Re: Therapists

But you don't seem to be working them out at all.  You come and say things
like this, and then you come and say you've reached agreement of some kind,
and then you come and say this again.  I agree with his doctors.  You are
going to HAVE to learn to accept that woman in his life, because he WON'T
give her up no matter what. It's not right, it's not fair, but it's your
reality.  It's my reality now too.

Xorra

I don't have anyone else to talk to.  I like the internet as it
enables
me to work out the problems in my life.  It's free and there are
people
who can continue a discussion indefinitely.

Erin

Do you never, ever get tired of coming back and repeating the same things
over and over again?  You aren't likely to get different answers.

Xorra

In this case, it seems obvious to me that the therapist should refer
the
patient to a psychiatrist or doctor first, and the tell him to come
back
for the "issues".

Erin

Typically what they do has a lot to do with what their client wants.

The question would be, what is your husband trying to get out of
therapy?

My opinion is that therapy is most likely to be successful when
clients go into the therapuetic relationship with some specific things
they are asking for help from their therapist for.  That doesn't mean
that the list of things they want help with may not change and grow.

What it does mean is that therapists can't magically make you perfect.
The best they can do is help you work on what _you_ want to work on.

I don't know what therapists do, but he's certainly changed since
spending thousands of dollars on them --
sicker, more depressed, amnesic, apathetic and very
antisocial.  Good work!

Erin