done well, worrying that things WON'T be
done well, etc.

Alright, I do usually lurk.  I think the last time I posted was probably a
good year and a half to 2 years ago, but I have been lurking around.
I am very familiar with the regulars and how they offer advice, and I know
it's normally straight to the point with their honest opinions ...

Hmmmm, what goes on at work can be very important
to a man's self-esteem.  He may have been crushed
by a higher authority.  He may have just taken it out
on the most convenient and meek target -- his wife.

I don't understand this part (from the about.com website, on "Grieving and
Healing"):
"Some people try to avoid grieving pain by being busy or traveling; others
try to minimize grieving their loss by idealizing the loved one or refusing

I had the urge to say something like
this to you earlier and I stopped myself, then the passage came up in
my 'beliefnet' quotes I receive daily
and thought perhaps you too will come to see the link?

It's like cutting off your own balls and feeding them
to your cat.
Marriage is controlled by evil feminazis to turn men

I found a good website that has advice and information on how to save
marriage.  I know that this is a divorce forum, but I'm sure there are
those who are interested in saving marriage instead of moving forward
with their divorce.

The male mid-life crisis has been getting a bad rap since the day the
term was coined. I'm here to tell you that for me, it's been the
greatest trip of my life! And I have a sneaking suspicion I'm not
alone. Sure, there are many heartbroken, torn apart women out there

A new website has been established by some of the ASD
regulars, with a forum that we are using to avoid the spam
and cross-posts which has overrun this newsgroup of late.
...  The location is... http://asdweb.ning.com/

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I miss the old intelligible discussions of the deja era. What happened
when google took over this news net? It is no longer a discussion
forum ... Does anyone know a newsgroup in which people actually engage
is discussion?

Having worked with single parent families in my work as a behavior
specialist, I have seen the importance of divorced parents doing their
best to relate for the kids' sake.  Often this requires family
therapy.  When one person is totally out of the picture for whatever