Family Forum / Marriage / Divorce / January 2005

you just don't want anything, anymore?
(just talking to myself...)

Long rant first, for those who are interested in the background...
I awoke yesterday morning to the wife telling me "I'm filing." Again.
This time for real.  Long story short, I can't live with someone who
is passive aggressive, irresponsible, lies to herself and to me and

I wonder if anyone knows of any research or articles on the effect that a
change of name after separation or divorce has on children? My boys are 8
and 11, and my wife and I have recently separated. We have OK agreed
financial and child care arrangements, which involve me seeing ...

the boot is on the other foot.
my 17 yo son is here for the weekend - its *her* time with him
but he wants to see me before I go off for 3 weeks.
So he bought a paper and there was in the paper an article

Earlier I posted a slightly edited version of an actual newspaper story.
This is the actual story:
http://www.dailybreeze.com/news/articles/1195497.html
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Hey Everybody...
I have a question about custody for you if you don't mind.
My wife and I have decided to separate, and ultimately divorce. We both have
agreed that it's really time to move on. We care for each, but we really

I am if sad of see as REASON :mental cruelty at the place of to hide the
true adulterous reason.
It is terrible after 29 years of marriage a monster as Claude who live still
on this planet .He have to do much of badddddddd before of leave ..he do

Feeling a little introspective at the moment, so I'll ask a question.
Are you happy with who you are?
I certainly have my share of fears and issues and stubborn traits, and
so on, but overall, yeah, I'm pretty happy with who I am.  I would

Talked with an acquaintance yesterday - she has been on the receiving
end of my kind of situation not once but twice.  I asked her what I
could do to make this as easy as possible on my ex and everyone around
me.  I loved her response:

My g/f finally went to court and got her divorce signed. Evidently the ex
thought he could turn in any kind of paperwork. It only took three trips to
court to get things agreed on.
Divorces in NY take too long.

I originally posted this in alt.support.marriage, but one of my replies
there was suggesting a post here too for different ideas for if a
reconciliation isn't possible...  Some of the folks at 'ASM' say that
me leaving the house because she says isn't a good idea, neither is the

I looked at some old pictures from 2000 when I got my first digital
camera, exwife and the kids and I.  Lots of different weekend trips,
camping trip, normal day to day life.  Its sad.  I feel Sad and angry.
Its hard for my to emotionally reconcile the conflicting feelings I

My apologies, but I didn't find a FAQ for this group.
After 8 years of marriage, 10 years together, my wife has decided last
month that she wants to separate.
Things have been cold but civil for years now.  Fortunately, there's

Hey DaKitty, are you gonna answer this or not!!    Convince me I'm only
seeing half the picture here (I hope)....
Bill in Co. wrote: