Family Forum / Marriage / Divorce / January 2006

Is it possible to have a Legal Separation without actually moving out?
I would like to stay in the marital home (to save on expenses and to be
with the children) but have a legal separation.

I'm the oldest and a senior in high school. I'm going to college next
year but it's going to be a state one since I don't want to burden my
mom any more with this decision.
My dad has been abusive to my mom ever since I was little. I know she

What did you do today? What are your plans for tomorrow?  Normal stuff?
Go   to work? Pick up the kids? Preparing dinner? Maybe a drink in the
bar with some friends, or stay at home with the latest blockbuster
movie? If so, then   you are doing pretty much the same thing as

Ive been lurking a bit, reading various posts about people going
through divorce and the mentally ill, and one statement i keep running
into that bothers me alot :
"So the part of "in sickness and in health" meant nothing to you huh?"

OK here comes the story:
My youngest son, he is now 16 is meeting my ex ( his mother ) once a
week. He usually sleeps there over.
Well it's not every week.

I think I am in serious problem .
I dont know what to do at the moment .
My wife had a baby this month . She was not sure , that baby is mine so
she didnot include my name in the BIRTH certificate of the baby .

PBS is at it again. Don't let this one slip by.
".....America's boys are in trouble. They are the most violent in the
industrialized world. Many are unable to express their emotions. On average,
boys are doing worse in the classroom than they were 10 years ago...."

I could spend the money on a therapist, but I find that strangers with
similar experience are an equally valuable source. Being new to this
board, I expect brutally honest responses that are unaffected by any
judgement about me personally.

I'm starting the process of a divorce with my wife.  Unfortunately, we
found that we couldn't resolve our differences after time and
professional help.  She's an extrovert who feeds off of the energy of
other people.  I'm an introvert who feeds off of alone time and don't

http://mensnewsdaily.com/blog/mentalk/2006/01/fathers-in-extreme-situations-to-b
e.html
Saturday, January 21, 2006
Fathers In Extreme Situations: To be Ghandi or John Brown?
"The Sun Story troublingly lacked details, as did other news accounts, and

Well my STBX filed today...after 6 mos. of mediation etc. she "percieved" me
to need that kind fo motivation.  No worries though.  I'm ready.  She'll get
the same either way...except part of me wants to go for full custody of the
children vs. the shared parenting we have been ...

In WWII, Japan prevented its people from speaking about the war in an
obvious censorship and was enforced by the Tokko (Japanese Thought Police).
It occurred to me that NCP fathers are being censored also. The thought
police are alive and well in the industrialized nations.

After 3 years of a controlling, abusive relationship, I finally got
away from my ex, who was actually married to someone else at the time
of our relationship.  To make a long story short, he would bounce
between me and her for years, leaving me with a 7 year old and her with

Our first court date is coming up.  This is to get spousal maintenance.
Will this just be in a room with a judge, my STBX, his atty., my atty. and
me?  Or will there be a court room full of people going through the same
thing or similar things?  Just curious and would like to ...

      I am getting a divorce and even though I still love my wife with all
my heart I could not be happier. She has agreed to have an uncontested
divorce. The past two weeks have been a living hell. But now things are a
lot better that I have come to understand my wife better. ...